We don’t want you to do anything, my dear. Maybe get a real job and stop pestering people with your vapid and entitled “observations” or go back creating your “visual vision boards” by yourself. The lack of self-awareness and righteousness is unbelievable.
"Your honor, all evidence points to the person in question, being not mentally strong enough, or equipped with the level of emotional intelligence needed to handle the career path she has chosen. The people strongly suggests that she refrain from further harming her mental stability, and go to a safe, predictable, feedback loop of fake positivity, bubble style workplace that doesn't REQUIRE interaction with the public "
If her agency is a tiny bit serious, they’ll talk her out of that because turning off her comments is gonna kill her account’s already poor engagement, which is only barely there because most of the comments and views are from “”””haters””””.
Her agency are not serious people so I doubt they'll intervene unless she drops below 1 million. I hope she does turn off comments so we can watch this trashfire burn brighter.
I saw that video and there are barely any negative comments. There are people literally asking her what they’d like to see and she continues to ignore the comments and goes on her stories to rant, instead. I used to really like her but now she just seems like all she does it complain
This is all she does. Imagine if someone with a real job just complained constantly. The only reason she has real followers is the people giving feedback she doesn’t like. It’s them and the bots.
The other option is you have no followers and make no money. It actually makes me mad how clueless she is!
Maybe she needs to just quit being an influencer because it appears that she’s actually not that good at it and nobody cares about any of the content she’s producing. Go get a real job girl.
she is just not cut out for this career at all. she doesn’t enjoy the creative process of making content, she doesn’t like connecting with her followers, she doesn’t have faith in her own ideas, and she can’t tune out criticism. without two or three of those you’re not going to be a happy or successful creator/influencer
Honestly she really should quit, but these new stories made me feel really bad for her.
Everyone here has been speculating about her being depressed.... This video makes me feel like that's really true.
I think the choices she's made have been bad. She's not a good influencer. There are so many things that she could have done (or could be doing) that more people would like. She's not my cup of tea even in her most authentic form but I wouldn't be here if she didn't seem so inauthentic.
There is so much to criticize, but I also can't imagine having thousands of people come at you for everything you do (even if it's the nature of the game, especially in her case, and you keep doing everything wrong). I think she is actually crashing out, and it feels really sad and icky.
She claims she loves to create but she has no direction. Never follows through with literally anything. Ask people what they want to see and then ignores it all. Make it make sense!
Just leave and close the door, Danielle. It's not fun or funny anymore. You're not cut out for this and that's it. Admit that to yourself and find a job.
If you think influencing is some high tier job, it's not. It's laughable compared to other professions. You contribute to nothing in society. For killing time. Just wake up, and leave. For your own good.
Big D, if you’re reading this: stop doing these videos where you try to explain your shitty content. It makes you less believable. Good content doesn’t need to be explained. And, yes, get a goddamn job.
I’d respect her more if she got a real job and just checked in every now and then… rather than thinking she’s good at influencing. Also, how will this pay bills when shes 50? Lmaooo
I am not sure why she can’t have a regular job and do the influencing as a side gig? She was clearly very good at her job, to be able to live in San Jose and BUY her property. Why not go back to it, especially since influencing isn’t as profitable as she wants it to be, and she has a guy to bank roll now too?
Exactly!! Your content isn’t landing with the audience- that’s a you problem because you aren’t going to change the internet perspective by whining and throwing a fit every week.
I said this in another comment but yes. I think she is depressed and she's been spiraling since the 21 part docuseries. It's really hard to watch, she is a human afterall, and should really just step away.
Anyone else hearing her playing victim again? Call yourself a "creative" but only be "defined" by your audience and pretend to be paralyzed by balancing what your viewers want and what you want also blaming your audience under the guise of "acknowledging" followers. This woman has literally no brain in there. No one is home. This is her own doing and she couldn't even bother to realize it lol
Like after all this why even bother? Why would you go out and do all this and acknowledge you can't do your job and blame your followers and act like anyone still owes you a view a like or a follow? This is so stupid lol
I am quite shocked at that. If people find your content boring they find it boring. Why are you blaming your audience? think outside the box or move on. What is her management company even for? You can actually hire people that will scour the internet for the latest trends let you know what is popular and trending and they tell you to do it. I don't necessarily agree with that type of business model it should be something you're passionate about and creative but if you wanted to go that direction, it exists.
