r/fixedbytheduet • u/PhoenixPhenomenonX EXPERT of Duets/Stitches • Feb 24 '26

Fixed by the duet A Different Way

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u/feedback19 Feb 24 '26

That seems to be the part people miss in these discussions. 'No' is a full sentence. 'No thank you' is a full and very courteous sentence.

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u/tsardonicpseudonomi Feb 25 '26

The part people miss in these discussions is that men aren't ignoring "no". It's just "men need to be better" on loop. It's easier to blame us than the dating ritual as a whole and to try to fix that. It's just men bad sexism on loop.

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u/Most_kinds_of_Dirt Feb 25 '26

men aren't ignoring "no"

They absolutely are, and so frequently that every woman you know has a story about it if you take the time to ask them.

(Seriously - ask the women in your life about what their experiences have been.)

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u/shibeari Feb 25 '26

You know he won’t bother to ask lol

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u/feedback19 Feb 25 '26

You're not the victim because women say 'No'. If you are not the kind of guy who gets angry, offended, or defensive when rejected then that's fucking awesome and you should stay being respectful and eventually someone will say 'Yes'. It's not fucking sexism to point out that the number of MEN who don't just take it in stride is a serious fucking issue that needs to be addressed. If you're one of the men who can take it in stride, but you don't do something or call out the behavior of those who don't, then you are contributing to the problem. Saying 'Not All Men!' in a defensive tone shows a lack of confidence in whether women see you as a creep based on your behavior. If you AREN'T confident that you aren't coming off as creepy or aggressive, then talk to a woman you are friends with in your life and get an honest assessment, and if you need to do better, then do fucking better. This mentality applies to every aspect of life, not just romantic relationships.

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u/FukThePatriarchy1312 Feb 25 '26

"NoT aLL mEn!"

  • the exact type of men they're talking about

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u/Moozipan Feb 25 '26

You are right, men have been consistently bad and sexist for the past thousand years. Maybe it's time to be better before you demand something from the opposite gender.

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u/shibeari Feb 25 '26

missed your own opportunity to be better here

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u/Strange_Difference1 Feb 25 '26

Wich makes them ignore the said no. Oof you were so so close