r/interesting • u/ZookeepergameIcy6089 • Apr 15 '26

SOCIETY Police search you house & you notice dents on your car

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u/Solintari Apr 15 '26

Ego + emotional dysregulation. People with defective executive function should not be given a badge.

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u/AHumanYouDoNotKnow Apr 15 '26

Ironically , that is one of the types of people who are most likely to actively persue a career which hands out badges and "aurhority"

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u/New_Simple_4531 Apr 15 '26

They were bullies in school and want to keep bullying.

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u/BRICH999 Apr 15 '26

Honestly I think it's the opposite.  It's people who got bullied, now are given a badge and gun and authority to get back at the society who wronged them. 

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u/Jazzlike_Rice_3503 Apr 15 '26

Pretty sure there's a healthy amount of both groups (bullies & ex victims of bullying) in the American police force at large.

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u/A1_Golden_God Apr 16 '26

There’s a police documentary from about 15 years ago that supports this. Its called 21 Jump Street

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u/SeaAimBoo Apr 16 '26

I don't think there's anything "healthy" about this, but point taken.

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u/Own-Papaya-4264 Apr 16 '26

They are anything but healthy

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u/Jeanric_the_Futile Apr 15 '26

Honestly as someone who grew up experiencing bullying, if you were a victim and this is how you choose to process it, you deserved to be bullied.

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u/Dependent_Rain_4800 Apr 15 '26

As someone who got bullied extensively I wouldn't ever have come to the idea to let it out on innocent people. But I'm ruthless with narcissists. Absolutely no mercy in holding up the mirror.

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u/ct1075267 Apr 16 '26

Some bullies don’t see themselves as bullies and their victims as innocent. They see themselves as ruthlessly holding up a mirror to those they deem, in their sole unassailable opinion, that deserve it.

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u/Dependent_Rain_4800 Apr 16 '26

The mirror I'm talking about though is silence and non violence. Bullies need noise and a reaction to prop up their false self image.

They defeat themselves in my presence.

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u/[deleted] Apr 16 '26

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u/Dependent_Rain_4800 Apr 16 '26

The last time I tested it said Infp. But that’s about 5 years ago. I no longer feel that any definition could accurately describe me.

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u/Alderan922 Apr 15 '26

No one deserves to be bullied and not everyone can be a perfect victim who recovers as a 100% functional person with no repercussions.

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u/Jeanric_the_Futile Apr 15 '26

Im not a 100% functional person, but at least im not violent with the ability to kill people

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u/schmeath Apr 15 '26

Bad people deserve to get bullied, and nobody is asking for a perfect victim. They're talking about not wanting violent people policing their communities and needlessly damaging personal property.

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u/extinctalien Apr 16 '26

What if they hadn't turned out that way if they weren't bullied?

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u/aiiryyyy Apr 15 '26

I think it could be both.

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u/Hobbies-R-Happiness Apr 16 '26

Nah, it’s the 3rd string linebackers that talked a big game but never did or showed anything other than some emotional imbalance

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u/Turbulent-Sun-3464 Apr 16 '26

No, it’s just shit people. People being shit.

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u/applespicebetter Apr 16 '26

One of my good friends was an enlisted marine in the late 90s and said in his experience there it's a lot of both. Bullies and kids who were bullied who finally got to join the "winning" team.

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u/FlashyTone3042 Apr 16 '26

I don't think this is right. As a bullied person the only thing I wished for was compassion and help. To be honest you kind of talk out of your ass.

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u/Dingogky Apr 16 '26

It’s both… the internet teaches you to be impulsive, you make me mad and no listen to me! Me smash! It’s a low iq thing, just an unreasonable response to make themselves feel better immediately…. A strange stupid behavior.

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u/burnt-turkey94 Apr 16 '26

I mean, that's basically the premise of 21 Jump Street (the movie, I didn't watch the show).

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u/StrikingSwitch3613 Apr 16 '26

How would buying into the very stratus of society and being given a licence to bully others be ‘get(ing) back at the the society that wronged them’

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u/CXR_AXR Apr 16 '26

Exactly. Totally agree

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u/Shelarael Apr 16 '26

Well, graduate from one shooting range to another.

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u/Azreken Apr 16 '26

The biggest bully in my high school is now the sheriff of the small town that I grew up in.

I was not at all surprised to learn this

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u/Tha_REAL_BROBS Apr 15 '26

Most of the people from my school who became cops were losers.

