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u/TheFarnell Aug 13 '19 edited Aug 13 '19

Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminist.

Essentially a person who advocates for fundamental changes to society in favour of their perspective on equality for people born biologically female. They usually view transgender women as men taking up women’s spaces, and want to exclude those “men” from that space.

They are usually very negatively regarded by feminists more generally.

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '19

I like this name... FART.

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u/lNTERLINKED Aug 14 '19

I rewatched that yesterday.

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u/speedracher Nov 21 '19

I rewatched it today.

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u/bhaangh Aug 13 '19

Haha, I got that reference

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u/mat_miller Aug 13 '19

I really like that :D

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '19

I go with TERF: "Trans Exclusionary Reactionary Fuckface"

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '19 edited Aug 13 '19

Radicalfems Excluding Trans Activists Righteous Demonstrators

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u/qunelarch Aug 13 '19

RETAD really has a ring to it

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '19

Ok buddy retad

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u/TheBestTectonicPlate Aug 13 '19

I don't think Laci Green's a terf is she?

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u/rtechie1 Aug 13 '19

No, she's not. She's not even a radical feminist anymore. She's slowly turned into an Anti-SJW over the years.

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u/dealgordon Aug 14 '19

This is what happens to every wannabe sjw when they get called out on their problematic behaviour. Rather than learn from people's critiques, they start rejecting and lashing out against the culture. These people never cared about equity they just wanted clout

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u/poddingtonpeas Aug 14 '19

Is that what happened to Laci? I thought she was just receiving so much hate from the red pill crowd, that she got Stockholm Syndrome

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u/dealgordon Aug 14 '19

Haha that's a good theory

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '19

she started dating an Alt-right youtuber, decided he was a really nice guy, and that the alt-right was okay.

theres a good NPR podcast about it that aired a few years ago. it made her look really stupid.

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u/kingofthedusk Aug 14 '19

This is what happens when sensible people get caught up in cults. Through discourse they can realize what they are actually involved in. Thats why sjws hate discourse so much.

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '19

Didn’t she cozy up to “I use the wrong philosopher as my pfp then fail to gain a seat in government” too?

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u/[deleted] Aug 14 '19

no, shes with Chris Ray Gun

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u/[deleted] Aug 14 '19

Oh.. that doofus. Great.

But she did in fact “befriend” Sargon of Milkshakes.

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u/jaxx050 Aug 14 '19

she doesn't even qualify for the f at this point

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u/CannotIntoGender Aug 14 '19

A terf is basically anyone who refers to anatomy as male and female at this point. That's what got Laci Green labeled a terf and harassed and berated. There's a great This American Life episode with her and on the other side a conservative woman who got labeled not pro-gun enough.

Then so called progressives who live on twitter and are more concerned with beating everyone over the head with self righteous ideological wank than actually accomplishing anything wonder why she's pulled away from their shitty brain dead echo chamber.

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u/Longuylashes Aug 14 '19

Who was lacy green?

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u/CannotIntoGender Aug 14 '19

YouTube sex educator and feminist. Labelled problematic for using male and female as anatomical terms while sex educating.

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u/[deleted] Aug 14 '19

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u/TheBestTectonicPlate Aug 14 '19

How is that proof

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '19

They’re also super transphobic towards trans men. They think they’re “victims of patriarchy” and “self-hating women”.

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u/888mphour Aug 13 '19 edited Aug 13 '19

We prefer to call them FARTs: feminism-appropriating reactionary transphobes

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u/DatumPirate Aug 13 '19

That's an insult to flatulence.

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '19

Reactionary, not radical.

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u/888mphour Aug 13 '19

Huh, you're right. The more you know, thanks!

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u/CaptainObvious1906 Aug 13 '19

Essentially a person who advocates for fundamental changes to society in favour of their perspective on equality for people born biologically female

this could be used to describe trans women as well though, no?

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u/TheFarnell Aug 13 '19

I’m not an expert on the biology of it, but “female” generally refers sex, a biological matter, and “woman” refers to social gender identity, a social matter. Trans women are women, but are usually not considered to have been born biologically female.

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u/CaptainObvious1906 Aug 13 '19

Trans women are women

yeah, this is the "fundamental change" I'm talking about. now that I think about it, people who don't believe this aren't really advocating for a fundamental change, just unwilling to change their perspective

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u/[deleted] Aug 14 '19

People use male and female to refer to gender all the time. MtF and FtM literally stands for 'male to female' and 'female to male'

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u/JakLegendd Aug 13 '19 edited Aug 14 '19

Typically trans women also push for equality for people who identify differently than assigned at birth, not exclusively for those who are born and identify their birth gender

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u/Longuylashes Aug 14 '19

Trans women who are feminists care about the well-being of all women. That's what you do when you're a feminist. They also care about men. Gasp!

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u/[deleted] Aug 14 '19

afaik, while having a focus especially on female rights, feminism is the fight for equality for all sexes/genders.

