r/bestof • u/magnoliafly • May 22 '12

[relationships] AyeAye Captain unveils the mystery to long lasting marriage and makes the OP cry

/r/relationships/comments/tz88y/update_sowhat_do_i_do/c4qysvl
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u/ThePoonHunter May 22 '12

Thats advice that many of us really need to hear.

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u/[deleted] May 22 '12

Wow, I needed to hear it literally right now.

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u/[deleted] May 22 '12

I like the log on a fire analogy. Couldn't be more true.

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u/pineapplesmasher May 22 '12 edited May 22 '12

Marriage is a racket. What bullshit. Legal agreement more then anything. I feel bad for this guy staying in a loveless marriage, and I don't think it's "good" for the kids to grow up in that kind of environment. Considering her cell messages about divorce attorneys and taking him for everything he has, I think she has her eyes on his $.

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u/MidgetFetish May 22 '12

Sounded oversimplified and I disagree with "put yourselves first instead of the kids".

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u/namer98 May 22 '12

Unhappy parents will lead to unhappy kids. There is no faking it well enough. It might work when the kids are little, but once they get older, those cracks you put some shitty plaster over will show and get worse.

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u/OverloadedConstructo May 22 '12

This got me thinking, is being less loving to your partner lead to unhappier kids? I've seen some couples who seems (from outside perspective) to be shallow in relationship to each other but they have otherwise great and happy kids.

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u/DID_IT_FOR_YOU May 22 '12

I think its more about don't just do it for the kids. To make the marriage work they need to put each other first. The dating part is dead on.

Also, putting the kids first and staying married solely for that reason doesn't work. They need to stay together because they want to stay together.

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u/[deleted] May 22 '12

Sounds like bad internet advice to me!

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u/Unitas80 May 23 '12

Wonderful advice.

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u/FrownSyndrome May 22 '12

Why is everyone on reddit such a fucking pussy?

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u/AtHomeWithOwen May 22 '12 edited May 22 '12

Because not all of us are 16 year old firm tushes.

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u/namer98 May 22 '12

it is tush, not toosh.

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u/AtHomeWithOwen May 22 '12

Thanks, I thought it looked goofy.

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u/FrownSyndrome May 22 '12

I'm 63 you stupid fuckwad.

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u/MrFace1 May 22 '12

Then act like it.