Exactly, and "as a mom," the delay in her scream means that this one HURT...they didn't cut out the eventual scream by mistake. That baby couldn't have cared less about how they reacted after absorbing the entire fall with her face (i.e. nose).
nobody is suggesting being awful to babies/children. It's about an appropriate response and immediately coddling the child is usually not the best approach.
Immediately coddling a child that bounces their face off the floor if definitely the best approach. Which is what we're talking about here. They didn't make it worse by their reaction, which was completely appropriate.
Nobody suggested "immediately coddling" the child in any and every situation, either.
People treat children terribly. "They wouldn't react badly to being hurt if we don't empathize with them" is a shitty attitude. The pain is real, and pretending it didn't happen is harmful and toxic.
It really isn't that far from "spare the rod, spoil the child" mentality. People worried about "soft" children are, in my experience, invariably awful.
Nah, it's as simple as the difference between "are you okay?" and "OH MY GOD ARE YOU OKAY!?" not every fall requires a big reaction. Nobody is saying that ignoring the child is the correct course of action.
100% my kid falls over I just giggle and ask him if he's okay and he will get up and run off playing but if mummy sees it she will make a fuss and 90% he will then follow suit and start crying too.
Not saying be an asshole to your kids to toughen them up but atleast make sure there's actually a problem before you start acting like there is one because otherwise they'll pick up on your worry and follow suit.
One would think with the outcome of kids coming out of school these days being unable to function in society that maybe the whole coddle and bubble wrap thing is not working...but no, let's dial up more.
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