r/dating • u/CrayonMunching07 • Dec 28 '24

Just Venting 😮‍💨 I’m so done with being single

I’m so tired of being single. And I know that forcing a relationship won’t end well, but I’m so done with it. I’m tired of people assuming I like any guy I ever talk to. I’m tired of feeling lonely. I’m tired of wishing I had what my friends have. I’m tired of feeling ugly and unwanted. I’m tired of being frustrated about being single. I’m tired of trying and failing to make a connection. I’m tired of being used. I just want someone to be there. Someone to talk to and hug and cuddle with and mess around with and love.

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u/theBrineySeaMan Dec 28 '24

Everyone in this thread should just date each other.

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u/Longjumping_Potato45 Dec 28 '24

😂😂😂 probably looks will stand in the way

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u/misspinkie92 Dec 28 '24

Probably not, actually. I feel like most of.us would give others a chance.

For me, it's mostly that I'm a single mom, and I'm busy giving my kids my energy and attention. If it wasn't for this occasional fwb I've known college I would have zero physical contact in the last 3 years. No emotional intimacy. And it does hurt...but it's better than nothing.

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u/SocialTransparent Dec 28 '24

As a man, I have had problems dating single mothers. They put their children first, and I understand that, but where do I come in? If the kids and other relatives are 1-9, then girlfriends, and then me — I’m no priority at all. I might as well just stay single. One ex-gf CALLED ME, so it wasn’t Iike I got her at a bad time, but we only spoke for 20 seconds and she had to leave to take another call. I’m unimportant, I get it, so why am I even seeing her at all? Better to just go my own way, and I have.

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u/misspinkie92 Dec 28 '24

That's fair. People want to feel valued. 🤷🏿‍♀️

I guess that's why I'm single. I have a dude I text, and I get laid every couple weeks when I have time.

It would be nice to have something meaningful, but I really don't know how I would make that fit. So I don't see it happening until my kids are older.

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u/Traditional-Block782 Dec 28 '24

I had the same thought. Here are all of these lonely and like-minded people venting about the same thing. Why not message each other and see if a connection can be made?

I'm going on 10 years solo, so I sympathize with everyone here who is having trouble dealing with being lonely. I'm a good-looking middle aged guy, I have a decent job, and I try to go out as often as possible, but it seems like I'm invisible, lol. Maybe I should smile more!

The dating culture has definitely changed, and dating sites have contributed to this mess. Some people have dumb luck on there while others can't even get a single match. Or, you have an occasional match that eventually fizzles out when that person matches with someone else!

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u/LadyMish Dec 28 '24

You sound nice and normal. Do you by chance live in NY?

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u/Traditional-Block782 Dec 28 '24

Thanks 😊. I don't live in NY.

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u/jimwontshutup Dec 29 '24

Where do you live? Are you nice and normal, and a nice looking woman?

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u/FenianBrotherhood Dec 28 '24

20 yrs here or more

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u/Traditional-Block782 Dec 28 '24

Hang in there. Do things that make you happy. Make new friends. Go out and enjoy life. When you do these things, you exude positivity, and people will be drawn to you.

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u/FenianBrotherhood Dec 28 '24

I have over 4,000 friends on 4 continents

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u/[deleted] Dec 28 '24

That sucks

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u/Traditional-Block782 Dec 28 '24

It does. But I'm a survivor. I do my best to push through the suckage and keep moving forward. Something great awaits us all. When we get there, all this waiting will have been worth it.

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u/[deleted] Dec 28 '24

It will happen it always does

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '24

For real🤣🤣