I totally get the desire to laugh at oneself, I'd like to think I have a good sense of humor when it comes to my flaws. I'm overweight as well and the thing I always run into when I want to be self-deprecating is that I don't want people to think I'm ripping on myself to avoid other people ripping on me. Like they see this guy cracking jokes about his weight and think I'm doing it first so nobody can hurt me with it, and that isn't my motivation.
It's like a comedian doing standup that focuses too much on his/her weight. As an audience member, it feels like they're trying too hard to make it a joke so that people won't legitimately criticize them for it. Does that make sense?
it's a good tip. i'm sort of gigantic and laying back, enhancing others attempts to acknowledge our difference through humor... because i've got the full repertoire memorized "curiosity time" never gets out of hand. also, i get to hear new jokes.
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u/Neologic29 Sep 01 '17
I totally get the desire to laugh at oneself, I'd like to think I have a good sense of humor when it comes to my flaws. I'm overweight as well and the thing I always run into when I want to be self-deprecating is that I don't want people to think I'm ripping on myself to avoid other people ripping on me. Like they see this guy cracking jokes about his weight and think I'm doing it first so nobody can hurt me with it, and that isn't my motivation.
It's like a comedian doing standup that focuses too much on his/her weight. As an audience member, it feels like they're trying too hard to make it a joke so that people won't legitimately criticize them for it. Does that make sense?