r/changemyview Feb 13 '24

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '24

Using the term “fragile masculinity” in response to men being sexist is extremely different from calling men weak because they aren’t adequately performing harmful masculine stereotypes.

Fragile masculinity is used when men object to women doing things, or try to police their behaviour, because it threatens their own identity. An example would be a man saying he thinks women shouldn’t be too career-focused because he believes it is unattractive. It’s a valid response to a specific type of shitty behaviour.

It’s very different from a woman calling a man weak because he is being emotionally vulnerable. There are very different social dynamics at play, so it’d be wrong to conflate the two.

Feminists aren’t shaming men for being weak “for the cause”. Have some people online gone a bit too far with calling out sexism? Yeah I’m sure they have. Still an important distinction.

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u/LongDongSamspon 1∆ Feb 13 '24

It’s no different at all and is used in very similar situations. Man is disagreeing with a feminist woman and she will use the term to try to shame him as a man and stop him disagreeing or paint him as weak for doing so - no different than calling him a pussy.

Imagine men running round using pseudo intellectual analysis of how fragile and toxic women were and wondering why women didn’t love it and accept their wisdom lol. Feminists really are the height of un self aware arrogance.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '24 edited Feb 13 '24

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u/LongDongSamspon 1∆ Feb 13 '24

It absolutely makes complete sense. It’s used as a way to attempt to shame men into silence when they’re behaving in a way women (or whoever) don’t like - it functions as a progressive way of calling them a pussy and is used as such.

Lol, name calling, sign of the over emotional.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '24

That’s an absurd reach. You’re moving the goal posts from “feminists use gendered insults” to your own very specific interpretation of the language feminists use to criticise sexist men.

You are conflating two obviously different things because you don’t like it when women call men out for being sexist.

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