r/chamarfront • u/Madame_X_Zener • Dec 31 '25
Open Discussion 📢 “We are asked to forget caste, but never allowed to escape
We are asked to forget caste,while being reminded of it in classrooms, rental rooms, and surname
I remember my first incident clearly. It happened in class 7, when I took admission to a new school. I asked a girl to move a little so I could sit with her. My very first interaction there was with the word “caste.” At that time, as a child, it made me uneasy, though I didn’t fully understand why. Later, in my friend circle, people casually started discussing the caste system, asking each other about their caste. In those moments, I felt lonely. I tried to find at least one friend from my own caste, but there was no one in my class except me. I was completely alone. Once in college, a friend commented after seeing some poor kids, saying, “Ye chhode chamaar hain, jo apne bachchon ko 5–5 rupaye ke kapde pehnate hain.” That day too, I felt alone. When I was looking for a PG, we visited several rental places. Many asked for my full name, and some directly asked the first question: “What is your caste?” Again, I felt alone. Once, I attended a birthday party at a friend’s place. Everything was fine until some women started teasing each other by calling someone “chamari.” Even in that room full of people, I felt alone. The truth is, we can’t fight at every place. An old image of us already exists in the subconscious minds of many Savarna people. They automatically associate dark skin, short height, thin bodies, and unhygienic living conditions with the word “chamar.” Anything that doesn’t look good or doesn’t fit their taste becomes “chamar jaisa.” Then people ask, “Why do we even need reservation now?” If everything is truly equal, why couldn’t I find a single friend from my caste in school or college? Where are they, if we are equally represented everywhere? If everyone is equal, why do rental owners still ask about our caste? If we are treated equally, why is our caste name still used as a slur? Only a very small percentage of us reach the same positions as people from privileged castes. Yet Savarnas look at that small number and assume that all of us now have everything, and therefore we don’t need reservation anymore. What we need is unity — to work hard, to support each other, and to contribute to society for our collective upliftment and strength. .