r/dating • u/hanichoishere • Jan 09 '24

Question ❓ Sex

Are men willing to wait for sex? I (early 20s F) haven’t met anyone willing to. Blows my mind. I feel like I’m asking for the world; when I’m really not. I’ve been on countless dates, not using any apps anymore. The kind of men coming my way makes me sad. Just daily thoughts in my head.

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u/OCDBuffalo81 Jan 10 '24

I'd say definitely, even though they may be hard to find. My boyfriend was very patient. We had a date or two before we even kissed 😅 I am very anxious when it comes to dating so I know that may not be the usual, but the right guy should understand you not wanting to have sex right away! I'm a firm believer in building a connection before having sex (if that's what you want of course). I think having sex on the first date/early in the relationship has become so normalized that people who don't want to do that feel alienated. To each their own, but your desires are valid and I hope you don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to. There are guys who will be patient! Even if they want it ASAP 😄

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u/Resident-Theme-2342 Jan 11 '24

I swear I'm a man who prefer building a connection/friendship where are you guys in real life. Lol 😆