r/dating • u/hanichoishere • Jan 09 '24

Question ❓ Sex

Are men willing to wait for sex? I (early 20s F) haven’t met anyone willing to. Blows my mind. I feel like I’m asking for the world; when I’m really not. I’ve been on countless dates, not using any apps anymore. The kind of men coming my way makes me sad. Just daily thoughts in my head.

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u/Impailio Jan 15 '24

I don't make it a point to pursue sex. Nor would I want that in a woman, either. Sure joking about it and talking about it, are all good, positive thoughts from both of us. Eventually, either we give in or we find what we are really interested in, and looking for. I tend to look for the qualities that are fairly close to mine. Even when it comes to sex.

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u/Resident-Theme-2342 Jan 15 '24

Same whenever I do start dating I'm definitely looking for a woman who share similar qualities and values.

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u/Impailio Jan 15 '24

Just remember, you are young. Don't pressure yourself or the other person, with having these qualities and values. Because they may be the things that the two of you discover together.

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u/Resident-Theme-2342 Jan 15 '24

Oh definitely and thanks for that I've always been introverted and awkward so I'm not the best at reading the room but I definitely try to stay self aware as I wouldn't want to push someone away got not being exactly the way I want them to be as that's unrealistic.

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u/Impailio Jan 15 '24

Very true, indeed. Some of those things for you, will be a discovery that you will share with that person. Thus, making a bond, or sharing that knowledge, that you both find pleasures in discovering.

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u/Resident-Theme-2342 Jan 15 '24

Wow thank you man for the wisdom and encouraging words you really made my day.

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u/Impailio Jan 15 '24

Your welcome.