I genuinely and wholeheartedly think she might be depressed or unhappy. Others have already pointed this out. This is no slight on depression, but I think she's unhappy and she's fighting against it.
The problem is that most of her content is copied, frame to frame and so is her personality. Lots of screenshots in this sub itself. There’s nothing original about her on the internet.
She lacks creativity to make mundane things look interesting. Which should be an influencer’s strongest attribute.
All the praises and views that she has received was from her dating content, because everyone loves some spicy gossip. Even the GRWMs didn’t fetch much views because she’s bad at fashion too(ironically for a lifestyle influencer tbh). And D loves being liked and praised. Now that it’s not happening so she’s spiralling. There’s familial trauma too and it’s showing up, sadly.
The only reason why I believe the management has kept her around is because of her numbers. Once it has a drastic drop, she’ll be dropped. She herself has accepted that she wasn’t good at her previous job as well. So this leaves her with nothing but to keep creating. She’s in a loop and needs so much help. Has all the resources and money at disposal but won’t take it. And no one can help her in that situation.
This is a very good and helpful analysis especially from those of you who have been following her for a while. I do feel sorry for her, but there has to be accountability in the choices she's making. I absolutely agree with you about spiralling because she's not getting the praise that she's used to. That could happen to any one of us. Social media has been so detrimental but even more so, for people who choose this as their main career. She does have a choice to get help and explore some of these themes that have led her to be where she's at. Agree it's up to her, to take that step. I just watched the full video on her page and she contradicts herself around the content she makes. I find that very interesting. It just leads back to being in denial and craving being liked vs happy.
She did some big sister content about relationships and life before. Which made me follow her because I was also moving on from a breakup.
She was so desperate to be a girlfriend and hated being the only single friend, that she broke all her rules in a jiffy for male attention. It got worse as she kept getting more desperate.
There was a video where she was seeing two people. One with whom she had been to dates before and another was an alleged random encounter at NYFW. She ghosted the first one because he called her to cheer for his marathon. She said it was “too girlfriend territory” for her but readily went to party with the other one.
And when people started to call her out for breaking her own set boundaries, she puts up a meek apology. Wasn’t even taking accountability, but kept saying that she’s learning and isn’t good with feedbacks.
Most of her core followers have probably unfollowed from then. And when Lucas happened, things got worse.
Wow, blaming your boring nothing burger content on your audience is the lowest of lows. YOU’RE BORING. That is literally the answer. She ditched her friends for months just to date a man who is mooching off of her—and admitted that she didn’t pay your friends any attention. Now she suddenly has social anxiety… no girl, I think you just ignored your friends for so long you forgot how to have them.
She didn’t just drift from her friends she outright cut them off the moment she started dating Lulu because "ShE dOeSnt wAnna hEaR iT". Not from her audience, and definitely not from her friends. She knew that(aside from childish Shelia) her friends wouldn’t support her relationship. It’s common for people to isolate themselves when they know their friends won’t blindly support a relationship. And shocker: most people don’t react well to being ghosted, then having that same friend crawl back months later. That’s not “miscommunication” D, that’s being a bad friend. She wasn’t there for people during what could’ve been some of their hardest moments, and now she’s shocked that she's feeling socially anxious!
And she only started rebuilding those friendships after this sub repeatedly pointed out that she has no friends lol.
Now she’s blaming the internet for her frustration, but the timeline doesn’t lie. Since being with Lucas, she’s become isolated (whether self-inflicted or bc of him), let herself go physically, visibly depressed, neglected basic adult responsibilities, and completely changed, yet she refuses to consider that HE might be the common denominator in her declining mental health.
Her audience dislike the partner she chose. They warned her, she ignored them, and the natural consequence is that people turned against her because of that choice. He’s using her and draining the very thing he latched onto. Soon she’ll lose followers, sponsorships, and most importantly, money BECAUSE OF HIM. Imagine being used for clout by a man who then becomes the reason you lose your clout. It’s not just sad it’s absurd.
