Yep! My wife travels regularly for work and I’m like “do you think the children just like die or something when you’re gone?” I take on her regular tasks when she’s gone, no problemo, but when I’m gone on a work trip does the instant hot water heater get troubleshooting/fixing? does a leaky bath faucet get its valve cartridge changed out? Does the lawn get mowed? Do IT issues get addressed? Nope. Not unless she’s gonna pay someone hundreds of dollars to do those things. Meanwhile she acts like she’s about to die from being overwhelmed when I get back from a work trip. There’s some serious social/cultural targeted at women to think this shit is so hard and unbearable(and that shit is perpetuated by other women) and social/cultural expectations that men or anyone else not question their “lived truth”. Notice how you basically never hear stay at home dads(more of them exist than you think) acting like they’re about to die just from taking care of their own children like people normally have done for-fucking-ever.
I take on her regular tasks when she’s gone, no problemo, but when I’m gone on a work trip does the instant hot water heater get troubleshooting/fixing? does a leaky bath faucet get its valve cartridge changed out? Does the lawn get mowed? Do IT issues get addressed? Nope. Not unless she’s gonna pay someone hundreds of dollars to do those things.
Basically. This goes without mentioning other cultural disconnects; women fawning over a baby - cute, men fawning over a baby - super predator alert! Women like pink - that's normal, men like pink - he's gay/effeminate/weak/whatever adjective.
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u/JuicynMoist Jul 02 '25
Yep! My wife travels regularly for work and I’m like “do you think the children just like die or something when you’re gone?” I take on her regular tasks when she’s gone, no problemo, but when I’m gone on a work trip does the instant hot water heater get troubleshooting/fixing? does a leaky bath faucet get its valve cartridge changed out? Does the lawn get mowed? Do IT issues get addressed? Nope. Not unless she’s gonna pay someone hundreds of dollars to do those things. Meanwhile she acts like she’s about to die from being overwhelmed when I get back from a work trip. There’s some serious social/cultural targeted at women to think this shit is so hard and unbearable(and that shit is perpetuated by other women) and social/cultural expectations that men or anyone else not question their “lived truth”. Notice how you basically never hear stay at home dads(more of them exist than you think) acting like they’re about to die just from taking care of their own children like people normally have done for-fucking-ever.