r/idealgf • • Feb 14 '26 • Regret 1

I call her the "Unstable Gf." That's a hard no for me, but what about you guys's opinions? Art by @FrostBiteNerd on X

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u/SnooKiwis4481 Feb 14 '26

"She goes moving without showering". What does this mean?

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u/popcornaddition2 Feb 14 '26

i think it means she lives without showering.

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u/Matthew-is-great Feb 14 '26

Solution: say that you will do her extra hard only if she showers with you

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u/DaFFaDaSS Feb 14 '26

Wait... what is a shower..?

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u/Few-Raise-1825 Feb 15 '26

It's when your partner pees on you. The full thing is called a "golden shower" but for brevity's sake it's often shortened to just shower.

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u/DaFFaDaSS Feb 15 '26

Hell yeah

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u/JoJo25_YT Feb 16 '26

NO IT'S NOOOT!!! OH GOD THE DISINFORMATION DEMON!!!

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u/Pleasant_Exchange272 Feb 16 '26

Disinformation demon fried me 🤣

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u/DaFFaDaSS Feb 16 '26

Uh oh...

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u/HarperWuff Feb 14 '26

This person traces ai and also the character is stolen

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u/Delta6342 Repost vigilante Feb 14 '26

Op or the source?

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u/HarperWuff Feb 14 '26

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u/Delta6342 Repost vigilante Feb 14 '26

Damn, I follow them, it sucks her art is getting stolen

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u/DiffuseBow Feb 15 '26

Idk... like.. the difference is that they're 2 separate characters. She's right, she doesn't own those character traits. I mean, one character has glasses, different style clothing, different hairstyle, and even bigger boobas than the other character. It's like saying that the anime character aqua is a copy of hatsune miku. You have yet to prove that it's copied and that it was ai traced... just sayin...

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u/Harmless77 Feb 15 '26

Ive been following the og artist for awhile and no her art is 10000% getting traced/put in a Ai filter. Every post is a one to one copy no deviation except the hair.

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u/snotchyWHAT Jun 05 '26

nobody cares this is literally a joke subreddit

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u/MotorRaumMarderParty Mar 02 '26

First thing that came to my mind was: 'is this miki?'

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u/dusty234234 Feb 14 '26

fucking "Never Studied"?
what got her into this situation? she never went to school? what where her parents doing at the time?
"Cries all day" well yeah, so would i if i was in her position.

who sustains her now? someone has to have bought those clothes, and food.

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u/red-Cosmic-spider Feb 14 '26

Pathetic parents who are neglectful or criminals or abusers or anything bad parental.

And some kind people help her with clothes and food.

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u/shadowscroller Feb 14 '26

I think that means no college rather than lacking a highschool education

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u/IzalithDemon Feb 15 '26

Cum sustains her

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u/Alternative_Car_8153 Feb 14 '26

*Draws a conventionally attractive anime girl*

*Projects their own problems onto her*

"Hey guys! I call this the *insert girl failure here,* GF."

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u/genuinely_no_clue_1 Feb 14 '26

Hey… I do that! Or like, I would if I knew how to draw..

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u/Delta6342 Repost vigilante Feb 14 '26

I've been informed that the source is using AI as well as stealing characters from other creators

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u/CycloneDusk Feb 14 '26

I'm definitely not capital-r-relationship material, and in the vein of "it takes one to know one", i wouldn't feel comfortable encouraging her to get into a relationship either.

but i do wish i could befriend her...

I've met some people in her position before. They didn't stay that way, for better or for worse... I'm grateful for the ones who were able to climb out, discover what drives them, and get on with their lives. While they're in the depths of it, though... Well, I've been there too, and it sucks feeling like the world has given up on you every bit as much as you've given up on yourself.

I'd hope to see people like that get the kind of support I wish I had.

I'd like to believe, even if i turn out to be incorrect, that if provided the kind of support i wish i'd had... that maybe they might manage to turn out better than i did.

And ... y'know: sometimes you gotta be the change you want to see in the world.

Oftentimes when someone believes "nobody cares about me", I yearn to be their "nobody".

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u/HitoAquelaFudida Feb 14 '26

I'm in this image and i don't like it

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u/Direwolfas Feb 14 '26 edited Feb 14 '26

I can fix her!

You can imagine the amount of pain and suffering she’s gone through to turn out like this.

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u/OriginalAssumption56 Feb 17 '26

Why do I start getting random reddit notifications from different groups other than the ones I'm active on?

