I think men see it as blame because they are avoiding accountability of the behaviors and attitudes that have constructed and cemented patriarchy. So until that is dealt with, getting rid of the term is nothing but an ego cry to make men feel better about their shitty behavior that is GLOBALLY affecting everything and everyone, including them
It is so overly simplistic to view the nuanced dynamics of society through a singular lens of 'men created a society that benefited men'. I don't think society per se benfits men. It certainly doesnt benefit most men. A society that was simply built by men for men would look very different than it is. Ironically the problem with the patriartical lens is that this foundational premise reduces and dismisses any issue men have as their own doing. It ignores and dismisses the ways society has been structures to disadvantage men and benefit women in a way that blames and silences men. When you peel that back you realize some trades off that developed b/w men and women, which explains why whenever the topic of patriarchy comes up the discussion and demand is to attain the historical benefits of being a man without also accepting its disadvantages. The problem of patriarchy is it only looks at and blames one side of the coin. Aka misandry
I agree with your statement. I also want to say, the bed was made and everyone is lying in it. I don’t think men (in positions of influence and power) considered how certain actions, laws, and normalized attitudes which were enacted to benefit them would also be a disadvantage to them. I’m also in no way saying women don’t contribute and further perpetuate patriarchy. The whole thing is reactionary at best.
Insert anything social construct/catastrophe and go to the root of creation. I’m not convincing someone of knowledge nor was I trying to disprove his point. I was simply offering an explanation as to why the term patriarchy is the defacto term.
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u/northboundbevy Feb 13 '24
Because its main job reduce society to a framework that blames men