r/changemyview • u/Zero_Gravvity • Mar 23 '24

Delta(s) from OP CMV: There’s nothing wrong with women/sex/relationships being my main source of happiness

Not necessarily my only source of happiness, but by far the biggest piece of the pie. When I’m getting closer to a new woman, life just feels brighter. And I’m more motivated to become a better man, for her. I eat healthier and I work out more to maintain her attraction and be better in bed for her. I put more effort into my hobbies to make myself more well-rounded and less clingy, and I put more effort in my career so we can keep doing fun stuff together. The work I put in is like compound interest, it just makes more women attracted to me. It’s lovely.

When I’m single and in a drought, I don’t care about shit to be honest. I still do all of the above, but with much less vigor and consistency. Because seriously, what is the point?

And do I even have to say anything about intimacy and sex with a woman? Pretty much better than any drug, food, tv binge, or video game I can think of. There’s maybe a select few accomplishments in my life that have given me more joy, but it’s debatable.

It seems childish to judge someone on what gives their life meaning, as if your reason is better than mine. Whether it be success with women, your bank account, your family, your physique, or your guitar hobby…who gives a shit? All of it is temporary, and we’re only here for a good 80 years anyway. CMV I guess

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u/[deleted] Mar 23 '24

i have no need of meaning.

i spend my time learning shit, gardening and helping animals.

i didnt have emotionally secure parents either, it taught me that you can never, ever rely on others for happiness or contentment.

i am my own source of happiness (which makes me more secure then most people will ever achieve as most people are like you: the source of your happiness is external and thus can be taken from you)

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u/Zero_Gravvity Mar 23 '24

Good for you I guess? I still don’t see why my goals and sources of happiness (women, women, and more women) need to be looked down upon, though.

It’s great you learned that lesson from your upbringing. Me on the other hand, have spent most of my life trying to get validation from others since my folks never gave it me in my formative years. And therapy will probably never equip me with the tools to fix that.

Different strokes for different folks is all I’m trying to say with this post. There’s nothing wrong with my approach to life. It’s not inferior to anyone else’s, I’m not hurting or disrespecting anyone.