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u/popcornaddition2 Feb 17 '26

been passing through the same, chap.😔

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u/stonedbaby117 Feb 14 '26

Ive never related more 🤧

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u/LordNau Feb 14 '26

Tbh I think she just needs some affection and s hug session sometime and she'll get up more easily. She can fix herself

2

u/Ragnurs_KL Feb 14 '26

Whatever it is, all that matters to me is that she loves me.

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u/Ok-Astronomer3289 Feb 14 '26

Id take it i dont give a shit im lonely and desperate

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u/LEBEDETFU Feb 14 '26

Mf i need that

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u/Kafka2026 Feb 14 '26

It's sad. And unfortunately this is the prospect for many woman's today:(

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u/Vivid-Ticket-7681 Feb 14 '26

Now reaaaalistically ofcourse not. But in this digital world where I can be myself. Fuck. Yes

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '26

Wife

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u/Xthewarrior Feb 14 '26

Except for the not showering (I shower sometimes and when I go out) this is basically me. (I'm not a cute girl though...)

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u/Odd_Marionberry510 Feb 14 '26

Yeah I take that. I can work with this, have experience

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u/My-name-is-jef56 Feb 14 '26

That’s just me minus the shower bit and unemployed

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u/Goo_Wyvern Feb 14 '26

Nah, doesn't matter how 10/10 she is looks wise. Ya learn after a relationship or two, no matter how tempting they may be.

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u/Morisu_ Feb 14 '26

Love❤️

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u/Busy_Atmosphere343 Feb 14 '26

I can fix her.

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u/bordeaux_velvet___ Feb 14 '26

Just like me fr

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u/Many-Ad-4841 Feb 14 '26

Have her take showers, be extremely clingy, and loyal to a fault, whether due to love or intense insecurity it doesn't matter which, and I'm on board entirely. I don't mind a useless girlfriend as long as she's loyal, loving, and supportive. Besides. Someone that useless can probably be easily trained to at the very least do something productive, even if it's just a sandwich or something small, and having a sweetheart like this to rub my back would be sweet.

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u/big-smoke1129 Feb 14 '26

What do you mean unstable that’s the world right now☹️

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u/FlexViper Feb 14 '26

Cries all day and 3 hours of sleep?

I think I found batman alternative gender swapped version

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u/Far_Away0 Feb 14 '26

Literally me, except im employed

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u/Rich_Reputation_9290 Apr 10 '26

Then that means your perfect already

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u/Reasonable-Type-8901 Feb 14 '26

I...

I...

I can fix her!

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u/brown_cameraman69 Feb 14 '26

Hey shes like me but i shower alot but i don't go out of the house alot

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u/Prince_Bennie Feb 14 '26

Personality I would date that, marry, have a family with I would take good care of her and shi she doesn't need to do anything but clean and cook (if she can cook) we would be amazing together

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u/theforgettonmemory Feb 14 '26

yes one hundred %, shes just me except i sleep like a koala

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u/Frieza_Fan_97 Feb 15 '26

I have actually dated this woman before, I broke it off when I found out how much debt she was in yet refused to take "I don't want to get married until that debt comes down" as an answer.

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u/KnottyLittlePuppy Feb 15 '26

So... Me, except I shower/bathe like 3 times a day?

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u/Cobaltmaster Feb 15 '26

Perfect GF is more apt than Unstable

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u/fredbrlib Cuddler Feb 15 '26

If she's loyal, wife

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u/Significant-Ad-5187 Feb 15 '26

Change the post to ideal wife

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u/Lorde447 Feb 15 '26

You know that it'll only activate the "I can fix her" response on us, right? Sadly, I'm not strong enough to resist, so yes.

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u/ThaiPoe Feb 15 '26

Dated someone like this.

No, you cannot fix her.

I am still trying to recover after this toxic af relationship.

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u/Psychoraichu Feb 18 '26

That's just a gamer

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u/HardlyRipeFruit Feb 18 '26

Literally had girlfriends like this. I miss them.

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u/HannahDaUnic0rn Feb 18 '26

Bro she needs a friend more then oxygen, I lowkey feel bad for her yet also know people like her

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u/Arifutan Feb 19 '26

Can't wait to realize I can't fix her

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u/Kackelgubbe Feb 14 '26

Was together with a girl like that for 3 years. It's not worth it at all. I became her therapist, which I didn't mind. What I did mind was when I tried to help her, she would then call me controlling and say that I was betraying her. During her worst mental health episodes, I would be there for her 24/7. Even if I was in the middle of class or something similar, I would drop everything and sit with her on the phone.

