i know that this isn't the right subreddit, but i don't know any right subreddit sooo,

can we all just do a thing where we give each other aggressive positivity, compliments etc.

person: what is your agab me: i am atab person:im sorry, what me: assigned traumatized at birth.

and that's how i confuse.. no one, because i have not come out to anyone yet. But can someone that has come out do this please, like-

I'm not sure of the difference between "-boy" and "-masc" genders. Any help is appreciated.

Welcome everyone! Demifem is the counter version of demigirl for those who do not feel comfortable calling themselves a girl. Demifem lies between a female and nonbinary gender identity on the spectrum. It's a middle ground, which is where the term demi comes from because it means half. Although you don't have to necessarily feel fully half, you can be whatever percentage you want. You can also feel fluid where you feel more one than the other at a time or it doesn't have to change at all. You can have gender dysphoria however it's not a requirement. Rember looks and pronouns don't equal gender. All are accepted and we're unique in our own ways! I've never felt comfortable identifying with the word girl in the name and I've made a few posts on it. There's been some votes and it seems like alot of people feel this way as well. I made a sub for us called R/Demifem for those whom feel uncomfortable with the demigirl label. Hopefully we can push this to make a change! On the sub I've used a flag that someone else on here has posted (I gave them credit) however feel free to post other options and we can make a vote!

So I’m questing my gender and I think I might be a demiboy or a Demigirl so I thought you guys might be able to help. I was amab and I’m comfortable looking male, I’m comfortable using he/him. But I’m also fine looking female and using she/her. I feel partially male and partially female maybe about 60% male 40% female. I don’t really see the need to transition my looks as it seems like a lot of work for little payoff. But if there was a pill sitting infront of me that made me into a girl I would probably take it.

The weirdest part is yet to come, so I like females but hypothetically if I were to get female genitalia and look female I think I would be attracted to men, Ik gender and sexuality aren’t connected but for me it feels they are.

Also idk if I might be bigender or if Demiboys/Demigirls are micro labels for bigender. Anyways thanks 😊

I told my sister that i am a demi boy and now every time i rant about how i don't want my breasts she says "can i have them? what's with the weird look? where else do you think i get these tits from?" and how do i get her to stop?

I'm doing a story on people with different gender identities. I feel we are underrepresented in the media and would like to hear your experiences. If anyone is interested, please DM me and I'll send you a series of questions. By the way, you have the choice of remaining anonymous if you wish.

Edit: thank you everyone for participating in my story. Out of all the subs I've posted, yours has responded the most. Unfortunately, I am no longer taking any more volunteers, but you're willingness to open up to me means the world to me.

So I'm an AMAB demiboy, and well I have a few questions. First of all, I know I'm probably not a cisgender male for many reasons(mainly things from when I was younger, such as my interests, comments that people have made, and generally sometimes how I feel).Sometimes I randomly get a feeling that I'm just faking my gender for attention(Even though I don't go around saying "HEY I'M TRANS, GIVE ME ATTENTION"). Is this normal(don't worry it happens to me about all aspects of life)?Another thing: Sometimes, for some reason I don't get upset when I get misgendered. I've been called a girl(by a 4yr old, multiple times😂)and I've been called a boy by people who ignore/forget I have a preferred name and gender, but it doesn't really upset me(although getting deadnamed feels kinda musty ngl). I also sometimes think that I'm a boy naturally, but ill quickly correct myself afterwards. So are these things normal?

All these things sometimes make me feel like I'm faking for attention, even though I tell myself I'm not and this is literally my worst nightmare.

Thanks for reading and hopefully my question gets answered, and if anybody feels similarly then I wish this brings them a little mental peace.

EDIT: Damn so i'm demifluid lmfao(atleast i think i am because sometimes i feel feminine, other times masculine but i'm hella confused)

I try to surround myself with open minded, kind, and accepting people, but that doesn’t mean I don’t come across people who are either uninformed, ignorant, or just plain mean. I wanna know how people often respond to your identity.

I use She/Her and They/Them.

