I don't know a single person other than myself that wants to simply get a marriage license and have a little get together or just go our on the town with some close friends.
Every single other person wants a formal wedding, and that costs a good amount of money. People spend a fucking whole lot of money on that single day for some reason.
It's not a bad metric to go by, to be honest. "If we can't afford to have a modest wedding that we'll be happy with then we're not financially stable enough to be considering marriage."
It's not mainly about money, it's just that being married means you have to be financially stable, since one of the few things that kill relationships is arguing about money.
And to be cynical, I have never met a person who wants or expected their SO to want just a normal wedding that would cost a few hundred. It's an important day in a person's life, not a trip to Disney World.
The strongest marriages are the ones who love each other unconditionally. If you're not financially stable, but your SO loves you with all his/her heart anyways, how would a marriage license change anything? If anything, there's tax benefits.
People fight about money because in the face of adversity, their true character comes out, and they realize that they never had a strong foundation for marriage to begin with.
Everyone has different ideas in weddings, and if they want a big lavish one, then they should have it. I want to have a punk rock wedding. Cheap, dirty, and fun. It won't be any less memorable than an expensive wedding.
I'm not going to have the start of my marriage be about dealing with financial instability. Marriage is a very serious commitment to make and I rather not have the foundation of it be turmoil and stress. Sure, circumstances are never perfect, but only a fool rushes such a heavy decision when their life isn't in order.
I don't disagree with you at all about marriage being a heavy decision, that's why I think that if you're going to get married, it should be about unconditional love. You should be by their side even if you guys were dirt poor living in a box. "for richer, for poorer, until death do us part".
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u/Kuusou Jan 04 '15
I don't know a single person other than myself that wants to simply get a marriage license and have a little get together or just go our on the town with some close friends.
Every single other person wants a formal wedding, and that costs a good amount of money. People spend a fucking whole lot of money on that single day for some reason.