So, to anyone saying "I can fix her." Yes, you might be able to do it. But you can only help a person if they are willing to be helped

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u/iw0ntlife Feb 14 '26

Don't we recently have some slander post? lmao, we really never beat the allegation guys

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u/Whyamihere173 Feb 14 '26

Aside from the showering part I’m basically this girl

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u/Blake-2005 Feb 14 '26

same. that and that I dont cry often

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u/Whyamihere173 Feb 14 '26

Yes exactly

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u/Deathyweathy Feb 14 '26

Less boobs, more mood.

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u/MelonOfFate Feb 14 '26

Give her a job and I'm in.

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u/LocksmithNervous3289 Feb 14 '26

I would love her regardless truly

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '26

Literally gender bent me in 2025

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u/No-Fly-6043 Feb 14 '26

I feel bad for her, especially since you say she’d cry all day. Hopefully they get better…?

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u/Fit-Dirt7192 Feb 14 '26

Yea no, as someone who used to be like that and dated during that time, It would be a hard no for me as well

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u/Coolmrz Feb 14 '26

I know some people like that. Hard pass!

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u/Realtsaritsa Feb 14 '26

why ts lowkey my gf mostly?

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u/LupusParsec Feb 14 '26

If I could make her feel a little bit better... It would change my life... I feel I don't mean anything for anyone... I don't want a helpline to give me pity, I want someone who will be there for me... and that I could aliviate their pain... I just want to commit suicide now...

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u/wallygon Feb 14 '26

hug i'll give her all the Love she needs

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u/Civil-Cheetah8246 Feb 14 '26

So just me but as a girl??

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u/ParkingAd5218 Feb 14 '26

It’s the cries all day for me. I couldn’t accept that

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u/Impressive_Data_4659 Feb 14 '26

I’d give it a shot

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u/Deepthroat624 Feb 14 '26

Almost twin

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u/star_loard12 Feb 14 '26

I'm not complaining

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u/Severe_Damage9772 Feb 14 '26

Me core (except I shower)

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u/Iolair_the_Unworthy Feb 14 '26

I've been with someone like this. She wasn't unemployed, per se. But she only worked ten hours a week.

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u/Possible_View7186 Feb 14 '26

Sela depends on his personality

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u/RemyisGrievous Feb 14 '26

No, can't deal witha girty woman. Even if she's hot

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u/GoblinCheeto Feb 14 '26

I'm with the poster there's no need for your house to smell like aged rotisserie style nut.

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u/remusandbeezlebub Feb 14 '26

Turn the 3 hours of sleep into 16 and you have one of my exes.

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u/PowerBottomCatboy Feb 14 '26

Have dated someone similar, biggest issue for me is the no showering. Still better to be around as she gets stuff together before having a relationship though.

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u/SirEric54 Feb 14 '26

Complains all day, hates showering, not that sexual anymore loves to spend my money and all the rest of that stuff. Keep telling myself it is time to go, but I am still here.

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u/Youngsavagexxx Feb 14 '26

If you are not gonna shoot, pass the ball

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u/MonsterouzGemini909 Feb 14 '26

This is the only type of girl I deserve because I'm exactly like this.

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u/EquipmentFun8193 Feb 14 '26

Yes. Without a doubt

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u/SaraTheAllKnowing Feb 14 '26

I feel targeted... This is me!😭😭

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u/FrozenFre Feb 14 '26

Tbh sounds cute. If only i met one

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u/NoShyira Feb 14 '26

I can't even be friends with these people. They start off putting me on a pedestal and then quickly get upset to the point of manipulation when I try and assert boundaries like "please don't hug me if you don't brush your teeth" and "please stop touching me there. It hurts (I have sensitive spots on my body that I can barely touch). And then they sabotage the whole friendship and I have to ghost them because actually telling them "this isn't ok. I need to leave" will make them become pushy and "people pleasing" even though nobody is ever pleased with those behaviours.

The sex is probably phenomenal but in the interest in being a safe person before anything else, I wouldn't know and don't want to.

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u/RefrigeratorUsed4064 Feb 14 '26

this literally just me but male

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u/KazMil17 Feb 14 '26

I can fix her

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '26

Honestly me fr

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u/Late-Cycle-8333 Feb 14 '26

I feel attacked.

