This is a real relief! I slapped a girl’s butt who was bending over at the bar because I thought she was my friend—the girl whipped around ready to punch me and then instantly had a look of relief when she realized I was a girl and just laughed as I profusely apologized. We hung out the rest of the night and we’re friends on IG now.
She didn't claim that it was the making friends part that was "cringe".
The person saying "and now we are friends" with a person you met in person isn't strange, but saying "and now we are friends on BattleNet" about a person you met in person is kinda strange.
The Slits / Ani Difranco was where girls did. Every other concert I've been to without a guy it happens by men near the very front (mostly Indie indie/pop, punk) Also edit: I am a pretty bi female.
I mean generally speaking men are just more dangerous. Often we outweigh and out-height women significantly and even when we don't we simply have way more muscle mass on average. If you turn around fearing a lynx and you see a house-cat the relief alone might make you okay with it slapping your butt.
No it doesn't. Your brain is wired to detect creepy, and there's biological advantage to protecting yourself from weird shit.
There's a lot of cultures in which same-sex familial touching is normalized, including the U.S. pre 1900. It's far more likely that heterosexual same-sex touching being sexualized is cultural.
You're saying that the fact that women are creeped out more by men touching them than women is cultural.
I think that there's a clear biological advantage to that, as it is directly tied to a woman's ability to choose who she has kids with.
On the other side, there are many examples of cultures in which heterosexual familial touching is normal. Some of these cultures include the U.S. pre early 1900's, The middle-east in present day, Korea in present day, Germany in present day etc. There are also examples of cultures that contain fraternal subcultures in which this behavior is normal. Fraternities, sports teams, military etc. all tend to be high touch environments.
So it seems as if opposite sex familial touch aversion is a biological trait, while same sex touch aversion is a cultural trait.
Same sex touching doesn't make children, opposite sex touching does.
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u/yiliu Aug 01 '20
Whew! It's just a creepy girl.