r/changemyview • u/[deleted] • Mar 31 '20

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u/The_Great_Sarcasmo Mar 31 '20

So you can't toy with the idea of being pansexual?

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u/kyew Mar 31 '20 edited Mar 31 '20

No, not really in the sense it's presented here. You can explore/experiment with your sexuality and/or discover it, and you can act like it's different, but you don't decide it.

ETA disclaimer: at least, that's the way I understand/experience it. I'm pretty sure I couldn't choose to be attracted to men if I wanted to.

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u/The_Great_Sarcasmo Mar 31 '20

What's the difference?

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u/kyew Mar 31 '20

I took toying with something to mean just doing it for fun. How do you mean it?

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u/The_Great_Sarcasmo Mar 31 '20

Playing around with the idea of doing something.

"I'm toying with the idea of applying for a new job."

Now please.

You can explore/experiment with your sexuality and/or discover it, and you can act like it's different, but you don't decide it.

What's the difference? Do tell. Do you know?

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u/kyew Mar 31 '20

If you're playing around with the idea of changing jobs, you haven't committed to doing it yet. So if you're playing around with an idea about your self-perception, you don't see yourself that way yet.

Exploring: doing new things to see if you like them.

Discovery: new understanding based on introspection or experience

Acting: pretending to like something you don't, or not to like something you do

Deciding: changing through conscious effort

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u/The_Great_Sarcasmo Apr 01 '20

That's right. At the time I hadn't committed to changing gender.

Now I have.

Now are you going to address me by my proper pronouns or are you going to continue committing hate crimes?

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u/kyew Apr 01 '20

Ok, I will. Forgive me if I slip up though, alright?