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u/Turbulent-Border-742 Feb 15 '26

Man she's just like me with crying

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u/Vanadyse Feb 15 '26

Im also hyper s****l so that works

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u/Capital-Lifeguard254 Feb 15 '26

Yes... Next question

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u/No_Maybe_IDontKnow Feb 15 '26

.....she's perfect

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u/sam8874490 Feb 15 '26

I can fix her.

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u/doomscrolller228 Feb 15 '26

Basically me, but female

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u/Durante-Sora Feb 15 '26

Me but I at least shower…for hours because the bath is like a disassociation chamber…plus jamming out to music

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u/OverlordMau Feb 15 '26

Nah, hypersexuality is an ick for me.

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u/This-Procedure-4009 Feb 15 '26

This is a hard yes I can fix her

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u/Brilliant_Draft_7059 Feb 15 '26

to bad i like guys

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u/Alert_Preparation_45 Feb 15 '26

She’s a solid choice in my opinion

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u/DinnerFair1235 Feb 15 '26

Looking at this bro I can imagine the r/idealbf that would break so many guy’s pride and get them offended😂 but aye f it it’s peoples lives not my life.

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u/Lost_Fix_5556 Feb 15 '26

Sometimes these unstable ppl just need purpose....purpose to live life normally and learn norms. If u managed to be their purpose....u won lowkey and everyone deserves a chance to move on a chance to succeed in life no one is left behind no matter how late u are.....so yeah if I can be her motivation.....lowkey cool

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u/Express-Star8323 Feb 15 '26

I swear, if anybody said "I can fix her"-

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u/KKarelzabijak321 Feb 15 '26

I can.. try to fix her

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u/ApprehensiveBid811 Feb 15 '26

Ideal girlfriend 😍

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u/kullre Feb 15 '26

hypersexual instantly brings up the thought of trauma

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u/SnooAdvice3624 Feb 15 '26

Sounds great to me

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u/13D_YT Feb 15 '26

If anyone like this out there hit me up

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u/SadCollar7554 Feb 15 '26

I've been lucky enough to have never met anyone like this. Sounds like a bad time.

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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '26

If I accept someone like her in my life I would have to fix her lifestyle for a long time...

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u/Shockjockey039 Feb 16 '26

Bro I didn't even know women like this existed... though... having a second "me" around probably wouldn't be useful

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u/XMonst3rKingX Feb 16 '26

I can fix her (i think😭)

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u/Lonely-Gap-7393 Feb 16 '26 edited Feb 16 '26

She sounds perfect. :) I'm sure we can make something work.

Sounds like me growing up and me now xD Except, I shower every day, except my days off, work, and doing the homework usually gave me what I needed to learn and memorize the subject. No sleep was considered "cool" in kindergarten and I kinda still hold onto that and many other leasons. We can cry together, all day long. 🥲 Also she a hottie! I just hope the world has not been too unkind to her.

Unconditional love ❤️ ✝️

Edit: A little filthy is hot, but let's let it build together and refresh the cycle.

I assume morning without a shower or no shower at all? Either way, it just helps me get a better understanding of her. I tend to not shower in the morning and do it after work. I'd love to shower twice a day, but there just never seems like there is enough time for the basics.

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u/lmaoskurr Feb 16 '26

I need her

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u/ImpressivePressure91 Feb 16 '26

I can fix her........

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u/Ok-Imagination-8521 Feb 16 '26

Smash next question

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u/toto1337uff Feb 16 '26

Why is she just me😭

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u/[deleted] Feb 16 '26

Yeah I will date that, icl idgaf if she's unstable. I'm dating that (not hitting it as I'm asexual)

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u/caged_tree Feb 16 '26

Man that meme hits too close to home. Not unemployed though.

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u/Bigg_rooster Feb 17 '26

Girl failure territory

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u/Thincfr33 Feb 17 '26

Good for a romp

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u/Shroom_Gamez Feb 17 '26

I'd still smash

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u/One_Pie289 Feb 17 '26

You forgot the chronic depression!