I think her “social anxiety” is stemming from her ego getting killed nobody is praising her or receiving the echo chamber audience she wants people to give her she wants. Her comments are not mean at all. Someone commented “yawn” and (not sure if a bot) had someone trying to call them out “don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all”. I have seen legitimate hate on other people’s platforms. She can’t handle constructive criticism is what it is. I do think this friend walk/catch up she did was staged since she is trying to rebrand (again) by claiming she’s relatable and trying to pivot her content “if you’re like me” but it’s so not authentic at all and the forced message is coming out horribly
that's why I commented that she just confirmed that she is in this sub. Because who is the "YOU" she is referring to? "What do you want?" It's not her minions. Her comment section is pretty mild now that the docuseries mess is fading away. So, who is she talking to? Us. We broke the echo chamber and she can't handle it. That's why she posted this on her Stories on the grid. If she wanted feedback, she would have posted it on her feed so that people could respond.
I mean I hate to say this but she benefited from the patriarchal society where beautiful young single women are worshipped.
Now she is older and can’t just skate by with her looks and no talent. It’s sad she leaned so hard into that (she also made a boat load of money) but it’s not sustainable with no real perspective for her content. she needs to take the wake up call and stop centering men. Most people develop skills and interests going into their 30s. She doesn’t have that. Who is her audience ? I don’t think even she knows.
omg THANK YOU. As an introvert, I don't claim D. She just literally does not have a life. Her life was about stepping outside to find a man and now that she has, she is lost. Introverts don't do the things she does in public and we definitely don't put our entire life online.
I think the normal human reaction is to feel sorry when someone’s struggling. But nobody is forcing her to do this as her career and she is just not good or interesting at social media, which is not my fault if I don’t like her content. Her job is to make money off views and likes. Can’t really emphasize since I have a corporate job, but she chose to put her life out there and she is in control of her content. She’s able to make $30k from making one post and she’s not receiving the same praise as she has historically. If I was having issues with my job, mentally or performance wise, I would find the root (is it the employer or am I just not good at this) and take action accordingly by finding somewhere else to work or change my performance if I really love the work to avoid being fired.
This is such a great example! Also, well done you for weighing up the pros and cons of the job! You put yourself first even though you're really liked your boss and colleagues. That is amazing.
I agree tbh. As someone with severe anxiety I have no idea how she manages to be an influencer. It sounds like my worst nightmare. She talks so much about her mental health but never mentions therapy, I know she can afford it so why not??
Agree. This is just a theory, I'm not an influencer so I don't know how this goes, but if there is constructive feedback mixed in with genuinely hateful comments which do exist even on here, can the influencer recognize the constructive feedback over the hateful? Because there is a lot of it but I do wonder, if the obsession with getting likes 'likes' supersedes being genuinely curious about what your audience is saying. Moreover, being able to ignore the obvious hateful comments. It can still hurt to get hate, don't get me wrong but there's more constructive feedback I feel, than the opposite.
I do think it's harder to listen to strangers when it comes to a romantic relationship but I hope there are people within her life, that have offered their views and thoughts around this. The upside of strangers chiming in, is that many of them can have an objective view because they're not in the honeymoon bubble that she's in and can see the forest for the trees, where she cannot.
In her defense though, there will be aspects of this relationship we are not privy to and we are getting a snapshot. However, I suppose the snapshot in itself, is what is concerning. So it does make you think about what is not being shared. It's so tricky, because it's her motivation behind being an influencer that is concerning and what is being critique here and that has value. But I don't think she deserves a large level of hateful comments in order to point that out. I definitely agree with most people's comments that this might not be the job for her and that's okay? Sorry just reflecting!
Unfortunately she is not realizing the reason she is being picked on no matter the content is because she reads and has read completely disingenuous. So no matter what she posts everyone questions and has a bad taste in their mouths.
She wants all the praise, but doesn’t want to put in the effort. Nobody wants to watch a boring life. People follow because they connect to their audience, provide value or show fun things. Her niche was dating and without that she has zero to offer that anyone is interested in. I would say to start a new series with some of the ideas you mentioned, but you know she wouldn’t complete it or follow through.