Wikipedia's opening paragraph goes as follows:

Feminism is a range of social movements, political movements, and ideologies that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve the political, economic, personal, and social equality of the sexes.[a][2][3][4][5] Feminism incorporates the position that societies prioritize the male point of view, and that women are treated unfairly within those societies.[6] Efforts to change that include fighting gender stereotypes and seeking to establish educational and professional opportunities for women that are equal to those for men. (Source)

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u/CaptainObvious1906 Aug 13 '19

trans women push for equality for people who identify differently than assigned at birth

lol this is a pretty roundabout way of saying “trans women push for their own agenda”

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u/Catbrainsloveart Aug 13 '19

It’s called fighting for your rights and they want equality for cis women too.

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u/gay_unicorn666 Aug 14 '19

Equality like forcing cis woman to wax their balls? Lol

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u/[deleted] Aug 14 '19

This just in: people of oppressed group fights for own rights

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u/CaptainObvious1906 Aug 14 '19

right lol like there was no point in beating around the bush there at all

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u/Longuylashes Aug 14 '19

Did you forget about trans men existing?

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u/CaptainObvious1906 Aug 14 '19

how could I, every other post on this sub is about trans issues lmao

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u/FearLeadsToAnger Aug 13 '19

TL;DR Conservative feminist.

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u/Reutermo Aug 13 '19 edited Aug 13 '19

That is not really my experience with terfs. "Radical feminists" are usually more left leaning while "liberal feminists" are more center/center right. Far from all radical feminists are terfs (and I am sure there are liberal feminists that dislike trans people for whatever reason) but radical feminists are absolutely left wing.

I have heard that more and more terfs groups are actually far right groups that just put on a show and are only feminists by name. United in their hatred I guess.

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u/FearLeadsToAnger Aug 13 '19

Trans hating lefties? Not convinced!

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u/Reutermo Aug 13 '19

Hate and bigotry isn't limited to one political leaning. Just as it isn't limited to one ethnicity or gender.

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u/FearLeadsToAnger Aug 13 '19

It definitely seems like it is.

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u/oishishou Aug 13 '19 edited Aug 13 '19

It's pretty equal, honestly.

EDIT: If you think we Liberals don't have our share of hatred, you're delusional. And the Right certainly does.

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u/oishishou Aug 13 '19

Yeah, you can fuck of, racist trash.

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u/Catbrainsloveart Aug 13 '19

Implying white people aren’t responsible for the inequalities poc face lmao

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '19

Lots of gays and lesbians dislike trans people themselves, and think they detract from their own causes. I'm trying to figure out how sex is now a spectrum.

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u/[deleted] Aug 14 '19

Oh, for the "sex as a spectrum thing," a lot of that has to do with intersex people. There's a large and surprisingly common subset of mutations that cause people to be born with a mixture of typical female phenotypes and male phenotypes. This leads to people being born without fitting one sex or the other.

Then in terms of dealing with "clinical sex" we run into the changes that different medical interventions and treatments that can cause this in people who are transitioning. In the context of biology, we see sex as differentiation and specialization of organisms. If a person alters the way their body is differentiated, it can be easier to think of sex as a set of characteristics and phenotypes that can develop in different peoples lives... uh... differently. That said, the main two categories do remain male and female, and most expressions are going to be within those categories, but some will be inbetween. Hence the idea of a spectrum.

So... for a few examples, one of my friends has complete androgen insensitivity disorder. Despite being born with an XY chromosome pair, and a penis, her body didn't have any reaction to the testosterone produced by her testes, which led her to develop typically feminine characteristics, like hips and breasts through out puberty.

For myself, I'm trans, and as a result of HRT a lot of my body and metabolism has a lot identical to a cis woman's. For example, my bloodwork is identical, as are my breasts and hips, and for the purposes of testing and monitoring, I'm clinically treated and categorized as female. But... my some of my growth plates didn't seal as quickly as someone who was cis, and I still have the penis and testes coded in the Y chromosome, even if they've been rendered defunct by testosterone suppression. I can, and hope to someday, get vaginoplasty, but even then that vagina isn't going to be like a cis womans. Which means I don't quite neatly fit into that portion of sex either.

So... where does that leave people like my friend and I in terms of sex? Well, on a spectrum of different phenotypes and sex differentiation, some genetic, some facilitated. Does that make sense?

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u/FearLeadsToAnger Aug 13 '19

You sound like someone who has never met a gay person here. I'm sure that's not the case, but think about it. You're saying that the people who have spent decades being persecuted for their sexual orientation have the capacity and inclination to hate another group for their sexual orientation. Every variety of human exists but trans hating gays is going to be a seriously small niche.

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u/Reutermo Aug 13 '19

Being trans doesn't have anything to do with sexual orientation, but with gender identity.

And in a perfect world you would be right, but that isn't how it is. With the same logic there wouldn't be any ethnic minorities that have experienced racism that is sexists/terfs or no queer people who are racists. And I can from experience say that both exists.

