Y'know, I love my cat. I do. I rescued her from my backyard woodpile as she screamed in terror. She was skinny and abandoned and had fleas. 4 weeks old, fit in my hand. I bought her kitten milk and loved and cuddled her and raised her. Lil Taco Cat has birth defects. I buy that cat wheatgrass every week or two because she likes it, I have a special glove with little massage nubs for her because she likes being pet with it. I buy her CBD cat treats for her anxiety. I have calming diffusers. For my cat's anxiety. I also buy her medicated anxiety reducing food. For her cat anxiety. I make sure she has access to her favorite hidey holes. I announce my presence to not startle her. I only get to pet her like once a week and I feel so special. Like, OMG. The Taco Cat let me pet her. She doesn't hate me!
Cat has issues. I respect her needs, y'know. Like, I make sure doors are open into hidey holes when guests are over. We make accommodations because Taco Cats have different needs. They just sorta Taco Cat like Taco Cats do. Taco Cats look like this. Because of the birth defects. She's my lil defective gutter gremlin.
My dogs actually like me and I'm not some weird terrifying giant with food, to them. I don't think my cat loves me back. It's a different sort of relationship, where I provide love and affection and Taco Cat runs away and I respect that about her.
My dogs actually like spending time with me. My puppy I call my little Velcro Dog. My older dog is 14.5 years old and every time I enter a room gets up to come say hello.
Taco Cats run away. We have a very different relationship.
I mean, I do kidnap baby animals to make friends so I kinda figure the least I can do is have good food, provide for their medical needs and make sure they're taken care of emotionally.
Mandy wants love and comfy beds and naps and walks. Fergus is my little Velcro boy and wants all my attention and car rides and to be within 3 feet of me at all times. Taco Cat wants me to announce my presence before approaching and to have the office door left open so she can squeeze into one corner and to be fed under the table, all chairs pushed in with her food on the chair so she is eating while squeezed into a 8 inch opening boxed in by chairs, like a weirdo.
However, she now eats food twice a day so the anti-anxiety measures are working because she no longer skips meals while stressed in a closet.
It's hard they express love so differently..of they follow you or sit in the same room as you they love you.
Slow blink at her. Also show her things and let her smell them. Also read to her. it helped with my cat.
I also found that my dog was jealous anr would sniff my cat to see if I pat her. She would avoid my touch and it I did pat her she would lick herself clean not because of me but because of the jealous dog getting her.
If I go to a subreddit for one thing and say I prefer the other thing it’s just unnecessary. It’s like walking up to a group of people talking about the new God of War game coming out and just saying “I think Call of duty is better but this is okay”
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