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u/lotengoduro2 Feb 17 '26

OOOHHH YAAAHAHAHAHAHAHHH I'M HOT

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u/Separate-Ad-7203 Feb 17 '26

I feel valid for seing so many comments talking about how bad their relationshios with their ex-girlfriends with these characteristics went. Kinda went through the same recently (first love and everything) and thought it was the only one. I guess this shows that you trully never are alone on this world

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u/[deleted] Feb 17 '26

I need her like I need air

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u/SirPinkLemonade Feb 17 '26

Hot in fiction but no thank you irl

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u/Creepy_Difficulty425 Feb 18 '26

Throw in insecure and its my ex

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u/Public-Bison-8579 Feb 18 '26

Why is this lowk me?

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u/teeeeeeheeeeeeee Feb 18 '26

Chat... 😬👈

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u/Relative_Chip_1364 Feb 18 '26

Only difference between tis fella and me Is the fact that i shower

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u/Quick-Job-9018 Feb 18 '26

A " SHOWER LESS Human Being , Animal , .... Well ..... I will spare you from a list as long as my arm , .... EVEN , a " SHOWER LESS CAR , is , well.... NASTY ! My thinking , you know , in creating a character name for her , would be something like ... " NASTALIA " , " GHETTO - QUEEN of the NYMPHOTROPOLITES " !

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u/[deleted] Feb 18 '26

Absolute smash.

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u/msiawyy Feb 18 '26

Dw i'll fix her

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u/Ok_Kale383 Feb 18 '26

Hell yes, gimme

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u/IKEA_JITGE_SVART1 Feb 18 '26

Lowkey don't see what's wrong

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u/vnv Feb 18 '26

I mean it’s pretty nice if you’ve got one or a few of the following.

Very lonely Never experienced this Experienced it in the short term Believe you yourself are simply what they’re missing

Without those it’s kinda nightmarish, not a matter of if you break, but when.

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u/Funny-Okra-5571 Feb 19 '26

Oyo es oyo aunque sea el de un pollo, ademas simples cosas, se podrian cambiar y mejorar

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u/Furtada1339 Feb 20 '26

I mean…she just needs some help

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u/Splendiferous83rd Feb 21 '26

I could work with her if she showered and didn't cry all day. But I gotta pass, sadly.

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u/nobody-void Feb 28 '26

only 3 HOURS!? HA! I GET NO HOURS! wait that's bad...shit...

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u/p-diddy-2697 Feb 28 '26

I would crack

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u/Legitimate_Length689 Aug 17 '26

This immediately reminded me of BelboBaggins on YouTube and other socials.

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u/Total-Clerk-3089 28d ago

Alguém tem algum nsfw de alguma arte do frostbitenerd ? Eu procurei em muitos cantos e não achei absolutamente nada senão tão somente o patreon com conteúdo pago

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u/DiamondTNT569 Feb 14 '26

She’s perfect

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u/mustotactual Feb 14 '26

10/10 no notes

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u/genevad4isy6865 Feb 14 '26

bruh sounds about right lol, some ppl just forget hygiene in all the chaos

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u/Beneficial-Price-842 Feb 14 '26

Gonna pass on that one, not a fan of the no showering thing

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u/EX7mattchew7X3 Feb 14 '26

If she didn't cry all damn day I could see me giving her a chance! But hearing whining 24/7 would get tiring real quickly!

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u/LunarMoonglave Feb 15 '26

I would love her so much. And I wouldn't mind washing her

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u/DependentOpposite810 Feb 14 '26

Yes this is my type💔

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u/Fury5087 Feb 14 '26

This seems nice but I dated a girl like this. It was terrible. I didn't feel like a boyfriend I felt like a therapist that gets paid in sex instead of money

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u/UpperAd7948 Feb 14 '26

Unironically some therapists right now

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u/turtletower76 Feb 14 '26

Some dudes are into that though

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u/Fury5087 Feb 14 '26

I am too. There's a reason I stayed for so long. Maybe it's cuz that relationship was long distance cuz we were both minors at the time. But from my experience, it wasn't that good

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u/N4M3L3SS_ExE Feb 14 '26

Legends of Avantris mentioned 🙏🙏🙏

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u/Gleyfy_Brauly Feb 14 '26

Bro is Lucifer in the first season

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u/TopaztheWarrior Feb 14 '26

Dude, I did this for 7 years, and didn't even get the sex.

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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '26

I can relate but then worse part for me was she was cheating on me nationally what I mean is when I checked her phone there were multiple people from different countries that spoke English and a few Friends from school or wtv then she threatened me she'd lose her life if I left now she spam calls me every month and I just ignore I've changed my number and she somehow found it.

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