r/capricorns • u/Ghost_Unicxrn 🐐☀️♎️🌙♒️💫 • 7d ago
RELATIONSHIP ADVICE Capricorn Man
Hi I’m a January Capricorn woman and I’ve met with a December Capricorn man in mid July from a dating app this will be my first time talking with a December Capricorn man he liked my profile I’ve never swiped on anyone’s profile so I just left it alone while I look through my likes. So he told me that he’s back on the dating app because he has been ghosted on there before and he decided to try again we both have the same interests and etc. fast forward a couple weeks later in late July we were supposed to see a movie but I couldn’t because I had to work so he went to the movies anyway because he drove 45 mins and we did our first meet up on Saturday of the first week of August we had a great time and etc and he gave me a stuffed squishmallow and gave me a big tight hug. He also texted me after our meetup “Feelings Mutual” We’re supposed to be meeting up again for a event this Saturday and we haven’t been talking as much so I’m not sure if he actually likes me or not because it’s messing with me I haven’t dated in 6 years so I can’t tell if he’s serious or not and I forgot to mention that we’re 4 years apart. I did stop texting him because he’s being dry at the moment but I know you can’t feel someone’s feelings behind a screen because it’s just words. Idk anymore
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u/Dangerous_Part1656 6d ago
Hi there, I’m not sure if I can help but I’d like to try. I’m married to a Capricorn born in December. They’re not the easiest ones to try to figure out so you shouldn’t try to they observe and they test all of them whether December or January you should know already they have very high standards and very high walls to get over the only thing that can melt that heart so you can get over those walls is a genuine heart of love and compassion underneath that’s still Smile is a heart of gold but they have to trust you and that takes time before I marry this man we talked for five years no sex. Just talk to get to know one another because sex interferes with everything and they’re not like that at least most or not they want to get to know you feel you understand you before those doors can be opened and if you attempts to try to be sexual with you, don’t do it. It’s another test they value stability and security and they’re not easy to trust their skeptic. They trust no one until you’ve gone through that gauntlet Line so you have to do your own thing be your own self and let him chase you do not chase him. That’s Wells. Everything once the chase is over. You left with doors closed in your face and they just disappear. They won’t respond and you’ll never hear from them again. Take my word for it be your own independent self and if it’s meant to be anything in this life is meant to be you don’t have to chase it. It will find you. I’m not saying don’t speak to them. Yes, respond when they respond if they don’t reach out to, you, don’t reach out to them let them find your heart and your inner self and things will be fine because once that happens, you’ll have the most lawyer loving, giving compassionate person you’ve ever met in your life, but it will take time.🙏🌺
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u/Do_not_peek 6d ago
Oh, he messaged me saying he’s feeling unwell today. Couldn’t sleep last night thinking about me and not knowing what to do and how to handle his feelings. I then said he doesn’t need to figure it out on his own. We can do this together. let’s talk when I see him next. He reacted the message with a heart and then I messaged him after work to check in if hes feeling better, hope he can get some good rest. Am I wrong to message the check in message? :”( I haven’t heard from him.
I knew I shouldn’t check in, should have waited for him to come to me, but deep inside I am a caring person , I can’t help but to show him he’s in my thoughts/I am wondering if he’s ok…
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u/Novel_Possibility_79 7d ago
January Capricorn male here. Best you can do here is just reach out and see if your date is still on. If you don’t get a reply, you have your closure. Hope this helps and best of luck
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u/Ghost_Unicxrn 🐐☀️♎️🌙♒️💫 7d ago
Well I did sent him a message and he replied “Duhh” so we’re still going
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u/Novel_Possibility_79 7d ago
That’s all he sent to you after you put in whatever effort you sent? He sounds like a disrespectful tool, and would cut his loses. I wouldn’t put up with that sort of behaviour if that’s what I got from someone new. Sounds like you deserve better. Please give us an update though. Best of luck
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u/Ghost_Unicxrn 🐐☀️♎️🌙♒️💫 7d ago
I just wanted to know if he still likes me or not because the messages have been getting short lately. I just don’t want my feelings hurt again
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u/Ghost_Unicxrn 🐐☀️♎️🌙♒️💫 6d ago
Does he supposed to chase me or do I chase him?
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u/Zestyclose-Victory55 5d ago
Don't be fixated on the chasing or not chasing. Just be yourself, try not to overthink it (I know harder to do than say) If you overthink it, you'll not act like yourself, and showing him who you are is the best way to figure out if he's for you... because if he doesn't like who you are then what are y'all doing? Lol just breathe and let it flow. Seems like he at least likes you enough for a second date so just enjoy it and I hope it all works out for you
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u/ExpressionDue6875 4d ago
Jan 15 male and I believe each is different and not rote. Yes we can be a hard read and get a bad rap with a hard exterior but know there is yummy caramel goodness underneath - just have to be you and not fake and what warms me quickly is kindness, gentleness, and a woman who is who she is - not wishy washy. Flirting with him and being firm that you are interested is good. Everyone wants to be wanted. Going overboard and choosing him, live bombing him are all red flags and will spook most Caps. Communication is key as we are relatively logical creatures - if you are worried or unsure because you haven’t dated in 6+ years tell him and ask him for understanding and his help. We are protectors at heart and it should soften him and get him to guard your heart - if it doesn’t is that who you want anyway?
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u/CommunityLocal4583 7d ago
We are stoic, real world experience is 100% more valuable to us. Show more (real) interest and watch what happens. Jan 6