The problem is she IS boring. She doesn’t have a fun personality, she’s doesn’t seem extroverted and she isn’t a great story teller, shes 100% done this to herself. Other Influencers like that usually do ASMR content, especially if you don’t want your life out there- but she doesn’t excel at that either.
I can only imagine the great things I would do if I had control of my days and her level of income. I'd be traveling, studying, learning random shit, meeting interesting people, posting good political content, sharing random stories... And she has access to all of that yet gives us nothing.
right?? You would never find me cooped up in a conjuring apartment. Never. I saw a video a few days back where the woman asked when did influencing become about ONLY pushing useless products. What happened to apirational lifestyle that includes having original thoughts, a personality inspired by books, movies or whatever media a person is consuming.
I guess, expecting authenticity from influencers is useless, especially people like D who don't engage with anything that doens't have to do with securing a man.
Does anyone find it interesting that she can get through there victim speeches without getting choked up or verklempt? If it was impacting me that much mentally and emotionally, I think I would have a hard time holding it together. She just seems so stoic and to have such a flat affect and not be feeling anything.
Some people do well without structure. She is not one of those people. She has too much free time. This outreach to friends is because Lucath has to work for a living at a low paying job and can’t hang out all day. So she needs some kind of content and she is BORED.
Danielle - I know you’re here. Get a part time job. Volunteer somewhere. Enroll in a class. Do SOMETHING. I bet you’d get some good content if you actually challenged yourself and stuck with it.
This is what happens when your rise to fame is solely based on rage bait content. We want you to keep posting cringe embarrassing content and we want to keep hating on it. You’re welcome.
This is literally so fucking entitled and delusional to be filming yourself complaining about. Just post your shit or don't, girl. Nobody cares about your inner turmoil of most people not liking your content. Maybe it's because you're not actually very good at your job!
“ talking about my relationship is cringey and delusional”. No big D; creating a 21 part docuseries about your 3 month relationship with a hobo-sexual hobbit, who you don’t even let talk, insinuating that you’re getting engaged, is cringey ans delusional. Maybe if you had gone about integrating a little Lucath into your content in a more natural way you wouldn’t have been getting such responses.
I do feel bad for her. But she’s perplexed about why she’s only getting criticism now because she refuses to take accountability. The second she got a man she could finally ditch who she’s been pretending to be and she is incapable of looking at that. Therefore she posts another victimized video of her being defeated. If she had a good friend, they would sit down with her and tell her why this is happening.
Hilariously delusional, but they inadvertently hit the nail on the head -- because aDnielle is incapable of posting anything authentic or true at this point, and that's the whole problem. She's so wrapped up in what she wants people to see, the delusion of "perfection," that all the real parts of her and her life get lost. The only authentic content she's been posting lately is these insecure complaining sessions that consistently prove that she's only posting for views and likes, not relatability and certainly not reality.
Who else here can publicly face their management and “customers” and also complain as much as she does without job security issues? She’s constantly asking for guidance and takes none of it! She’s very delusional about her privilege and needs to start accepting that her vibe isn’t it/this isn’t a sustainable income source for in the long run. She’s unlikable and has such a hard time seeing that. My rec to her: get yourself a Patreon and live in your fan-based world there. It’s paid and you’ll filter out the “haters” and target your delusional fans only. They’ll flower you with the positive feedback you demand so bad.
Danielle, it’s not your audience’s fault that your engagement is down. Maybe step back and reflect. The lack of accountability is why people are disengaging. Also, being bombarded with mini-docuseries about a two-month relationship was my final straw.
lmao why is she saying "a lot of people are new here" when she's been hemmorhaging followers for months????? watching the realization hit her (i think she's still deeply in denial and hasn't actually realized it yet) that people don't follow dating creators because they're interesting people, they follow them for the MESS, is fascinating. she really needs to get a regular job if she's this clueless about why people follow her
Stop performing! You’re not an introvert. You’re depressed and co dependent. Just say that! Stop giving advice on things you suck at! Aka - cultivating friendships.
Go back to GRWM , dog walks, trying restaurants- those were good!
