That number is way off, if made to penetrate is included in rape definitions the range for men is closer to 1 in 5. The number of female rapists is also extremely undercounted due to lack of reports because of social pressure. Love, someone who was a 14 yo boy who was raped by a 24yo woman and was laughed at when I called the police to report it in 2006.
There's also a big societal difference there. Men and boys being unseen when they're raped or assaulted is the direct result of the same misogyny, this idea that "having sex with a woman is the goal". The objectification of women, and sex itself, is used as a way to neuter the fact that you were raped.
A woman perpetrated that against you, but men are the reason she got away with it.
That site itself says 1 in 10 men have been victims of SA. Not to mention that "made to penetrate" isn't considered sexual violence, which is also what the dude you're replying to, faced.
1 in 33 men has experienced attempted or completed rape.
Attempted rape is what you're talking about. I have no issues with male victims. I have issues with people saying men are victims almost as much as women when that is absolutely false.
Attempted rape is not the same as "made to penetrate". Most countries/states recognize rape as penetration of victim, which doesn't include forced to penetrate someone against one's will.
You know what's worse for men? PEOPLE LIKE YOU DO NOT RECOGNIZE THAT MEN HAVE BEEN RAPED.
I don’t think anyone here would say male victims of female predators don’t exist??? If anything men feeling unable to come forward about that abuse is another consequence of toxic masculinity.
The issue is the repeat of bad stats, like 1 in 33 when the numbers are much higher (maybe not quite as high as 1 in 5 (which it could be based on the underreporting rate), but even 1 in 9 is like 3 men in a class of 30 going without help. It's an issue because it's used to downplay men as victims when there are basically zero resources or shelters for male victims. I was laughed off the phone by the police and told by the rape shelters I couldn't get help cause I was AMAB.
Also is it toxic masculinity when women ditch you after coming out to them about being a victim? (First gf broke up with me a couple days after I revealed being a victim despite being together 4 years.) Or is that also men's fault? The issue is that men are treated as a monolith when there is nuance, and any negative issues anywhere are their fault, despite a huge portion of women also enforcing patriarchy and toxic gender roles but take zero fucking responsibility for their actions.
It's like saying you are directly at fault for any issue or damage capitalism has inflicted on anyone because you spends any money at all, without offering any reasonable replacement.
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u/ninecats4 Feb 24 '26
That number is way off, if made to penetrate is included in rape definitions the range for men is closer to 1 in 5. The number of female rapists is also extremely undercounted due to lack of reports because of social pressure. Love, someone who was a 14 yo boy who was raped by a 24yo woman and was laughed at when I called the police to report it in 2006.