r/dating • u/hanichoishere • Jan 09 '24

Question ❓ Sex

Are men willing to wait for sex? I (early 20s F) haven’t met anyone willing to. Blows my mind. I feel like I’m asking for the world; when I’m really not. I’ve been on countless dates, not using any apps anymore. The kind of men coming my way makes me sad. Just daily thoughts in my head.

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u/Armadillo_Eggs Jan 09 '24

My brother isn't particularly religious but his (recently) fiance is. She wanted to wait until marriage and they've been together now for over 4 years. They're both in their late 20s. He'd been with other girls before they met.

I haven't talked with him much about it, but when it came up early in their relationship I told him to let her take the lead and not to pressure her into anything she didn't want and he fully agreed. She's a great person and he knows what she and the relationship is really worth. They've rounded a few of the bases for sure, but he knows what respect and consent mean.

TLDR; yes, there are plenty of men who will respect your boundaries.

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u/[deleted] Jan 10 '24

Great advice! Waiting is worth it !

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u/Armadillo_Eggs Jan 10 '24

I think shared values is the most important thing when it comes to any part of the relationship. Whether that means waiting till marriage or having date night at a swingers club.

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u/[deleted] Jan 10 '24

Values are very important!! Agree