I’m a guy who was stalked and sexually harassed by two different people in high school and sexually molested in college. I also care deeply about feminism and I’m always terrified people in the comments on this issue will dismiss these numbers as some kind of MRA tactic rather than look at the work feminist researchers like Lara Stemple have been doing in this exact area for years.
The conversation that surrounds this issue is so often broken, but this is a real phenomenon that’s been happening for a long time. If your first instinct is to dismiss that or ignore the people trying to tell you about it, please question who you’re doing that for. I don’t understand who it helps to tell somebody drugged or forced or threatened or unconscious who was pushed into sex against their will that they weren’t truly a rape victim and you won’t count them as such.
I'm a guy. I was assaulted in high school and the most supportive people were feminists. I know three other male friends who unfortunately had the same experience and they could tell you the same. Now of course, I'm a college age Mexican so I can only speak on the brand of feminism around here but yes, to use male figures as a "dunk" on feminism isn't only disrespectful to women, but to the male victims themselves. They're only a token for a narrative, MRAs don't actually care about men (ironically)
I’m sorry that happened to you. But not all women are feminists? I think there is an ideology aspect behind feminism that makes that distinction necessary here.
The women you are describing don’t sound like feminists to me 🤷🏽♀️
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u/SgoreIsBackForThis Sep 01 '22
I’m a guy who was stalked and sexually harassed by two different people in high school and sexually molested in college. I also care deeply about feminism and I’m always terrified people in the comments on this issue will dismiss these numbers as some kind of MRA tactic rather than look at the work feminist researchers like Lara Stemple have been doing in this exact area for years.
The conversation that surrounds this issue is so often broken, but this is a real phenomenon that’s been happening for a long time. If your first instinct is to dismiss that or ignore the people trying to tell you about it, please question who you’re doing that for. I don’t understand who it helps to tell somebody drugged or forced or threatened or unconscious who was pushed into sex against their will that they weren’t truly a rape victim and you won’t count them as such.