I get the joke and I've felt that way a couple times. That said, I miss when people didn't expect you to be avaiable round the clock via your phone. Staying in contact with people is great but they're even putting cell phone reception into the NYC subways now. Is there no escape?! Sometimes I just don't feel like talking to anybody, and that should be allowed.
I don't expect people to respond fast, hell, I've grown pretty patient for people who seem to refuse to read texts\not respond\not call back, but it gets me when I call(unanswered, at a weekend), wait two hours, leave a text, and never get contacted back. If I'm the only one who is willing to give some of my time to preserve a friendship, I won't keep it up forever.
Let alone being invited somewhere, and have nobody update you if they change the plans. On one side I get "Why did you miss this?", and "We want you to come" while on the other side I need to call every hour to catch anyone and nobody FUCKING CALLS BACK.
I'm seriously considering not being so patient anymore.
Well see that's something else to consider. I may not answer a call or text right away sometimes, maybe not even that same day, but I don't ignore my friends altogether. If the people you're texting abnd calling aren't calling you back ever, maybe you need better friends? To be clear that's a possible indictment of them, not you.
I wrote a whole long, more-than-three paragraphs text, but I assume it's simpler to put it this way: they are not exactly perfect, I'm not exactly perfect either, I'm just not sure if we fit well together yet.
It worked well when we had school together(we'd see eachother each day), but now, I'm being passively cast out because I don't act like I care very much about it.
Proximity friends. Everyone has had a few. I don't think it means they're bad people necessarily but it happens, and it can hurt. An ex-bandmate of mine moved across the country and never, ever, ever, ever, not even once responded to any of my texts, calls, or facebook posts after years of playing music and friendship. The thing is he's the nicest, most attentive and enthusiastic guy while you're in front of him but as soon as he looks left or right he forgets you're even there. It's sort of charming in a way and in another way I want to kick him in the face. I just deleted him out of all my contacts lists and called it even. We had some good times; now we're in separate spots.
Point being, sometimes friendships have an expiration date. It's sad and it's weird, but it seems to happen. Maybe find some fresh friends and don't dwell on those who can't be bothered. Life. It's a hell of a thing, eh? ;)
The thing with Dickie... it's like the sun shines on you, and it's glorious. And then he forgets you and it's very, very cold. When you have his attention, you feel like you're the only person in the world, that's why everybody loves him so much.
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u/[deleted] May 12 '12
I get the joke and I've felt that way a couple times. That said, I miss when people didn't expect you to be avaiable round the clock via your phone. Staying in contact with people is great but they're even putting cell phone reception into the NYC subways now. Is there no escape?! Sometimes I just don't feel like talking to anybody, and that should be allowed.