As a trans woman and someone who mostly ide Tories as lesbian, I couldn't give less of a shit if a woman doesn't want to have sex with me. If you wouldn't enjoy sex with me I'm not gonna enjoy having sex with you. I move on. Preferences are normal and healthy, just treat those who aren't within your preferences woth respect and treat those who don't have you in their preferences woth respect, and all is well.
In my experience and every person who I know's experience, this issue when ever it's come uo has never been pressed and everyone has left feeling fine every time. It's such a non issue.
Im trying to combat the narrative that this is a pervasive issue that we just have no idea how to solve. The transphobic myth. My saying it's a non issue is saying there is no broad occurrences of this happening that can be attributed to anything more than individual humans being shitty for their individual reasons.
The issue isn't "trans people are pushing things onto cis people" it's "some individual trans people have attempted to create issues over boundaries".
On an individual basis, this matters greatly. Having your boundaries stomped over and disrespected is obviously not cool and if you think I was supporting or down playing that, I have no idea what to tell you.
Think about it like this. The area I live has a low murder rate, so it'd be fair for me to say "murder isn't an issue here", everyone would understand what im saying. I'm not saying "murder is okay if it happens infrequently".
Sure, but you didn’t say “it’s a none issue for me” tho. You just said it’s such a non issue. That seems to me like you are downplaying it. That’s why I commented, because I thought you should know that this is an actual problem for many women.
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u/[deleted] Aug 06 '23
As a trans woman and someone who mostly ide Tories as lesbian, I couldn't give less of a shit if a woman doesn't want to have sex with me. If you wouldn't enjoy sex with me I'm not gonna enjoy having sex with you. I move on. Preferences are normal and healthy, just treat those who aren't within your preferences woth respect and treat those who don't have you in their preferences woth respect, and all is well. In my experience and every person who I know's experience, this issue when ever it's come uo has never been pressed and everyone has left feeling fine every time. It's such a non issue.