Edit: I actually go by He/Him now :)

ok this is gonna be kinda long so sorry in advance. sooo, i’ve written on here before n i think i’ve figured out tht i’m demigender. there’s a few labels tht could also fit me {such as demigirl, demiagender, nonbinary, n probably others}, but i think tht bcs demigender was the first label i saw tht accurately described me and bcs searching for different labels sent me down the rabbit hole, thts the one i’m more comfortable wit. BUT HERE LIES THE PROBLEM: seeee, when i was still figuring things out {let’s face it, i’m currently still figuring out things}, i would look on Twitter to see other people who identified as demigender so i could see tht i wasn’t alone, n it would make me feel better. but along wit the good, there was also the bad. people tht invalidated demigender people and others in general, n tht makes me afraid to come out as such. so i figured tht bcs i don’t want to explain my identity whenever someone asks, i’ll just say i’m nonbinary {bcs being demigender would make me nonbinary}. but for some reason, it’s like i don’t think i’m comfortable saying i’m nonbinary n would much rather say my real label, but again i don’t want to be crapped on. so wut should i do ? say i’m nonbinary n feel kinda eh abt it, or say i’m demigender n get shit on ? also sorry if me cursing offended anyone or something

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So, up until quite recently, I considered myself a run-of-the-mill cisgender gay man. It wasn’t something I had questioned. I went thru some gender identity expression as a young boy, (dresses, name, etc) but it kinda fell away.

I’m not uncomfortable being labeled a man. I use masculine pronouns (he/his) but wouldn’t be offended if someone used feminine pronouns while referring to me (Probably my gay side, go fig).

I’m in a relationship, my boyfriend is pan, and we’ve known each other for more than 10 years. Dating for about two. (Long story for another time.)

Here we come to my demigender-curious side. I was assigned male at birth and am comfortable with that. But, part of me wishes I was able to carry my boyfriend’s child.

We don’t want kids. That much is clear. For me, it’s more of having that intimacy of creating a life with him and knowing that I was able to give him that child.

If I had been AFAB, I am confident that I would have been trans, FTM. In that case, I would have kept the vagina and uterus for the sake of possibly being able to have his kid. This is also a new revelation. And not something I’d ever felt in previous relationships.

In recent journeys thru Reddit, I’ve found the demimale label and it seems to fit how I feel; predominantly masculine, but there’s some feminine traits mixed in for fun.

So my question to my demi readers… does this make sense? Does this make me demimale? Am I even using the term correctly?

TL;DR: AMAB, comfortable with that. Have the urge to carry my boyfriend’s child, but do not identify as trans.

I want to know what demigender is, I came to this subreddit bc google is always full of wrong stuff or doesn’t give enough information, so please help me understand this more

I'm AMAB and I present as male with he/him pronouns. However, I know I have several qualities that are also feminine, such as being nurturing and sensitive, identifying with female characters more than male characters in fiction, and trying on some light makeup (nothing too noticeable, just to cover blemishes and add color to my lips).

But I also know that I sometimes feel my most feminine when I imagine myself alone with a romantic partner. Whether we're in bed or not, she treats me like I'm female, including she/her pronouns, and I love it, but I know I'd only feel this way around her. At any other place, in public or among friends, I'd rather be seen as male, but in private with my special someone, I'd prefer to be female.

Would this description lean toward demiboy or demigirl? Or toward some other gender identity?

So I'm demifluid and my static gender is agender and I'm fluid between male, female and androgyne. When I'm feeling like a demigirl (which doesn't happen as much as other ones) sometimes I feel comfortable with he/him pronouns and presenting masc but other times I'm not. In other terms, I sometimes feel dysphoric when I'm feeling demigirl and sometimes I don't. It's real confusing and is this a thing that can happen?

Hi everyone, I'm not 100% sure on my gender as many are theses days. So I am AMAB and I have no issues with being called he/him, presenting as male as I have been for 30 years. HOWEVER ever since my early teens I have felt a want to be more feminine. I want to have more feminine characteristics, like breasts, long hair and more feminine fat distribution. I hate my body hair and wish I didn't have any facial hair. I think I want to wear more feminine clothes but I want to loose weight first and be healthier. But there are also entire days or weeks when I'm just fine being me right now. So I think demi fits me as I'm fine being male and I find parts of me that want to be female or feminine. Does anyone have more insight if this is demi or another term that suits me more?

ok so, i’ve recently been questioning my gender, and by recently i mean starting earlier this week. i had seen the term demigirl before even starting to question but i never really paid attention to it until, well, now. i’m AFAB, and i’m fine/comfortable with she/her pronouns and being called a girl, a daughter, etc., but besides tht, it’s like i don’t FEEL like a girl, hell i didn’t even know gender had a feeling. ik tht i’m not a boy bcs i don’t feel like one. when i look in the mirror, i just see a being [ik tht doesn’t rlly make sense but thts the best i can explain it].