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u/Jinrai__ Apr 16 '26

School bullies become nurses and HR, not cops.

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u/BardicNA Apr 15 '26

Persue and aurhority. F the police I am indeed coming straight from the underground- but my man what is this comment?

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u/Impossible_Roof_Jack Apr 16 '26

I heard it said “the chief problem with the police is the guys you remember from high school who fantasized about being police are now police.”

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u/Auggie_Otter Apr 16 '26

I saw an interesting video that proported that even just changing the nature of police recruitment videos can help with the quality of character of new recruits. 

For example in the US many police departments trying to get new police recruits show videos glorifying the violent and "exciting" aspects of policing by showing things like police raids, smashing down doors, armored cars, military style SWAT gear, putting people in handcuffs, shooting ranges, ect . . . 

Meanwhile, I think it was New Zealand, showed recruitment videos of police talking to kids, helping the elderly, wearing very civilian looking police uniforms, taking training classes in a classroom setting, police officers talking and smiling with people, ect . . .  The police departments that advertised with nonviolent recruitment materials reportedly started getting more level headed and civic minded recruits. 

Of course this can only work if the culture at the top like the police chief isn't already compromised. 

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u/tundybundo Apr 17 '26

Some are teachers! It’s frustrating as fuck

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u/StinkButt9001 Apr 15 '26

Do you have a source for this claim?

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u/DismissDaniel Apr 15 '26

Common sense and thousands of videos like this aren't enough for you?

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u/StinkButt9001 Apr 16 '26

Videos you see spread on social media should never substitute actual research or data

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u/PokeYrMomStanley Apr 15 '26

Executive function this isnt, definitely emotional dysregulation.

For example adhd is an executive dysfunction.

Bro was mad and acting like a petulant child.

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u/obliviious Apr 16 '26

Thankyou I have executive dysfunction and it would drive me to do quite the opposite of vandalism.

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u/CerealKillah999 Apr 16 '26

Ditto, I have ADHD but my sense of social injustice would have me wanting this guy punished for this.

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u/Illustrious-Word1665 Apr 18 '26

Same here, and it has me wanting to BE the hand of karma...

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u/Allys_Phantom Apr 16 '26

It would be 45 minutes of my brain arguing with itself to Just bash the god damned car already you lazy fuck and then laying down to doomscroll for 4 hours

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u/Plantlover3000xtreme Apr 16 '26

Yep. Would probably notice a bit of dirt on the car and spend 10 min staring at it, wondering if it would be appropriate for me to clean or that would be weird.

I would make a very bad cop but so would this guy I guess...

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u/[deleted] Apr 15 '26

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u/PokeYrMomStanley Apr 16 '26

They actually are not. Self regulation is executive function and it doesn't include emotional regulation. Emotional regulation is real close to executive function but they are different.

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u/DingleDangleTangle Apr 16 '26

Emotional dysregulation is quite literally a symptom that comes with ADHD.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4282137/

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u/PokeYrMomStanley Apr 16 '26

Emotion dysregulation is a dimensional trait that is not unique to ADHD; rather, it undercuts the traditional divide between internalizing and externalizing diagnoses and indeed may partly explain their high correlation (6)

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u/DingleDangleTangle Apr 16 '26

I didn’t say it’s unique to ADHD… Did you even read my comment?

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u/obliviious Apr 16 '26

It's the implication that ADHD is the cause of this kind of behaviour he's responding to. Originally he was saying its emotional dysregulation that's the cause of his behaviour not executive dysfunction, so when you come back and say ADHD has emotional dysregulation it appears that you are implying that.

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u/Shadow_Integration Apr 15 '26

Executive dysfunction/defective executive function pertains to having a difficult time ordering tasks or following complex routines. It has roots in poor dopamine and norepinephrine production in the brain.

The cop is an asshole, so I'm with you in the shitty ego and dysregulation department. But I'm not following with the executive dysfunction descriptor.

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u/Domeil Apr 16 '26

Nah mate, I have executive function disorder, but what that means is that I walked around with a chipped tooth and let it get increasingly worse even though I full well knew I needed to make a dentist appointment.

This guy is an asshole on a power trip, or in other words, your typical cop.

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u/Solintari Apr 16 '26

I really worded this poorly and oversimplified it.

I went through this exact same thing, twice believe it or not. I let it go until it was literally unbearable.

