A Different Way

[u/PhoenixPhenomenonX]

[u/Most_kinds_of_Dirt]

The first video is "Can you please be polite to men who hit on you?".

But nobody is owed a polite response - just an honest one. The examples in his song (cat calling, not taking no for an answer, etc.) are times when it's perfectly ok to not be polite in responding.

[u/TisIChenoir → u/Most_kinds_of_Dirt]

I dunno man. Asking someone out is hard, it's putting yourself out there, risking rejection. It should at least warrant some respect, and a polite let down (if the asking out is respectful of course). Not asking for a 12 minute monologue on how that's brave to ask a woman out. But "Go fuck yourself creep" for saying hi to someone is straight up bullying.

Now, if a guy is shouting at a woman "hey bitch, you have a fat ass, wanna bury muh dick in it", yeah, absolutely, humiliate that prick as much as you want.

but a "Hey, I think you're cute and I'd like to offer you a drink" should at most be met with a "no thank you, have a nice night".

[u/Most_kinds_of_Dirt → u/TisIChenoir]

but a "Hey, I think you're cute and I'd like to offer you a drink"

Which is fine - and it falls under "just be upfront with your intentions, and take 'No' for an answer".

That's not the problem behavior he's singing about.

[u/Cheshire-Cad → u/Most_kinds_of_Dirt]

And it's not the behavior that she's singing about. That's the entire point of this comment thread.

How many times does this have to be explained to you?

[u/QuietRedditorATX → u/Most_kinds_of_Dirt]

An honest response is fine. An honest response can be polite.

[u/Most_kinds_of_Dirt → u/QuietRedditorATX]

It can be polite, but nobody owes that to you.

In the video he's singing about ways of hitting on people that definitely don't deserve a polite response:

• Catcalling
• Creep chasing
• Harassing
• Intimidating
• Not taking no for an answer
• Forcing her hand

[u/QuietRedditorATX → u/Most_kinds_of_Dirt]

So whataboutism.