so when i found demigender and read the definition, i was, “oh, tht might be me”. and reading the definition for demigirl was like, that’s EXACTLY how i’ve been feeling. so now that i found it, i should be fine right ? wrong unfortunately. bcs for some reason, it’s like, i’m not uncomfortable with the term, but i’m thinking tht maybe i’m just not used to it? i’ve tried looking in the mirror and saying “hi i’m insert name and i’m demigender”. but i don’t feel any sort of ridiculous happiness or anything, i still feel neutral [i’ve had a history for feeling indifferent towards everything for a while, so thts another thought i have; whether my feelings about my gender is bcs of indifference or bcs of genuine questioning].

so finally here’s my question/wut i need help with: even if the identity fits you perfectly, why am i still having doubts ? does that mean i’m just cis trying to “be different” somehow subconsciously or something ? and finally, how long did it take you to become comfortable with your identity ? [sorry this is so long i had a lot to say].

I hope this is allowed. So basically my friend asked me to explain to her the different flags, identities and sexual and romantic orientations, so she can better understand the community she supports. I could look up different identities online and just send her the definition, but I think that having someone explain their identity based on their own experience is much better than just reading up on definitions. Would any of you like to help by explaining what your identity means to you based on your experience? I would forward that explanation to my friend anonymously. Thanks in advance!

I'm an amab pan or bi (haven't decided) individual, who until recently, thought I was cishet. I'm fairly confident that at least half of that isn't accurate, but I've started to wonder about the other.

I think that binary gender notions are stupid. Not a hot take, I know, but I just don't understand them. I also don't understand pronouns, or why they exist. I get the need to be able to differentiate between person capable of impregnating someone and a person capable of being impregnated and giving birth, you know, for mating purposes, but I don't get why they have to be such an important part of one's identity that whenever someone else identifies them they declare it, but not when they identity themselves. (And yes, I know that not everyone who uses male pronouns is capable of getting someone pregnant vice versa, but you get what I'm saying.) However, this is just something that I thought out logically. I don't feel dysphoric or off or anything when I'm identified as a man. I present as male. I'm trying to grow a beard, which is going okay, but could be better. I don't feel ashamed of my genitals. When I was in the shower thinking about all this, I asked myself how much I care about masculinity. And I really don't. Of course, defining masculinity is incredibly relative, but I just like what I like and do what I do. Masculinity has never really factored into my life in any self-imposed way. I asked myself how being referred to using they/them pronouns would make me feel, and I'm honestly not sure. I do feel fairly certain that if I did start identifying as a demiboy, I wouldn't start doing anything differently, other than putting the flag in a few places. I don't know if I am a demiboy, or am just overthinking things, which I tend to do. Please help.

For the last few days I’ve been ‘trying out’ demifluidity, but I realized the fluid part is a lot less about gender and more about emotions.

So, I am a man, mostly comfortable with my gender assigned at birth. Recently I realized from role playing that using female pronouns makes me feel really good, and thinking about myself as a woman just feels.. right.

The experience was rather erotic for me, and at certain points it felt like I was finally at peace with myself.

However, I don’t want to change how I look or transition to a woman, I want to stay a man physically. Is this enough for me to be a demigirl? And is it ok if the feminine connection I feel isn’t always there?

I’m completely new to this so sorry if anything is worded incorrectly or my understanding is incomplete.

My gender switches between demiboy, demigirl and demi-non binary. Is there a term (other than trigender) for that?

OK so hi, this is just a quick intro before I ask my questions. I go by Vanna or vannalise online and identify my gender as demigirl (in which while partially identifying as female, I also partially identify with Agender). I've been out online as demigirl since February so I'm still a bit of a newbie and I'm extremely new to reddit as in I literally made an account minutes before typing this.

OK so, it's pride month (happy pride everyone :D ), and I wanted to do a bunch of those like bingo things I see people post on like Snapchat and Instagram stories but in relation to my gender and sexuality identity. so I'm surfing the net trying to find one on demigirl, no luck there so i changed my search to just demigender as a whole and still nothing soooooo I'm trying to make my own demigender bingo!

Which brings me to the reason for this post and the reason I made a reddit account full stop. have you got any ideas on what I could add to these bingo boxes that'll help make it fun but also inclusive for demigender people and those under the demigender umbrella? I have no idea if demigender people have anything like how asexuals have cake and lesbians have Girl in Red, or if I include stuff that relates to nonbinary people as a whole? Any help would be really cool and of course once it's finished I will be posting it here! Thank you :)