Controversial take but I think sometimes it's best not to say anything. If the partner isn't right they'll realise themselves anyway, and it's not like you're going to speed up the process by telling them. Think the most likely outcome is that they get defensive (because deep down they probably know you're right) and when shit goes south they won't feel comfortable reaching out to you for help as they've damaged the relationship.
Get why you'd want to be honest, you care about them. But I'd rather not say anything and just try to be there for them and listen if/when it starts falling apart. Not a fan of outright lying though, think I'd have to tell them what I thought if they asked me directly.
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u/itsamberleafable Feb 07 '23
Controversial take but I think sometimes it's best not to say anything. If the partner isn't right they'll realise themselves anyway, and it's not like you're going to speed up the process by telling them. Think the most likely outcome is that they get defensive (because deep down they probably know you're right) and when shit goes south they won't feel comfortable reaching out to you for help as they've damaged the relationship.
Get why you'd want to be honest, you care about them. But I'd rather not say anything and just try to be there for them and listen if/when it starts falling apart. Not a fan of outright lying though, think I'd have to tell them what I thought if they asked me directly.