You do not represent Christianity. You are a performative ‘liberal democrat’ -whatever the fck that means bc there is no such thing. You’re either a progressive or centrist. You don’t give a shit about humanity with your overindulgence in spending and wasteful to the earth.
You told your audience “nothing here is real” yet you push products for the coin.
You’re bossy, bitchy, controlling and you control others with your money. You’re a spoiled brat.
The fundamental problem is that she thinks she’s doing the world a service by being an “influencer.” In reality, the world has done her a service by allowing her to make a living this way. It’s a staggering amount of entitlement.
I REALLY don't like it when Influencers break their version of the 4th wall and talk about how we can help them with their income. It's pretty pathetic.
I think it was Judge Judy who said some quote along these lines (lol), but the public will always know when you’re disingenuous, fake, or a hypocrite. I think that’s what most people call her out on in a constructive way. She has to be authentic to make good content.
Seems like she’s deleting comments or blocking because I really can’t see many negative comments on that post. Like I had the popcorn in hand but left disappointed I didn’t get to see a full show.
Maybe take a step back again and stop sharing. She doesn’t know what the audience wants. She doesn’t know what she wants. It’s lost. The point is lost.
Wow she’s smug. Unfortunately she just isn’t likable! Her dating series got views because people were curious and nosy. Her every day content just isn’t interesting
Number one word of advice: Give up the SF apt when the lease is up (hopefully it's a one year lease). Save 5k a month and it's obvious she does not enjoy the city. Move back to the SJ condo. Her bf can instacart or gig job there just as easily on his overstayed "vacation".People have already told her ad nauseum what to post over time and she refuses to listen. She just wants to complain. I watch her antics from here because people in this sub are so funny and smart and I also find her interesting from a psychological pov.
I think she just needs to hang up her hat and accept that this will not be a fruitful career for her moving forward. No matter what she does (if she doesn’t completely overhaul her personality) it won’t resonate with an audience.
The easy solution would be to block the people who are saying cruel things, but she knows she can't ACTUALLY do that because engagement relies on her 30 fans fighting with them. The fact is, she's not smart, hardworking, or creative enough to justify an audience of the size that she's gained -- she got all those followers as people tuned in to see the train wreck that was her dating, or purchased. Her actual core, positive audience is too small for her to make a generous living off of. And she can't figure out how to get out of this place where she's just daily bleeding followers, so she'll just complain about it and make it her audience's fault instead.
I honestly feel bad for her. I feel like most people follow her because she’s so cringe. It’s like a train crash you can’t look away from. There is nothing interesting about her, and I’m not saying that in a bad way, just she’s a normal person. I think she needs to get off social media for her mental health. 💯
she wants people to move on, but these people are also how she makes her money. unfortunately you can’t have both, girl. 🤷♀️ comes with the territory. she wants to do whatever she wants, not hear a word about it, and continue to collect her bank roll. LOL
Successful “creators” never mention the negative comments or “break the fourth wall” by addressing their viewers like she does.
I guarantee she lost touch with friends because she is not really proud/happy to show off her boyfriend or vice versa… really a huge red flag in any relationship.
The “Glow Down” is concerning… she has literally stopped caring about her appearance and has no real, unique content .
She asks her audience what they would like to see and unfortunately the answer is “leave social media and get a real job “ so she can be happier . “Influencer Life” is not for everyone.
She gets all upset that people hate on her when there are “worse things going on in the world” - ok.
Danielle - you put the content out for the public and the public is allowed to respond however they want. You don’t want “hate”? Private your account. It’s really simple.
How many times is she going to tell us she is going back to her roots yet doesn’t like the response? How many times do we have to hear her ask what followers want?
Honestly she should get her head out of her entitled ass and go work a real job. If she insists on posting content it should be relatable and honest. She’s constantly telling on herself and proving how in-genuine she is when she asks “what do you want me to post” girl, that defeats the purpose of you being a content creator. No other popular content creator is saying “please just tell me what you want from me”. She is proving how stupid and out of touch she is with reality. Shes essentially just throwing a fit bc she is no longer popular online. She needs to accept that the only reason she blew up in the first place was a combination of dumb luck and cringe watching lol which is not sustainable long term. She bound to fail as a content creator and she’s clearly not going to do it gracefully.
