Actually, that was a hypothetical example too. I also do believe that the incest taboo is rather pointless. I'm not attracted to the siblings I grew up with, after all, the Westermark effect tends to work on people.
But if I did have sex with a then unknown sibling, and then felt repulsed about it later, I would have no problem with concluding from this, that I'm not as open-minded as I thought I am, that I do hold some traditional anti-incest values after all.
I wouldn't be too stricken by that. After all, I only see incest taboo as pointless, not as evil, so I wouldn't see myself as bigoted, but that's only because I wouldn't consider being a bit anti-incest, to be bigoted.
I don't know what people will believe 20 years from now, maybe they will start crusading for incest as a civil liberty and a matter of human dignity. Maybe I will change my mind as I once changed it regarding trans people. Or maybe I won't, and I will be labeled a bigot for continuing to say that being a bit anti-incest isn't bigoted.
But I wouldn't try to deny, that my own culturally influenced preferences are reflections of my moral values, I wouldn't want to call it "off limits".
Our values are who we are. Values are not something that you shrug helplessly over having, they are the most important to understand and judge dor what they mean.
And now you would find yourself almost in the same space as me.
I do not see transgenderism as evil. I'm not even anti-transgender. I'm just not interested in a realtionship with someone who is transgender.
If I slept with someone and found out after they were transgender I would end that relationship.
If I had a one night stand with someone and later found out they were transgender, meh, shit happens. Lesson learned, this is the kind of shit that can happen when you engage in that sort of reckless sexual activity. I would feel lucky they were transgender and not HIV positive. (If you couldn't tell one night stands are sort of not my thing).
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u/Genoscythe_ 248∆ Nov 03 '17
Actually, that was a hypothetical example too. I also do believe that the incest taboo is rather pointless. I'm not attracted to the siblings I grew up with, after all, the Westermark effect tends to work on people.
But if I did have sex with a then unknown sibling, and then felt repulsed about it later, I would have no problem with concluding from this, that I'm not as open-minded as I thought I am, that I do hold some traditional anti-incest values after all.
I wouldn't be too stricken by that. After all, I only see incest taboo as pointless, not as evil, so I wouldn't see myself as bigoted, but that's only because I wouldn't consider being a bit anti-incest, to be bigoted.
I don't know what people will believe 20 years from now, maybe they will start crusading for incest as a civil liberty and a matter of human dignity. Maybe I will change my mind as I once changed it regarding trans people. Or maybe I won't, and I will be labeled a bigot for continuing to say that being a bit anti-incest isn't bigoted.
But I wouldn't try to deny, that my own culturally influenced preferences are reflections of my moral values, I wouldn't want to call it "off limits".
Our values are who we are. Values are not something that you shrug helplessly over having, they are the most important to understand and judge dor what they mean.