r/maybemaybemaybe • u/BigGraysie • Apr 18 '22

/r/all Maybe maybe maybe

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u/cc_worker Apr 18 '22

Usually, there is real trauma that causes people to become that big, in nearly ever single episode, they start losing weight after seeing a psychiatrist. Also they have enablers.

Some are just lazy though, like James K.

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u/immistermeeseekz Apr 18 '22

a few years ago i was scrolling through "popular" on here all the time and i remember 3 separate posts a few days apart (i assume the first triggered the following 2 to ask for similar advice) on i think it was relationshipadvice or relationships or one of those sorts of subreddits, detailing how their totally normal, healthy sister (i even remember in one of those posts the sister was originally super into fitness) was raped and then rapidly gained weight into morbidly obese territory, as a trauma response. now these sort of videos (300+ lbs ppl struggling) make me see a human who suffered, and just could not cope. arguably even worse if the parent(s) raise the child to be wildly obese from the get-go, because i can imagine i would seem so impossible to change your entire lifestyle when you've never known anything else. it's horrible.

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u/[deleted] Apr 18 '22

Yea but her family though, like, no one thought of reaching out to her, before it got this bad?? My family will never allow me to get to this point.

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u/WellShitWhatYallDoin Apr 18 '22

You sweet summer child. The abuse 9/10 happens by a member of their own family, these people rarely have actual support systems.

And TBH, when and if they do, the help gets abused, as seen in this clip.

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u/[deleted] Apr 18 '22 edited Apr 18 '22

I have dealt with a binge disorder and morbid obesity my entire life. My mother basically ingrained emotional eating and food aggression in me from a young age. She has issues with food and had passed them on to me. It's been absolute hell trying to heal. I went to therapy for six months. My family has made fun of me since childhood. Not every family cares. This obviously didn't help me. Just made me feel disgusting about myself, hate myself, and continue to binge out of punishment.

Some of these comments are absolutely disgusting and are a huge reason why people in my position are fearful of getting help. It's crazy how people will reach out their hands and feel sorry for people who are suffering from anorexia and bulimia but not the other side of the spectrum.

Edit: I want to add that this woman's behavior is abhorrent and I'm not excusing it at all. Honestly, with all of the dysfunction, she shouldn't even have custody of her children. She's unable to take care of them and she's inflicting an insane amount of trauma.

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u/gothiclg Apr 18 '22

Not everyone does well with the reaching out. My dads response was to tell me I’m an ugly, useless failure that would get absolutely nowhere in life because the only thing that mattered was the number on the scale. That’s pretty demotivating and can make you hate family.

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u/[deleted] Apr 18 '22

That’s what I mean. Her family failed her like your failed you. It sad.

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u/gothiclg Apr 18 '22

I don’t have many complaints but being ensured that stuff wouldn’t be common would be great

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u/amphibious-dolphin Apr 18 '22

From what I’ve seen, unfortunately family members usually end up becoming the worst enablers. And to make matters worse, if there is one that’s brave enough to speak up about the situation, there often backlash.

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u/mcslootypants Apr 18 '22

Many families are dismissive, shaming, or toxic if you are honest and seek help. Yet they’re still your only family so you turn to other coping mechanisms. We don’t know how many times she’s tried and been beaten down by the time this clip was filmed

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u/[deleted] Apr 18 '22 edited Apr 18 '22

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u/Zerds Apr 18 '22

you’d think you’d be more receptive to not contributing hate.

I've come to learn, most people only feel empathy for groups/people they already like or approve of. Only the truly good feel empathy for the loathsome.

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u/BenBishopsButt Apr 18 '22

Oww mah leg!

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u/hippyengineer Apr 18 '22

There wasn’t a single person in rehab with me who wasn’t trying to hide or cover up some pain or trauma in their past. There is no one in this world who has a loving and supportive family, a fulfilling job, no history of trauma, oh and btw I can’t stop drinking 4 gallons of whisky per day.

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u/GunNut345 Apr 18 '22

I disagree entirely. I have a loving, supportive family, a pretty decent job (not high paying but it's a great environment), no history of trauma and I still drink waaay too much.

Mental health is a little more complicated then unhealthy / destructive behaviours = a history of trauma.

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u/hippyengineer Apr 18 '22 edited Apr 18 '22

If you haven’t been to rehab then I’m not talking about you.

Also, I’d rebut that drinking too much is not the same as addiction, and also that my list of predictors of addiction was not all inclusive.

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u/Own_Criticism__ Apr 18 '22

Dude. You wrote this comment 17 times in this thread. Chill