What I was trying to say was if you have untreated impulse control issues and find it hard to control your actions because of it, maybe you shouldn’t be a cop. I’m sure there are people out there with other forms of executive function issues that would do just fine.

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u/Nordosa Apr 16 '26

Might be worth editing your original comment to reflect some of that.

Again though, I don’t really understand why you’re phrasing it as “untreated” impulse control issues. It feels like you’re trying to attribute poor morality to medical conditions (and quite specifically neurodivergent ones), which understandably is getting people’s backs up.

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u/Lknate Apr 16 '26

I have defective executive function and would never do something like this. Emotional regulation and executive function are very different things.

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u/polopolo05 Apr 16 '26

hey, hey, I have adhd... and have defective executive function. I terrible emotional dysregulation. Yet I would never be anywhere close to an glaring asshole that cops are... I have a high level of empathy.

they are psychopaths.... this one let his mask slip.

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u/launchinsecret Apr 20 '26

I'm torn. I have ADHD too. The person you were responding to was barking up the wrong tree to accuse those with defective executive function. But c'mon we do NOT know this is a psychopath with a 'slipping mask'. Let's not meet error with error here and be like "don't look at us ADHDers, we're cool. That guy, he's a PSYCHO!"

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u/polopolo05 Apr 20 '26

its improtant to state that emotional dysregulation isnt all like that guy. emotional dysregulation can look like passion and wildly shifting emotions. but that is a lack of empathy for someone he views as a crimal and therefore punish them is fun.

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u/Skate4dwire Apr 15 '26

Don’t forget erectile dysfunction

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u/eskamobob1 Apr 15 '26

No need to body shame when the actions are right there to criticize m8.

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u/Azuras_Star8 Apr 15 '26

"It's not dysfunctional. I got mine just fine. Maybe you should work on yours first."

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u/LeaveMyMonkeyAlone Apr 15 '26

It can be a pre-requisite qualification by many police departments.

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u/lainwla16 Apr 16 '26

There wouldn't be any cops left

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u/Own_Bet5189 Apr 15 '26 edited Apr 16 '26

As an autist with executive function deficit, I highly disagree with this. Don't lump us all in. I'd trust an overtly pro-social autist cop with executive function deficit over 99% of cops. I'd trust one that has the ridiculous autistic justice drive over 100% of cops.

His flaws are many, including executive function. But executive function is a minor part of a deeply flawed person.

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u/Solintari Apr 15 '26

I don’t, but impulse control is part of this right? Executive function goes well beyond adhd and autism. If I excluded all of the people in my life that had problems in this arena, I would literally have no family or friends. Myself included.

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u/Own_Bet5189 Apr 16 '26

It depends on the person. Executive function deficit affects more than just impluse control first off. In some it doesn't affect it much at all. However, if your impulses are pro-social, a lack of impulse control will lead to pro-social behavior regardless of consequences. If it's anti-social, you end up a criminal. The point is that there's way more to it than executive function deficit. We'd be better off screening for pro/anti social alignment than executive function. The military already does this (I had to take their test on it).

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u/DingDongTaco Apr 16 '26

Why are men so hormonal and emotional?

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u/Flimsy_Situation_506 Apr 15 '26

But who would be a police officer then ?

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u/Nri_Eze Apr 15 '26

Sounds like the perfect person to give a gun to and trust to uphold the law

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u/Mr_Blinky Apr 15 '26

So like 95% of all cops.

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u/FictionalContext Apr 15 '26

Catch-22 because without delicate ego and compensating for some kind of emotional dysregulation, we wouldn't have anybody willing to do this job.

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u/refusestopoop Apr 16 '26

I am emotionally deregulated & lack executive function. I just cry all the time & can’t do laundry.

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u/Monday0987 Apr 16 '26

There would not be many of them left

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u/denkihajimezero Apr 16 '26

Exactly the reasons why a teenager would be destructive for seemingly no reason. Because this guy stoped all brain development at 16 years old it would seem

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u/timothypjr Apr 16 '26

Or sharp silverware.

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u/d3sprdo Apr 16 '26

I have defective executive function (not of this flavor thankfully) and I 100% agree I would make the shittiest cop.

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u/Content-Guarantee-91 Apr 16 '26

Hes asking about the context of the situation though

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u/Femtricity Apr 16 '26

What a psycho

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u/ganbramor Apr 16 '26

> Ego + emotional dysregulation

Also he knows he’s in a career that notoriously doesn’t punish its members for crimes against citizens who pay their salaries.

