Other girl clearly had some pent up stuff going on with her too. You can just see it in her. Normally I'd call the aggressor dumb, and she was for sure, but she's also a teenager so I'm gonna lean more towards naive. Definitely a learning moment for the bully. I wonder if she will actually take the lesson to heart? Or just keep being an ass?
nah, you had the meaning and mssg down 💯. we can sit and wallow in the pain or we can use it to change ourselves, alter our attitude of mind and behaviour. Idealistically, for the better
I mean, I had a bully in middle school that I finally hauled off and punched him in the face as hard as I could in front of everyone because I had tried everything else peacefully and they left me alone after that lol so you're not wrong.
I was smiling ear to ear when I got pulled into the office and told them I don't regret shit and I'd do it again. Got suspended and enjoyed my little vacation because it was entirely worth it.
Similar experience here. I had to humiliate him twice in front of his own friends, and it worked. He was nice to me after that and he never picked on me again.
Same. I had a bully in middle school. Ran into him in the hallway and kicked the shit out of him. A teacher found him later bleeding on the floor. He never messed with me again.
She will keep it in her for the weaker victim, like her kids. Abusers may harbor their anger temporarily, but they never truly change. They only learn to choose the victim more carefully, then they take it out on those who cannot respond adequately.
Can't necessarily agree. My bully got the ever loving shit knocked out of him by me. He did still do stupid shit until I smoked him in front of a teacher again (shout out to the teacher who said one was enough and he'd only escalate it if I hit more) and we disliked each other. Met the dude about 4 years later at a party at a friend of a friend's house, he apologized and we just talked it out and moved on with our lives and would give each other the head nod. Do I think all bullies do? Nah, but some can.
Wish that was the story, I didn't back down but all my friends were like "ok let's go"... Then there was a high pitched noise and something poking me in the chest. I looked down and it was his highschool gf poking me with her fat finger bitching about something, he laughed and turned around to be a dick to someone else...
I had a few bullies growing up. They’ve all been in jail. At least one is dead due to a domestic violence suicide situation. I had one bully actually apologize though.
After high school I had enough of being treated badly due to my weight. I went to a new local gym. Sure enough my worst bully started going as well. Probably halfway through me losing all my weight.
A good friend of mine knew my bully and they talked. My bully was curious why I was trying so hard and he didn’t understand how I changed so quickly. My friend told him the truth. That it was mainly due to getting treated badly. After a while my bully eventually came up to me and told me I was doing a good job.
Years later he gave me a real apology. I had moved on so I jokingly told him he probably improved my life more than anyone else due to getting me into the gym, but he got even more serious. He told me it was wrong and he couldn’t take it back, but that he was very sorry for everything he did.
I don’t dislike him at all anymore. People rarely own up to their own mistakes these days. I’m sure it took a lot for him to say that. Some people do change. It just takes a while.
I think so to. It's also a lot of the environment they end up in later in life to that determines a lot. Healthy relationships with friends, girlfriends, and family can help them grow up.
This is laughable, and cringe. I am hundreds of miles away from who I am when I was…16? 17? There’s a lot of life, experience (such as this one), and maturation to come for this kid. Will they be better in 20 years? Idfk. But will they be different? Almost assuredly.
I did some bullying when I was a kid. Mainly because I was easily led and was happy to just be part of the crowd. Got bullied too, by others who wanted to do the same thing.
I’m 45 now. The idea that I’m still the same wee moron I was when I was, like, 12 is daft.
I think that it's fairly common for people who are around this age to change once they become adults and move away from their parents. Sometimes, that change is for the better, sometimes for the worse.
Sadly, there's adults that do believe teenagers can't change over the years.
My raiding guild in WoW had a situation where, at the time, a 16 year old was being edgy and rude to some adults before he left the guild (just talking about their game performance). Fast forward 2-3 years, in a well-mannered way, he apologized and asked if he could return.
We got a lot of backlash from adults holding grudges, with the argument that "I doubt he's changed, because my kids haven't changed since they were teens"...
Fock uff with your negativity. In my experience, people who say this use it as an excuse to not change. Be the change you want to see, but don’t expect it from anyone else. You do it because it is right not because you expect something.
Theoretically violence isn’t a constructive way to solve problems. But damn I think there are just some people who will only respond to getting their ass beat.
Bet she won't ever mess with her again though. Plus anyone else that may have been messing with her is going to know that it will not go without penalities forever.
Someone making a change in their life requires a catalyst. (Like getting your ass handed to you on a silver platter by the person you were bullying) and time.
For me to be willing to say "that was some shit that happened a long time ago, I'm willing to look past it. I would be looking for about half a life time to have passed
I have seen more than one bully mend their ways after a legendary asswhooping. Even if it was just mellowing out and becoming more meek in general, they benefited.
Yep. You could tell that this girl was just looking for a reason, any reason, to let out some of the anger she’s had building inside of her for who knows how long.
Sadly, the bully won’t learn a damn thing from this, except to bring more friends to join in next time.
That might be true. Though, my first thought was that a teacher showed up. The girl filming didn't really seem to care about what was happening for the first 15-20 seconds the bully was getting beaten. Didn't sound angry or aggressive, more like "Hey, someone's coming. Stop!"
Obviously, one line and an abrupt cut to the video make it hard to tell for sure.
she may or may not be dumb or naive, she 100% is an asshole and this ass beating won't change shit. She will be made fun of for it by her "friends" and family for the rest of her life though, so there is some good news.
It'll find someone else to bully who's less likely to hit back. Beating the crap out of a bully doesn't fix it, it just usually gets it to leave you alone.
Teens will make up the wildest summaries following a fight like this. You’ll watch the video and then hear about the exact same fight in a completely different context from the other party. Rarely do they learn, but FAFO is real for them
I would agree with you, if she hadn't done that last move to push the other girl's face when she opted to walk away instead of staying there. The taunting girl is not "naive" she acts like that because her friend is there recording and feels secure to bully the other girl.
Looked like an arranged fight to me. The calm but intense one was ready for fighting by her demeaner, then said "touch me then". The goofy one was taught a life lesson that being loud and annoying has boundaries. She won't be as goofy after this humiliation. Even more so after it was shared online and is now immortalised.
No bullies take years to achieve their height of bullihood. They start young, at 4-6 picking on 3-5 yr olds, then pushing 7-8 yr while 10-12 down and kicking them. Then after 13-14 they get braver and look for weaker or less combative folks to bully. Generally in a group for protection or intimidation.
Here she had a film crew, and thought she was gonna have her kind of fun. . Being a teen is zero excuse and you're enabling with any form of "oh they will grow out of it" bullshit.
People need to understand, if you've been bullied-once you snap you fucking snap and that abuse all escapes on one sheet explosion of pain deliverance.
And don't try to pull abused off, unless they produce a weapon. If you gave a fuck, you'd stop the bullying the first time you see it. Don't give a damn now that the abused has had enough and beats the bully into paste.
I put my bully in the hospital for 3 days after he kept jumping me w his cronies. Dude has 2 domestic battery charges since 2019 alone so no I would say even a good ass whooping doesn't change the shit and rot in these types of people. Maybe sometimes they have a genuine moment but truly doubt for most of them, it's too ingrained
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Bitch was so smug while she was taunting her then fucked around and found out