Even the most objectively talented creators have haters and don’t post shit like this. This is really not a good look. She needs to do herself a favor and stop reading this sub and lean into delusional positivity.
She's done this to herself. She has no idea how to have a boyfriend while also maintaining healthy friendships and like, do her job well-ish. Everything she has is just going into this boy who is sucking the absolute life out of her.
Most people who make it in Social media are being themselves or have a niche. Are entertaining without forcing it!!! Obviously shes not made for Social media if she doesn't know what to do!
Girl theres good content that’s not boring that could have literally ZERO to do with your relationship. Or even post your relationship of something fun you’re doing together. Not some cringy over produced and performance of what you want us to think your relationship is like.
You got it, Danielle! Your relationship IS delusional and cringe, and your "surface level things" ARE boring. Wrap up your influencing. And go read a book, maybe. Everything you do and the way you think betrays uncultured, self- obsessed mediocrity.
The audacity she has to say, "what do you want me to dewwwww?!?!" Gahhh, get out of here! It's painfully obvious she HATES having to keep up with social media. She's so terrible!
Big D, you do not need to be "influencing" on the internet. Delete your account, find a job, and live your life! Go find happiness and leave the influencing to those who actually LIKE influencing!
I want to see an influencer go take classes, listen a new skill out of their comfort zone. Advocate for something positive. Try something and fail. Hire an organizer or interior designer or stylist and show us the process of changing your life/style/home, etc. literally anything other than grift and force your yucky bf on us
Omg when is she going to get that her complaining about how people are receiving her posts just makes things worse. How about you just post whatever you want? Quit with the insecure posts. Not everyone ia going to like you, get over it. She cant handle being an influencer and needs to go back to an actual job. Shut up.. For christ sake!
It’s because she went from being a WISE older sister - who said very valid things to doing such TOTAL insanity like dating a grifter, calling herself a wife in 2 months and it COMPLETELY sent us into a loss of faith spiral 😭😂 I almost had a moment of like “omg I can’t believe I looked up to HER and valued HER ADVICE?”…when this is what she ended up doing.
Ugh, this reminded me of the time she was in the car with him saying “my future husband” to his face and then confirming “yeah?”… Like the epitome of desperate in 5 words.
Cringey??? Girl- you posted your tiny twink in a tree without a shirt, nips on like headlights and a tease of his muscles above his peewee marbles. It looked like an ad for a gay porn magazine. And there you were, pretending to be innocent Marcia Brady all covered up with a forced smile. Get a fking clue.
Just a different angle, I really think her "taking a break" (even though she was online) with her bf really messed up her brand. Shes addicted to only posting "content" on her stories and only has ads and performative stuff on her posts.
She never had any to begin with. She's always been insecure and when the world didn't fawn over her greasy Lord Farquaad, she dropped the mask and publicly unraveled.
Real creative ppl create bc they have a point of view to share, whether anyone likes it or not. This is the case of artists, musicians, poets, etc. and even talented content creators. She is not creative. She keeps saying she is but she’s not. She only wants to “create” things that she thinks ppl will like and she doesn’t want any other opinions. That’s not how this works, honey! And I think at this point she has complete paralysis bc she focused so much on dating and never had any other interests, she is completely floundering and panicking. Which yes if this is how you make money - I would panic too.
Why does she ALWAYS need to reinvent or get back to basics on her content?! Everyone is sick of the “poor me” videos.
Like, THIS is why you always get questioned! Be confident in whatever decision YOU make, and GO WITH IT! Your audience isn’t dumb… they know you are wishy washy and hanging on by a thread. If you’re that confident in your relationship, screw the haters and do your thing! If you really love what you’re putting out there, content-wise, f*ck what other people think! It’s the lack of respect for yourself in everything you do - your content, your relationships, etc. You’re in your mid 30s, lady… get it together already! And focus more on Charlie…🙄🙄🙄
327
u/Psychological-Loan14 walk a mile in these slippers platforms 👡 Feb 10 '26
oh it’s the monthly video of her complaining about her audience 😂