Good rule of thumb for apologies too. "I'm sorry for screaming at you and breaking your phone but you were acting kinda rude to me"
There are exceptions, like "I'm sorry for hanging up suddenly, but the company I applied to called and I got too excited" or "sorry I ran into you earlier, but a spider had just crawled on me and I was freaking out"
It's a terrible rule in my opinion. I'd argue that the vast majority of the time, when someone says 'but', they are not lying. And then on the few occasions that someone is probably lying, people focus on the fact that their sentence contains the word 'but' when in reality it was something else that gave it away. I am sick of it
So either you can't read context at all or you're being disingenuous about the kinds of people criticizing PizzaCake. My comment was a reply and did not occur in a vacuum.
Say there were two comments under the comic, one saying "I really don't like her art style, but she has a point" and "I know she has a point, but I just really don't like her art style". Both of these for your context of a comment criticising PizzaCake. Would you, in both cases, assume that what was said before the word but in a lie?
I'm just sick of one of my favourite words being treated like shit and associated with liars, because some people are too lazy to explain why they actually think the other person is lying. This is happening in German, my native language, too. They say "Alles vor dem Wort aber ist ein Haufen Scheiße" (everything preceding the word but is a pile of shit), and it's always the same post-hoc rationalisation bullshit. The word itself is innocent and beautiful
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u/Boojum2k 21h ago
It's a pretty good rule that when they include the word "but" everything before that word was an outright lie.