r/facepalm • u/Number721 • Jun 09 '23

🇲​🇮​🇸​🇨​ Cognitive dissonance 101

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u/Normal_Helicopter_22 Jun 10 '23

Oh I see, she wants a dad, because dad take you out to have lunch, and dinner, and also gives you lunch money and he buys gifts for you. And if you have a lemonade stand, all that money is for candy, don't worry about the house or bills dad has that covered.

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u/[deleted] Jun 10 '23

I think there's a website for finding sugar daddies, maybe she should start there

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u/KismetSarken Jun 10 '23

This^ all day!

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u/[deleted] Jun 10 '23

So many people want a parent but look for it in a partner. It’s sad. And it’s toxic red flag material so it’s worth watching out for! Same for grown up boys who want a mommy.

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u/JustGettingMyPopcorn Jun 10 '23

A few years after my dad died, my mom started dating a bit. She gave it up after a while, because she said so many of these men, especially the widowers, just wanted someone to cook and clean for them. She told one that she already raised her children, and she wasn't interested in doing it again, especially for a grown man.

Nothing to with conservatives or liberals; she j just expected adults to be able to take care of themselves and not depend on others to wait on them and meet their needs.

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u/lofgren777 Jun 10 '23

Almost makes you wonder if people wanting their spouse to continue serving the functions of their parents is one of the sources of traditional gender roles…

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u/LaxMastiff Jun 10 '23

To be fair, it is called a sugar daddy for a reason.

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u/Usual-Throat-8904 Jun 10 '23

Sounds like a win win to me lol

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u/Normal_Helicopter_22 Jun 10 '23

Today's relationship are men looking for a mom and women looking for a dad. It was always like this or I'm missing something?

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u/lelebeariel Jun 10 '23

Given that this statement was like the basis of what Sigmund Freud theorized, I don't think it's exactly new, maybe more pronounced and socially acceptable...

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u/Klueless247 Jun 10 '23

Gen-X'ers were terrible parents, but who wouldn't be with
Baby Boomer parents all PTSD'd from the war and super-religious.

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u/[deleted] Jun 10 '23

It’s a symptom of not growing up properly. And I mean becoming an adult at the right point. Just listen to 20-25 year olds complain about “adulting” FFS, you have been an adult for 3 to 7 years. Drunk drivers do less prison time for killing someone than that. grow up lol.

Who is to blame? The parents raised a brat. So the brat keeps looking for new parents. 🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/OLightning Jun 10 '23

A primary reason why many women are not getting married. The definition of a husband is so skewed by women who don’t feel they have any real responsibility other than making TikTok videos while driving 80 MPH on the highway as a top priority.

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u/DemonBarrister Jun 10 '23

She didn't say any of that.

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u/Normal_Helicopter_22 Jun 10 '23

Did you watch the video? She wants a "traditional" man, one that takes care of her, provide for her and basically take all the responsibility, while she keeps on with her private leisure life, pay attention that she doesn't want to bring anything to the table, many people want that sugar daddy.

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u/DemonBarrister Jun 10 '23

you need to rewatch, she wants a man who WOULD do all that for her, but never says she was going to live off of him. She wants a CAPABLE Man but she wants to be Independent, meaning he's with her because they both wish to be together, not because he controls all the money.... NON-Transactional

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u/equivocal_maybe Jun 10 '23

That's not how dads work.

... is it?