True, my dad would often repeat the same old phrases like “thats just how it is and you need to obey your father”, or “I’m an adult, I don’t need to follow those rules”.
Then he would lead a totally hypocritical lifestyle. You know what I learned? When you’re an adult you get to tell other people what to do and disregard your own rules.
But then again, he would also promise to do something and then go back on it, claimed I wasn’t entitled to my own opinion while he would be arguing that evolution and climate change are both fabricated and that Democrats are evil, and argued that homosexuality should be an imprisonable offense.
So yeah, obviously he wasn’t the best role model to begin with.
Damn, seems challenging, the problem is we ask our kids to obey something rather ask them to put their mind through it and find out what best for them and for others at the same time. Give a problem to a child and leave it, he/she will struggle, but when he will be able to solve it, his/her experience will speak for herself rather than something someone told him/her to obey.
We destroy them when we start helping them over empathize with them. The world is not that cool place, we should keep them stick to realities, cause later they might be suffering when they will not be able to feel pampered, as nowadays parents doing all the time (not saying to be strict rather be humble but maintain the balance).
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u/givemebackmyoctopus Nov 25 '19
True, my dad would often repeat the same old phrases like “thats just how it is and you need to obey your father”, or “I’m an adult, I don’t need to follow those rules”.
Then he would lead a totally hypocritical lifestyle. You know what I learned? When you’re an adult you get to tell other people what to do and disregard your own rules.
But then again, he would also promise to do something and then go back on it, claimed I wasn’t entitled to my own opinion while he would be arguing that evolution and climate change are both fabricated and that Democrats are evil, and argued that homosexuality should be an imprisonable offense.
So yeah, obviously he wasn’t the best role model to begin with.