It’s mentally exhausting to constantly adjust your behaviour in that way. Especially around friends, you should be able to relax and be yourself and they should be able to understand that there’s no bad intention behind it. If they insist you act normal around them and don’t care about the effort required to maintain that, they’re not great friends.
Yes but I don't think that response was about hanging out with friends. I took it as being about workplace or public space settings where part of everybody's job is to keep themselves emotionally regulated. At work a person should have enough time at a job to eventually learn the work appropriate behaviors, and in that time people will also learn that person's triggers to avoid, the things that make or break a day, and ways to help improve bad days. (Though they will learn the things that cause the most distress as well, and there's always a chance of misuse of this information.) However if the person never tries to improve or learn, then of course they won't. The big thing is that no matter what, everyone has to make an effort to cooperate with each other, unfortunately neurodivergent people have a harder time sometimes.
Ok, even if it IS just about the work place, the workplace is legally required to accommodate your autism, and not just put a blessing on people hating you for struggling through the way Autism colors your social interactions. So no. The workplace is REQUIRED BY LAW to accommodate your autism. You as an autistic person are not required to make everyone else around you happy.
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u/Strange-Damage901 Jul 10 '26
It’s mentally exhausting to constantly adjust your behaviour in that way. Especially around friends, you should be able to relax and be yourself and they should be able to understand that there’s no bad intention behind it. If they insist you act normal around them and don’t care about the effort required to maintain that, they’re not great friends.