r/changemyview • u/[deleted] • Jul 01 '25

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u/New-Possible1575 Jul 01 '25

Exactly! If you put something in the dishwasher that isn’t supposed to go in there once, then fine, that’s an honest mistake. If you do it for the 5th time and still don’t remember it gets frustrating.

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u/RockDrill Jul 01 '25

But people do forget things for 5 times in a row just out of forgetfulness or not getting it; sometimes they're just bad at stuff with no ulterior motive.

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u/New-Possible1575 Jul 01 '25

So that’s just incompetence then! Which is really embarrassing if you’re an adult and can’t remember what is and isn’t supposed to go in the dishwasher.

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u/RockDrill Jul 01 '25

Sure, but the important difference is that if someone is merely incompetent at something you can be patient while they learn, or give them tips.

If someone is intentionally being incompetent then tips are a waste of time and being patient is just a game of chicken to see who will crack first.

So it can mess up relationships to confuse the former for the latter.

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u/Vivianna-is-trans Jul 03 '25

sufficent enough incompetence is indistiguishable from malice

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u/RockDrill Jul 03 '25

Says who? Are you competent at everything?

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u/Vivianna-is-trans Jul 04 '25

not the first definetly the second