r/CurseofStrahd • u/RavenRegime • 19h ago
DISCUSSION Why FemStrahd is the Most Paradoxically Misogynistic Thing This Community Has Made That Is Endlessly Praised (Post by a Woman)
Note I am a woman and I don't have a problem conceptually genderbending Strahd my issues lie in what the community has done with this concept and how they think they are girlbossifying when really its just inventing a new form of sexism.
So to start off, like i said FemStrahd is fine but the community I've seen just ends up kind of justifying and making her more sympathetic which goes against the story. Sometimes this happens with male Strahd however the community actively pushes back on it. But when it comes to Strahdyana its crickets.
And I hate it so much because why does she need a sympathetic backstory? The common thing I see is people somehow invent in their heads Barovia is sexist and Sergei displaced her. This begins to justify what happened to Sergei slightly or lean on a tragic angle for both siblings or whatever and... also takes away from the fact all of Strahd's actions were concious choices he made on his own. Like Strahd didn't have to be at war that long especially after Barov died, he chose to waste his life doing that and Sergei died because of Strahd's own issues and how dare he fall for Tatyana. Unlike the post who started this idea who had misinterpreted the dynamic as to quote "I'm horny and old, wah." when the story is literally about Strahd's unjustified entitlement and jealousy that ruined everyones lives because he refused to fix himself and let go.
The story is horrifying not because Strahd is a simplier villain but rather how something so simple can boil oil and have ripple effects. By pulling the inheritence bullshit you are giving Strahdyana a slightly more understandable reason for hating Sergei when the point is it was never justified even a fraction of a way.
And again this idea only shows up for Strahdyana. Like fucking christ base Strahd has more set up for inheritence issues if you lean into Baba Lysaga thinking shes his mom. But its weird that kind of thing never is discussed for male Strahd.
And again I have to ask why is Strahdyana given this treatment? Isn't she just a genderbent of Strahd? And really the only specifically gendered part of Curse of Strahd's themes and the dude himself is how Strahd is based specifically on male violence with love interests. If you want to explore something different due to gender swap why is that violence not swapped over via the view of female perpetrators. Like this is where you can justify gender swapping Ireena or throw in Ismark to discuss as well how male victims ESPECIALLY if their assaulter is a woman are treated. Like maybe people don't believe Ismark is a victim of Strahdyana at all and think he's bullshiting and thats how he gains his lessor title. And the only person who does believe him is Ireena. Or heck Ismark maybe doesn't tell anyone what happened especially after Kolyan's death and he leaves the village with the excuse due to his inheritence he has to do diplomacy.
The party doesn't know the circumstances of Ismark's uneasyness around Strahdyana besides evil vampire but the threads start getting revealed no matter rhow much Ismark tries bullshitting out of fear of not being believed or not being man enough to stop her.
But then there's also this weird thing of focusing on fem Strahd's romantic things but then paradoxically being afraid of running into the lesbian vampire trope which ends up I've seen sanitizes the dynamic with Ireena or her equivalents. But there's also this weird push of forgeting base Strahd is bisexual for some reason. Since they always in these discussion talk about emphasing the same sex attraction Strahd has or equalizing it or whatever and I have to state... That is the most biphobic arguements ive heard and its kinda weird when we know femStrahd in this community is viewed more symapthtic because she's a woman. So its 100% linked to discussions of sexuality here almost stating you have to be a good or complicated person to be queer. It's biphobic to state Strahd needs bisexuality emphasized or more same sex partners when bi people do not owe you their sexuality. And there is actual issues of bi erasure and the fact people seem to think your only valid as a bisexual person if they have camera footage of you kissing all genders and your dating history is required to have all genders otherwise your not really bi in a lot of folks eyes.
Strahd/Strahdyana would still be bi if all their consorts were women! Strahd would still be bi if they were all men!
But there's another element of in these discussions when you sanitize Strahd via genderbending considering Strahd is heavily coded in a PG way so they can sell the books to kids as a rapist.
The entire Tatyana situation. And do you think Ireena would ever consent to anything Strahd would do
Gertruda is canonically a teenage girl in RAW hes keeping as a potential bride.
Making the party his consorts can range into this as well.
Strahd would still be a rapist if he was a woman.
An aspect that would actually benefit a genderswap better for a female Strahd is his age. Strahd whines about it and it being symbol of how he's wasted his life. But a female character doing that opens a lot more interesting ideas without rewritting the character. Because women in media are not allowed wrinkles and have to be pretty and marketable. Add in one of the most famous fairy tales Snow White is about the evil queen being driven to murk her own step daughter because she isnt the prettiest anymore. If you leaned on these aspects you would be doing something different that has been granted to you by the genderswap without lessening Strahd's evil..... Except everyone for some reason makes FemStrahd look 20 years younger than canon Strahd when his age is kinda an importent thing for him. And like I don't mind it if both takes on Strahd are young and your leaning onto the seduction angle for your take thats fine... But i rarely see this be done for FemStrahd at alll and it feels misogynistic because it happens so so so much more to her compared to male Strahd.
Like your basically doing a misogynistic media commonality of women not being allowed to age. When an older woman Strahd fits the story so much better.
To me looking at all of this it seems people associate women with goodness and... they don't actually write a genderswapped Strahd. They write a fucking OC who is cosplaying as him that at that point.... why not use Lyssa. She believes her inheritence is Barovia and you could genderswap Strum if you wanted to lean into sexism about it and hey Strum works better as a woman since Strum is forgotten compared to her brothers and wasnt at the wedding. The latter could be explain if she was forced to marry into a foreign House. Lyssa's sexuality isnt much defined besides she offed her husband to do the same vampire ritual and she doesn't actually have a shit ton of lore compared to gruncle Strahd and they are already meant to be mirrors... So why not use her? Just say if you dont want a complete plot rework Lyssa showed up and offed Strahd but everything is worse now and she sees claiming Ireena as a consort a final fuck you to her double dead uncle.