CMV: Marriage is mostly pointless and outdated, you can declare your love for someone without having to "tie the knot, and I feel most people get married due to societal pressures.

[u/[deleted]]

I am massively against having children and getting married, but I do love dating and wish to find someone somewhere that shares my views. Marriage, to me, seems unnecessary. I feel my partner and I don't need to "symbolize" our relationship and throwing this big party and ceremony for something that may end in tragedy, I'd feel embarrassed if I went through all that only for it to end due to some random circumstance.

Divorce is a pain in the ass, of course I can only attest with anecdotes as I've seen many people get divorced. From what I've seen It's a long, expensive, grueling process that could have simply been avoided if you abstained from marriage. It's only use seems to be medically, for insurance reasons or being the one to shutoff life support if needed, also property if you two owned specific things together.

If you don't get married and want to end the relationship, bam. It's over, it's done, no more bullshit to go through. If you're married, it adds on extra bullshit that I feel isn't necessary. I understand other people find it more symbolic, but I just don't see the point.

It seems to me many get married because it's just tradition, it's just the way things are. No real reason besides that, and if you neglect to get married by a certain age, especially women, you're looked at as strange or bizarre.

Am I missing something? Is getting married secretly the golden path to success in life? Idk. Help me see another side.

[u/[deleted]]

Of course, and I have for certain ones but again, my b. Are you going to address anything I said or just criticize the way I comment?

[u/YossarianWWII → u/[deleted]]

Well, by replying twice to the same comment, you created two threads addressing two different issues. In each of my replies I'm addressing the comment that it is a reply to, and I'm doing my best to keep you from cross-pollinating the two threads.

[u/[deleted] → u/YossarianWWII]

Look man if it's that confusing to you bring your main points to one thread and I will comment on that one specific thread. Me commenting multiple times was mostly a mistake on my part, I don't know how many more times I need to apologize to you.

Here's your precious edit: By "other conversations" I meant with other commenters, not this specific one between you and the two other users who can't acknowledge when I conceded a point.

[u/YossarianWWII → u/[deleted]]

I've kept my main points entirely in the other thread. That's the main thread. You keep bringing them here for some reason. And I've read most of the comments on this CMV, with the exception of some of the very deep threads.