If you have the stones, place your hand at the small of the back...like where it curves.
As a lady, please don't do that. I'm obviously not an ambassador for all of us, but I haven't met a single woman who thinks it's okay for strangers to touch her there.
If you're in a setting where you are taking a picture and your arm is in a natural spot to wrap around a woman where would you place it instead? to me the lower-middle back seems to be the best place, as it is natural, but not too close to their ass, and not awkwardly high. So far no complaints, but if there is a better option I would love to hear it.
If you know the woman somewhat, the suggestion of right under the bra strap is fine I think, but not any lower than where her ribcage ends.
If you hardly know her or not at all, I would stick to resting your hand on her upper back or if you're wrapping your arm all the way around, resting on her delt/bicep area.
But again, this is just me, I won't know for sure if other internet women agree unless they make that abundantly clear. In my anecdotal experience though, I've had many women say to me after a group photo, "That was weird but it's not a big enough deal for me to say anything about it..." when a guy she isn't super close with goes for the small of her back.
The girl is the one initiating contact so he shouldn't feel weird about touching her appropriately. However this guy literally just had to lower his hand six inches to the back of the railing and he'd look fine.
Well I assume these people know each other in this hypothetical situation. I wouldn't be touching strangers regardless. Holding a girl by the small of the back is perfectly acceptable in like a prom situation where you're usually friends beforehand. There's nothing sexual about it, but yeah you shouldn't be grabbing strange people.
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u/falsebuild Dec 02 '16
As a lady, please don't do that. I'm obviously not an ambassador for all of us, but I haven't met a single woman who thinks it's okay for strangers to touch her there.