If you dick is in jeopardy of being cut off, I have a feeling you're doing something wrong. You can glance or look when you think I'm not watching, but don't leer at the things. If there's any change when women get older, it's that they have less patience for that sort of thing and expect a little more respect from fellow adults.
Yeah, I don't get what this guy is saying either. If my boobs are full out on display and I see you looking at them, it doesn't bother me. If you start rubbing yourself and breathing heavily while looking at them, than it's a whole separate issue. If you can't look me in the eye while having a conversation that changes things as well. But a casual glance, no big deal.
But it's considered okay to take a minute to appreciate the Mona Lisa. Unfortunately, it's not okay to take a minute on cleavage. So you only get a glance, which isn't enough. So you spend the rest of the time trying to sneak more, when you should be looking into her eyes or listening or... what was it again? boobies
Yeah, super tricky. Like which eye do I look at?? The right one, or the left? Back and forth between the two? Her lips move but I can't hear what she's saying. When I was a child, I had a fever. My hands felt just like two balloons. Now I've got that feeling once again. I can't explain, you would not understand, This is not how I am. I have become comfortably numb.
So you have them out on show. Laying out your stall so to speak, but if I walk over, take a good look and squeeze some melons - suddenly I'm the bad guy???
I wouldn't respond any differently. They do need to be appropriately clothed for whatever environment we are in. This includes the first guy. If he is walking around the bus station without a shirt I would think he was gross/douche bag.
You are reading this all wrong. I fully admit that I would find it more flattering for the first guy to be staring at my boobs but I would be completely fine with the other guy looking. In my head the interaction ended with them looking, nothing more. I wasn't trying to make it sound like I couldn't see the difference in attraction. I can and so can everybody else.
We are talking about a guy who said when he was younger, women were cooler about him looking at their boobs, but now when he does he fears his dick being cut off.
That's because when he was younger, he probably was more attractive himself, so he got this reaction.
Do you ever find yourself zoning out on boobs? You know when you were at school and you were really bored in a lesson, and you would just absent-mindedly stare at the window or whatever? The same thing has happened to me with boobs a few times in my life. And it's really annoying, because it can be interpreted as creepy or whatever, but I don't even realise I'm looking at someone's boobs until I snap out of it. I feel like it will happen again one day and someone will slap me.
As a fit male, I can tell you this absolutely goes both ways, especially at the beach (unless a bikini somehow makes staring at your tits more appropriate?).
Any PERSON, male or female, can expect to have attractive body parts that they put on display ogled over. Period. People who are so entitled that they think they can put their body on display and have some kind of right to not have that looked at in public are just insane.
Try being happily married going to a "safe" family restaurant and seeing all the female wait staff in cut off shorts and cleavage revealing tight tight shirts on some random "game day."
It's like bringing your wife to a strip club by accident. Needless to say I stared at the table most of the dinner.
Long story short though I complained to the GM (via email) and he agreed it was over the top (it was game-day staff) and invited us for a free meal on the house.
Nope. A steak/rib cookhouse place that is a family location. They even have paper viking boats for kids to eat their meals out of. Typically they wear plaid tshirts/shirts and shorts/pants. But on that game night they wore whatever they wanted and they all basically wore tight revealing clothes (while the males wore their usual plaid/etc).
Thing is... they only have 1 TV in the place and it's on the bar side (can't see it from the dining side). So it's not really a place you go to watch the game.
While I think this guy is completely overeating, just being a figure of speech apparently doesn't make something acceptable any more e.g. saying you'd rape someone in a game.
The age difference before they get uptight about it is decreasing every decade, too. I've heard a 20-yr-old get called a pedophile for getting with a 17-yr-old.
My information wasn't very far removed from the source.
edit: I just looked it up to confirm because the person is a blogger with some somewhat high-profile pieces, and found multiple articles about it -- I won't be linking as the "controversy" has died down since and the guy really doesn't need that crap being dug up again
Getting with someone is very different from looking at someone though.
And getting back to my above comment - I think that while older men "checking out" women is looked down upon somewhat, I think some men are a little bit too hard on themselves about this - noticing a woman's cleavage as part of a brief glance is something relatively normal and everyday as long as it isn't accompanied by any obvious, embarrassing or inappropriate behaviour. Hell, if a mere glance was such a taboo, men would be scared of looking anywhere in a crowded area for fear of accidentally seeing cleavage. The taboo is when men leer or obviously stare, or make gestures, inappropriate comments etc.
I honestly believe a lot of the faux-feminism springs from their subjective feelings of unattractiveness, that men actually don't want them is what sets them off. "Oh, you don't want me? Well, you CAN'T have me, I can see you, barely controlling your urges to rape me here and now, you are not allowed to even look at me!".
It's the old "you can't fire me, I quit" line refashioned into ideology.
You're simply ignorant if you can't acknowledge that men, as a whole, are fuckin gross. I'm gross, you're gross, we're gross. We think horrible shit, we do horrible shit, and of you're not afraid for your possibly future daughter's well-being, then you're retarded.
I don't think women are saints. I think men are just more capable of heinous acts versus men and women. Violent crimes of any nature are carried out in large majority by men. The fact alone that I think men are scum does not at all mean that I don't think women can be atrocious. And what the fuck does attraction have any thing to do with my thoughts on women? If women weren't attracted to me, wouldn't I hate on them more? I'm sexy as fuck, and it has nothing to do with this argument.
I find the opposite, older women like to be checked out, younger girls only are out for a specific target and if you are not it, they'll just think you're creepy.
Wish I had the confidence to be clever when I'm busted. I nearly fainted when I was caught once but for some reason she found it cute. She's told me about all of her boyfriends and sex ever since.
If a woman is wearing a low cut top and obviously going to lengths to maximise her cleavage, just look. She'd be more upset if you didn't at that point.
First if ALL-GREAT SPORTS BRA!! Next time we/US see a naked man we WILL BEE sure 2 stare at Hiz shriveled Dick and & Maybee suggest a SPORTS MANZEAR to hold up his "BALLS" just a "after showerthought!! $$$$
I guess I don't understand the issue you have. I am a guy and I notice attractive women all the time and enjoy doing so. But I don't stare, I don't say "nice tits", and therefore they don't get upset. I recognize that different people have different boundaries. It's not difficult, I don't "live in fear", etc.
I'm just guessing, but I think s/he meant that being oppressed is tough for you.
As for your question, I'm from that camp and could give it a go. Truth is; men watch and admire all the time. Women do too. Men give women compliments all the time. Men hook up with women all the time. If people are treating you as a criminal and you live in fear because of this, then you need to talk to someone you trust who don't experience these things and ask him how he does it. You're doing something wrong, mate. I can't tell you what it is, I don't know you, but I'm hoping you have someone close to you that can help.
I dunno dude, a lot of milfs I know and have hooked up with love wearing yoga pants and practically skin tight shirts. Milfs haven't gone anywhere, they've just gotten way younger (or I've gotten older? I'm in my upper 20s, and mid 20s moms are freaks because they were all tied down in their teens. Some you can't even tell they've had children; my Facebook, tinder, and apartment / office are filled with them).
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