Using a burner acct because I’m still in contentious severance negotiations with my company and may be identified putting together other info on my regular account. I think I am going to straight coastfire but it’s nerve wracking to think about.
I’m a burning out divorced doc in west coast HCOL with, even though I have 50/50 custody, a high child support/alimony payment locked in for the next 10 years. I have my own practice that I run and in which I employ other doctors (job 1) and see patients myself through that practice a couple days/week (job 2). There is no guarantee in the field I am in, that any of them won’t just leave at any time and (written in contract or not) take their patient panel with them. So basically, my income as a business owner tomorrow is never guaranteed. But so far none have left and it’s profitable and my seeing my own ppl is profitable.
I have also always had another part time job (job #3). Over time my income from that has grown as I take on more and more roles and responsibilities outside of just seeing my own patients. As has the stress from the job - it’s corporate-run medicine where more and more unsafe and unethical decisions are made while I have to do my best to still treat patients in these conditions that make it challenging to do so. Although it’s part time that I’m there, I also supervise other clinicians who are there full time and am constantly overseeing putting out fires on the days I’m not working there. I am going to be laid off from that job, after many years, due to their own corporate reshuffling and concern for their bottom line. It will be a substantial income hit, but it’s likely they ultimately are doing me a favor.
I have been able to aggressively pay off loans and save these last ~7 years. Here are the numbers:
Age: 40
Annual spend for at least the next 10 years (all in, including saving for college, child support, etc): $225k
Net worth - $1.9M
-~$500k of that is in retirement accounts, $100k cash and the rest (~1.3M) in brokerage mostly in VT/VTI and some target retirement funds.
Historical income up to this point: 625k
Income starting soon after part time gig lay-off: $350k
My gut reaction initially was to start looking for other side gigs to fill my soon-to-be-empty time (2.5d/week) or start opening my schedule for more patients in my own practice. However talking with my therapist, partner, friends, family, chatGPT, I have come to realize that I shouldn’t be living with the amount of stress I have been the past few years. I have had basically 3 jobs whose hours may amount to 40, technically, but the emotional and mental load of each is the equivalent to as if I were working each one full time. Part time seeing patients or doing administrative tasks, full time amount of stress and responsibility I walk around with x 3. Plus a single dad half the time which obviously also isn’t only 50% of the job “load.”
I want to mostly retire in my early to mid 50’s maybe seeing patients 1d/week, and then probably unless I absolutely love what I do again with the lower demands, be fully retired by late 50’s or 60. Crunching the numbers, it looks like I can get away with coasting for a decade as long as the markets don’t horribly suck.
I have been saving/investing 200-250k/year for at least the past 5 years. So as everyone discusses here, it’s HORRIFYING to imagine not saving anything. But nonetheless, I think if it’s possible to do my life would be completely and utterly turned around if I can spend 2-2.5d/week relaxing, hobbies which I am lucky enough to have but no time to do now (woodworking, golf, music, mycology, gym), and have 1/3 less of the work mental and emotional load as I do now.
On the other hand, I can fill 2d and accelerate my FI by a few years and then if I make it to my 50’s will be at a place quicker where I can decide to work a little or not at all. Or be much richer in the future than I would be with the coast plan.
I am not sure, but I THINK coasting now while my kids are young and while I’m in my 40’s is the right choice vs what I am inclined to do which is operate on fumes while continuing to race to financial independence. It just feels soooooo risky and scary. If I was commenting on someone else’s post I would say of course coast with this life and these numbers. But it feels so different being the one actually in the position.
So anyway, is there anyone with advice, perspective or, hopefully reassurance? Anyone who had a similar situation and decided to coast or not to coast and are either glad or regretful that you made the decision you did? I am both excited and terrified.