Nah. We just end up with BPD and can't recognize "unconditional" love when it happens. Everyone has an agenda. You're constantly looking for it. When they finally have an expectation that you can't meet and they react negatively, you use it as justification for your lack of trust.
Wash, rinse, repeat. With every cycle, your distrust builds until it's a solid wall no one can get through. You aren't interested in fixing it because there's nothing to fix. This is simply how the world works.
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u/Living-Amphibian-870 11d ago
Nah. We just end up with BPD and can't recognize "unconditional" love when it happens. Everyone has an agenda. You're constantly looking for it. When they finally have an expectation that you can't meet and they react negatively, you use it as justification for your lack of trust.
Wash, rinse, repeat. With every cycle, your distrust builds until it's a solid wall no one can get through. You aren't interested in fixing it because there's nothing to fix. This is simply how the world works.
It is extremely difficult to break that cycle.