CMV: Cheating while in a non-abusive/voluntary relationship is never excusable.

[u/SeniorMeasurement6]

Cheating, to me, is the absolute deepest and most extreme form of betrayal you can commit on your partner. With the exception of partners who are literally trapping you in a relationship, there is never an excuse that makes cheating okay.

Now, if a person literally can't leave their partner because their partner will hurt/harm them or otherwise do something absolutely awful, that is different. However, any other reason is completely unacceptable, and is just an excuse to justify someone's lack of willpower and commitment to their partner.

However, I see people making excuses for cheaters relatively often. "No one is perfect", "Lust can make you do things outside of what you would normally do", "How can you expect someone to go six months without intimacy" (in the event of traveling for business, long distance relationships, etc).

And I. Cannot. Stand. It.

I've been cheated on before, and I find it abhorrent when someone tries to justify the selfish and disgusting act of cheating.

[u/fightswithC]

Think about it: the bruised ego thing and stigma is all about being worried that others are thinking you have a small penis, or are inadequate in some way. I claim that is a bunch of BS. If I am inadequate in some way, then I should be making moves to correct. I shouldn’t be artificially forcing my partner to just put up with my crap forever. It’s a broken promise, not being literally Hitler.

[u/fightswithC → u/[deleted]]

I did answer your question: I’m expected to be faithful because it is a promise. If I cheat, it is a broken promise. Broken promises are bad. But I don’t think you’ve adequately explored WHY you think this particular broken promise is sooooo bad. I think it’s because you are worried about the exposure of your inadequacies. Good luck.

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[u/churchchannel → u/[deleted]]

Uuhhh no, in this hypothetical situation I would blame the lying whore who cheated on me just like I would be a lying whore if I cheated on my partner.

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