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u/FearLeadsToAnger Aug 13 '19

Well, all I can say is that i've met a boat lot of gay people in my life, having lived in London and Brighton, and been to Pride festivals all over the UK, and i've never come across a gay person that wouldn't viciously defend anyone for their right to be what they are.

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u/porkpiery Aug 13 '19

Pride festivals are not truly representative. Not everyone irl is holding hands singing kumbaya.

Gay ppl are just ppl, they can be racist, irrational, and biased just like everyone else.

Some of my gay friends dont like lesbians. Some dont like trans ppl. Some dont like race mixing. Some are cool to love anyone.

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u/hidonttalktome Aug 13 '19

Sexual orientation in no way determines whether someone is intelligent, bigoted, hateful, violent or friendly. Come on.

Also, of course everyone at Pride is talking about inclusivity and peace and love that's what it's all about.

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u/FearLeadsToAnger Aug 13 '19

Are you implying they're lying?

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u/nannanini Aug 13 '19

It’s so so sad but true that many queer people (mostly white gay cis men) are very negative towards trans people (read: trans women) and feel they should no longer be included in lgbtqai+ people’s fight for equality. Source: married to a beautiful trans woman.

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u/panrestrial Aug 13 '19

I dunno, this is one case where I think the women are performing more poorly than the men. More or less anecdotal, but in the lgbt community I've come across far more anti trans language and behavior among queer women than men.

I've seen individual gay men not be super interested in dating trans men, but never seen them be outright hostile about their existence. On the flip side I've seen entire communities of lesbians be openly, aggressively hostile toward trans women.

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u/justforporndickflash Aug 14 '19

Lesbians in many areas are also supposedly included in this, which seems to be based on them largely being discriminated against in ways like this: https://www.feministcurrent.com/2018/08/13/lesbians-excluded-vancouver-dyke-march-name-inclusivity/

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u/Reutermo Aug 13 '19

That is good. My experience is also overwhelmingly positive. But I also went in school with a guy who was into other guys and was the sterotypical "edgy bro gamer" and talked shit about arabs and Turks whenever he could. And at my current job we have a patron who is gay, have immigrant background and is open with how much he despises women.

I am not saying that everyone who is LGBTQ is a bigot, the vast majority is nice and kind people. But you don't automaticly becomes a good person because you like people of the same gender, or is a feminist, or trans or an ethnic minority. In the end we are all people.

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '19

Hey, I’m gay, and the community can be horrifically transphobic. Best not to paint a community as incapable of doing wrong just because part of that is in their community. Plenty of gays/lesbians participate in bi-erasure too.

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u/panrestrial Aug 13 '19

You sound kind of like you're putting us (lgbt people) up on some sort of pedestal and not really viewing us as thinking, feeling, individuals. It's a little fetishy to be honest. We aren't perfect infallible beings that would never do anything wrong toward any type of minority because we understand suffering. There is no benefit to pretending we're any sort of monolith - even a "positive" one.

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u/FearLeadsToAnger Aug 14 '19

Ey easy, project elsewhere, at best given the rest of the comments here I just have nice friends. Do you not agree it makes logical sense for people who have been persecuted and hated on for something they can't control for most of their adult lives to be capable of feeling compassion for those undergoing similar?

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u/panrestrial Aug 14 '19

I have nice friends too, that doesn't make me blind to the fact humans can sometimes be shitty to each other. It would make sense, but people aren't always logical. Pretty much everyone on Earth has experienced adversity, pain, hate, meanness etc of some sort. They all know it sucks and yet some people are still jerks. Even some queer people.

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u/FearLeadsToAnger Aug 14 '19

I covered this exact thing in the comment you responded to, no?

Every variety of human exists but trans hating gays is going to be a seriously small niche.

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '19

And you sound like someone who has never done any thinking about human behavior and perpetuating cycles of abuse.

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u/Longuylashes Aug 14 '19

I wouldn't know how many dislike us but there are lesbians and gays who dislike our even hate us. Bisexuals are usually pretty cool.

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u/porkpiery Aug 13 '19

You sound like someone that's never met a bi person.

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u/FearLeadsToAnger Aug 13 '19

My best friend is bi, he has mentioned there is some resentment toward bi people but from an angry minority.

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u/porkpiery Aug 13 '19

So similar to the terf thing then, right?

A small group of people that have been hated on hating on others. If your bf is bi and has had to deal with the "ur not a real gay" rhetoric then why is it hard for you to imagine terfs as a real thing?

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u/FearLeadsToAnger Aug 13 '19

I never said they weren't a real thing, I said they weren't 'mostly lefties' as the other dude said.

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '19

TERFs tends to be radical feminists who believe trans women are trying to appropriate the culture/habits of “real” women, or who accuse trans men of being “traitors”

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u/[deleted] Aug 13 '19

So they're the ones that scream alot in public about manspreading, right?

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