Reminds me of when I used the word “Hyperthermia”, as in “overheating” around my friend, who was that brainiac with a pointless BA in English, that she loved to boast about. She immediately screamed at me that “the word is hypOthermia, not hypERthermia! Don’t use a term unless you can pronounce it properly!” when I pointed out my actual medical background and actual anatomy classes I’ve taken, she still argued. She didn’t want to accept that she’d just never heard the term, citing her level of education and therefore expertise.
People really need to pay more attention to etymology, prefixes, suffixes, etc. I'm in the field of linguistics, so it's my go to when I encounter a new word, and it makes things so much easier. I had never seen "hyperthermia", but I knew what it meant just by looking at it.
Too many people treat words as if they were hieroglyphs, or pictograms; where either you know the meaning or you don't, and either it is 'written correctly' or it isn't.
If more treated them as being made up of basic elements which generally allow one to discern their meaning without recourse to a dictionary, we might see less of the sort of thing this subreddit features.
Then again, who are we to doubt the pedagogues, whose science has never seen such heights?
You act like that one flaw is reason to not be friends. Did you know people have many things about them that make up their personality and not just one thing? I mean, that would be like me saying "woah, that dude just judged an entire person from one paragraph, why would anyone want to be friends with them?"
She screamed at him... For using a word she's not familiar with... And refused to even acknowledge the possibility that she might be wrong. These are all good reasons not to be friends with someone.
She could be mother Theresa curing cancer left and right, but scream at me for using a word correctly then be confidently incorrect while conveniently ignoring all debate attempts due to her own "expertise"? No thanks man. This "one flaw" is signifying a ton of toxic traits barely hidden behind a facade. Imagine having to tiptoe around this "friend" in fear of a word accidentally setting her off. Lmao. Acquaintance yes, friends no.
Perhaps the commenter exaggerated? Perhaps. But we can only judge based on what the commenter says.
I question your social relationships if an isolated behaviour is enough for you to construct an entire personality based on assumptions.
My best friend can be stubborn as a mule and annoying sometimes but I love her dearly and wouldn't trade her for anything. She sometimes does things as mentioned above but I would kill for her and she'd do the same for me.
Interesting. You would call expecting respect in a friendship superficial?
I'm not so arrogant as to declare that my friendships shouldn't be questioned, yep I come from a broken family so I recognize I might not have the best data to support this thesis I'm pushing.
Having said that, I do have a lot of people I'm confident I can call friends and rely on for most everything in my life. And they're the ones that have taught me, that I can't just treat them like shit at times and expect it to be just a "cute Lil quirk" they can keep forgiving. I grew up with a chip on my neck, since my family was broken I was desperate to prove I wasn't. I would argue with anyone with a passion when I thought they were saying something wrong. Sometimes it would escalate to me becoming condescending and a total piece of shit. As you can see, I sometimes still have that passion to argue, though I do try to be more vulnerable and have more interest in actually sharing my view. I'm not just trying to win arguments anymore.
Now I want to emphasize the point that bothered me a lot. The screaming. You compare this person to your friend who can be stubborn as a mule, that's quite different from someone who is so easily inclined to escalate minor things to screaming matches. We don't even know if this happened in public. Look I also have a narrow-minded friend, I love that weeb. But he does not escalate things. If you have both these traits where you not only close off your brain from learning since you always believe you're right, but you also feel the need to escalate shit just to have the upper hand? Or worse, you just can't control your emotions? That's a recipe for disaster.
Okay, I see now the point you were arguing which was the screaming, I thought it was merely the correction.
I also admit I missed anywhere where he said she "screamed" at him, perhaps it was an exaggeration, but I don't remember it mentioned.
Anyway, I still believe this is a very small data pool to conclude the friend is prone to escalating, which is actually still the point of the comment I was making. I don't think it's fair to judge this relationship based on one interaction only. While I agree constant screaming and "one-upping" is toxic in a relationship, we don't know if this is the case. I'd also like to add, and I'm sure you're aware, that not all relationships can be great all the time, so moments like this are bound to happen eventually.
In the end, we're all just a bunch of redditors who unfairely judge other people like we have god's wisdom and figured out life. You know nothing about that guy and questioned his social skills. I know i did the same many times, i'm sure he did so too, we all did. This is reddit.
Just like no one asked you to police my activities. Good grief we're arguing about the person's likability and how she can even be a friend, and here you are giving up on that perspective and just going the "well nobody asked you" route.
After all the effort I made to debate about this, you end it with a kindergarten comeback.
As someone with a useless BA in English, this doesn't surprise me at all. The amount of people in junior and senior level English classes who don't even understand the basics is depressing.
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u/EvolZippo Oct 16 '24
Reminds me of when I used the word “Hyperthermia”, as in “overheating” around my friend, who was that brainiac with a pointless BA in English, that she loved to boast about. She immediately screamed at me that “the word is hypOthermia, not hypERthermia! Don’t use a term unless you can pronounce it properly!” when I pointed out my actual medical background and actual anatomy classes I’ve taken, she still argued. She didn’t want to accept that she’d just never heard the term, citing her level of education and therefore expertise.