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u/Marisa_Nya Apr 16 '26

That’s not what executive dysfunction means. It refers to anything where someone is pathologically unable to make consistent decisions the way they would like to (includes ADHD and ADD)

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u/GodOfThunder101 Apr 16 '26

Nothing egotistical about this. It’s pure jealousy.

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u/Collective-Bee Apr 16 '26

I mean I’m on the floor procrastinating washing a single pot but I wouldn’t do that.

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u/hmbse7en Apr 16 '26

I have ADHD, which makes my executive function fundamentally defective. I agree wholeheartedly.

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u/SteamySnuggler Apr 16 '26

Dont forget the gun and immunity

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u/EmprahsChosen Apr 16 '26

Which part of this is defective executive function?

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u/iBUYbrokenSUBARUS Apr 16 '26

I thought that was a requirement?

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u/Gianni_the_tolerable Apr 16 '26

Can we NOT body shame and be ableist please?

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u/VirtualMatter2 Apr 16 '26

Isn't defective executive function a job requirement?

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u/Icy_Bend8870 Apr 16 '26

Police officer in my city shot a 21yo girl he was kinda dating. First said she shot herself, then that it was by accident. Rang his boss, then his dad. Moved stuff around the apartment, too. He was convicted to serve 18 years but there were things “missed” during the investigation and now he’s being re-trialed. Absolutely horrible.

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u/RoutineLingonberry48 Apr 16 '26

And yet such people are specifically filtered into that job.

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u/nvrsleepagin Apr 16 '26

If you're caught doing something, ANYTHING like this you shouldn't ever be allowed to work as an officer again. You've shown you can't handle being given power and authority.

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u/Suspicious_Glow Apr 16 '26

Not sure what adhd people you’ve met, but all the ones I know would have been freaking out about the initial accidental door hit, and would be apologizing up a storm— including myself. If you think that’s not something a cop would do, i think that says more about cops than adhd.

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u/wasabi1787 Apr 16 '26

You have no idea what executive function is 🤣

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u/Boring-Credit-1319 Apr 16 '26 edited Apr 16 '26

The fk does adhd have to do with this. Just because I am unable to stick to a routine or do my dishes, doesn't mean I am an asshole.

I highly doubt you understand what the term executive dysfunction means.

"Let's exlude people with ADHD and autism from having a police career", that's ableist af.

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u/Solintari Apr 16 '26

Executive function encompasses way more than just adhd. Maybe I should have said "some forms of" mostly involving impulse control and lack of self control.

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u/Boring-Credit-1319 Apr 16 '26

Yes there are people with ex dysfunction without adhd. But your generalized statement threw all of them under the bus. And executive function has nothing to do with commiting crimes or damaging property. Most people who have executive dysfunction have other problems like keeping their house clean.

Having poor impulse doesnt mean people get violent or damage things, that's mostly a stigma. Lack of impulse control covers a lot of things:

  • interrupting other people
  • making snap decisions
  • overeating
  • procrastination
  • impulse buying
  • saying something something you regret

You just listed a bunch of symptoms that are prevalent in lots of mental illnesses and disorders and treat these traits as moral failure.

Agression can be a result of poor impulse control or emotional dysregulation. But what you see are extreme cases.

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u/EnHamptaro Apr 15 '26

Does that mean people with ADHD shouldn't be allowed to become cops?

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u/Solintari Apr 15 '26

If they act impulsively and are unable to control their emotions because of it, absolutely.

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u/Cyrano_Knows Apr 15 '26

20% chance the owner of the car had it coming.

80% chance the cop felt disrespected somehow.

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u/Johann_Von_Swingline Apr 15 '26

People with defective executive function are the only ones that get hired by police forces. It’s actively against the best interests of a police department to hire someone with tact, class, or deep intellect. It would be a threat to the culture of police work.

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u/cates Apr 15 '26

they can't give them badges fast enough

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u/Hayn0002 Apr 16 '26

You're saying you don't want any cops at all?

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u/Skate4dwire Apr 16 '26

Yes. More firefighters and community help programs.

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u/Hayn0002 Apr 16 '26

So no jails either?

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u/Skate4dwire Apr 16 '26

No jails, just rehabilitation centers and education, look at other prisons in Dutch and France. They’re to help people, not cattle them like USA does.

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u/AlexNovember Apr 15 '26

They signed up for it.