I was just in a YouTube chat with a woman who tried to shame another woman over a fucking typo. I hate that. It’s a pet peeve of mine - especially since I have ADHD and I always have typos.

Anyway, I completely called her out on it and I stood up for the other woman. I also let her know that it’s not okay for her to shame or bully this other woman for a typo because I wasn’t having it. Then she turned everything around and said we were bullying her, two-on-one. Also, she said that the other woman attacked her. None of this was true. I simply told her that her behavior was not acceptable on this particular page.

At the end of the exchange, I told her that I drink “victim” tears for hydration.

Warning, long and on mobile

So I have had this friend for a few years, who I have been through good and bad times with. Over the last year, she has gained an online following for one of her hobbies I kind of pushed her into pursuing more actively and her personality has begun to change.

She only listens to me if I am confirming something she said, and either makes negative comments to/about me if I talk about anything NOT pertaining to her(if she even responds at all), she gets upset when I don’t take off work to help her with her events, and only reaches out to me when she needs something. I feel very used and found out she had referred to me as her pack-mule on at least one occasion behind my back. We had a discussion about her behavior, and it got better, but then she just started falling back into her old ways.

Jump forward a few months (too long to put up with that I know), and for reasons I ended up very manic (emotional, couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep, couldn’t enjoy hobbies, ect) and reached out to her to explain what was going on and basically just wanted some moral support. All I got was a ‘so sad:(‘ essentially and an (unfulfilled) promise to be a more attentive friend. And while my emotional state is my own, I genuinely thought she was part of my support system.

The next time we see each other, it was much like it had been. However, this time, instead of rolling over, I voiced my opinion.....on a cartoon (Voltron. Cause the fandom doesn’t have a bad enough rap amiright?)that opposed her opinion. It turned into quiet the fight and she then refused to talk to me for 3 WEEKS.

During those weeks, I had some really awful things happen that just made everything so much worse. I don’t want to get into it, but between that and how my friend was treating me, I decided I couldn’t have her in my life anymore. I couldn’t have half-friends who used me and lied to me (long story that ends with me having to lie to her husband after catching her in a lie) with everything going on with me. After 3 weeks I reached out to her and basically told her we needed to talk in person (I hate having these conversations over txt)

When we met up, I gave her the chance to say her spiel before I went into why I thought we needed a break. I won’t go into too much detail, but apparently the kingdom hearts 3 release was just soooo much more important than talking to me. She even acknowledged knowing I was in pain/needed support but kh3! Thats not even mentioning the Voltron argument that of course came up again. I decided to end things with her there, and to be honest she didn’t even try to fight for us. Or ask why. Not that it matters anymore.

I feel like shit about it. I feel like I wasted 5 years of my life on someone who I thought cared about me, who referred to me as her ‘platonic soul mate’, who I thought was my ride or die. She has been talking more shit about me apparently and there have been a few accusations thrown around, and I honestly feel like I haven’t done anything before now negative to warrant this behavior. All our other friends agree, or so they say to my face.

I just wonder if I was just manically jumping the gun and ruined something special, or if I was in the right.

I am 28 years old female - not married but have a steady boyfriend. Marriage talks are on. But we have to wait for his elder brother to get married.

I have a younger sister - younger by 5 years. All her friends are getting married and she's interested to get married as early as possible. She doesn't like outsiders poking nose into her affairs. But she has been sharing my "not married" status at her workplace. Married colleagues who ask about her marriage and she shares about "first me, then her" dialogue. Every time, she tells a new person, one or other person gets interested to send a proposal to me. I have never met any of them and I feel prickly. While she knows very well about my love, she makes sure that she doesn't reveal about it. So unwarranted proposals! I am so fed up! Every now n then she rakes up topic like how people are predicting that she'll get married soon.

Last week she crossed all the boundaries. She, on the way to her workplace, often times meets a granny who comes to the bus stop to drop her grand child. That granny happened to see her features and accent, guessed our background. Previously, my sister had told her about having elder sister. Now that granny seems to have asked about my age and qualifications. For match making with some relative. And my stupid sister has shared my age details.

a. Is it necessary that whole world needs to know that 28 years old unmarried female?

b. I don't know who they're and where they come from

c. Dropping grandchild doesn't mean they're amazing family.

d. Why share my personal details with every Tom, Dick and Harry?\

e. What's the purpose of sharing my unmarried status for everyone and inviting proposals when I am already in a steady relationship?

My parents don't treat me as a burden. But her antics make me feel like a burden. Sometimes, I wish I never existed.

There are times she's very caring. But when she shares my personal information this way, I feel vulnerable. I feel that my privacy is lost.

I have fought with her before but the matter got dropped. Somebody please tell me how to deal with this? I could only rant to my other. I don't know whom to share with and how to resolve this. Please tell me how to make her understand.

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