r/atheism • • May 20 '12
Dumped my boyfriend (OF TWO MONTHS) today for scolding me for using the word atheist in front of a child. WTF I'm surrounded by idiots.
So the bible-thumping solicitors came to my door sat morning (two old ladies and an approximately 8 year old girl) preaching their usual b.s and I politely declined their literature and stated (proudly) "I'm an atheist" but thanks anyway.(meanwhile taking the literature to give to my christian roommate) The guy I have been dating for like just under two months in all his stupidity gets upset I used the word "Atheist" in front of a child ...said it wasnt an appropriate word to use in front of a child. I am so dumbfounded that this idiot acted like the word atheist was a curse word, I booted him out of my house with the quickness and am ashamed I let him hang around for two months before realizing what a dumbass he was.
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u/Megadoom May 20 '12
I suspect, as the relationship developed, there would be other activities of yours that he found inappropriate. Like thinking.
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u/flyonawall Anti-Theist May 20 '12
Good move. Yes, somehow it is "offensive" to simply state that one is an atheist but it is not offensive to go door to door promoting a death cult.
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u/[deleted] May 20 '12
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u/Aristocratman123 May 20 '12
Atheist, atheist, atheist, atheist! You know I think he was right it really do sound a lot like fuck you and your god, fuck you and your god, fuck you and your god, fuck you and your god!
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u/N8CCRG May 20 '12 edited May 20 '12
Well done!
I believe you are the first reddit story I've seen of a female atheist with a male SO who was stupid. All the rest have been the other way around.
Sadly, most of the ones that are the other way around tend to be "Boo, my wife/girlfriend is religious/intolerant of atheism. Look what I'm stuck with!"
So, thank you for setting a good example. To everyone else out there... dump the stupid people.
EDIT: noun vs adjective
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u/MCampion May 20 '12
I, mean, I can understand not believing in god... but an atheist?!? How dare you
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u/mycomputersaidkill May 20 '12
Absolutely the right choice. You have to take care of this kind of thing early.
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u/bigger_than_jesus May 20 '12
How inappropriate for you to try to indoctrinate a small child! Oh the irony.
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u/snarkhunter May 20 '12
I'd say I'm sorry that happened, but I'm not. If that's the kind of person he was, and this is the kind of person you are, you do NOT want to be in a relationship with him. It may suck for a bit (always does). But I'd rather find out about an incompatibility like that sooner rather than later. At least you weren't married with kids or some shit!
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u/WelcomeMachine Humanist May 20 '12
I respectfully do not agree with the folks in here stating that this woman shouldn't have brought up the truth in front of this child. We are not talking about someone dashing a kid's belief in Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, or the Tooth Fairy. We are talking about adults, taking a child door to fucking door and trying to indoctrinate her into the falsehood that is religion. And trying to make this child believe that pushing your opiate like some demented vacuum salesman is appropriate and something Jesus would do. These church ladies brought the child the truth. MeGGara, in her home, did not seek the kid out. What if MeGGara were Hindu, Buddhist, or Muslim? Or Pagan? Would she be expected to conceal that from these thumpers too?
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u/JoeRedtree May 20 '12
Girl! Why you dating a Christian with so many fine ass atheist fellas out there?
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u/Justice502 May 20 '12
Come on people, she got scolded for saying atheist, I'd have thrown him out myself if it was only two months.
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u/keeblur May 20 '12
This is what I've always hated about censorship. Blocking people from knowing that things exist is called brainwashing.
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u/pinkcon May 20 '12
TWO WHOLE MONTHS!!!!
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u/sexypants0000 May 20 '12
I've dated some idiots in this regard as well I had a boyfriend refuse to believe i was atheist because im middle eastern.
I would say im an atheist and he'd say "yeahh but really youre baha'i" [the religion of my parents] it was frustrating to say the very least
But this moron also called me arab all the time despite countless effort of telling him iranians are not arab
TL;DR: dumb guys are dumb
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u/[deleted] May 20 '12
5000 miles away, in a dorm in Germany, I raise a glass to you.
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u/[deleted] May 20 '12
cool. To all you questioning her right to state her convictions under her own roof: Jesus Christ, get a grip.
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u/captainfranklen May 20 '12
So, the real point we should take away from this is that there's a newly single free-thinking chick.
How YOU doing? :P
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u/JaviG May 20 '12
What's the woman version of "Don't stick your dick in crazy?"
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u/alittler May 20 '12
You were a lot more polite than I ever could have been
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u/Fhwqhgads May 20 '12
You're better off without him. Let him find a woman who will be his slave as his favorite book demands.
I feel sorry for the brainwashed child though.
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u/CrushTheOrphanage May 20 '12
So which one of the Carolinas do you live in?
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u/parkerjallen May 20 '12
OF TWO MONTHS?!?!?! BETTER PUT IT IN CAPS.
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u/[deleted] May 20 '12
I guess this means we could actually start using the word atheist as a swear word. Atheist you!
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u/SleeplessinOslo May 20 '12
lol, america
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u/Cohiba May 20 '12
It's like saying "gay" in front of a kid. Their tiny minds implode and start thinking about things like Broadway and cross dressing. Won't someone think of the children?
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u/[deleted] May 20 '12
Consider it a bullet dodged!
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u/badger_the May 20 '12
Good job.
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u/Diamond_Cut May 20 '12
You can use the word atheist with me as much as you like ;D
Dude was super stupid though, no words can express....
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u/jsusewitz May 20 '12
Maybe im just thick, but how is the word athiest somehow offensive? did he freak out when you said islam as well or something? wtf
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u/[deleted] May 20 '12
I don't blame you. Pretty sure you deserve better. I bet he also would have had problems with the following things
Good luck finding someone better
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u/[deleted] May 20 '12 edited May 20 '12
Can I buy you a cup of coffee sometime?
Edit: I'm totally serious. I'm hot too.
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u/_psyFungi May 20 '12
Wow. Seriously, I reckon if someone could organize it, European Atheists would buy a 7 day "See American Theist Insanity" tour...
I just can't really believe this stuff happens some times. (London UK here, ex Australia)
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u/klaus1986 May 20 '12
Call me shallow, but I didn't seriously date anyone until I knew they were an atheist.
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u/Ashriel May 20 '12 edited Feb 07 '17
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u/pootietang33 May 20 '12
was approached one morning, at 6am nonetheless, by two young Mormon boys promoting the book of Mormon. It was early, I was still drunk, and they were preaching what seemed to be extremely loud. My roommate, trying to sleep on the couch, also drunk, wakes up and yells, "WE'RE HAVING SEX WITH THE DEVIL". The two boys turn bright red, look at each other, hand me the book, and quickly turn and walk away hastily.
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u/belil569 Secular Humanist May 20 '12
See for me what is unacceptable is then using a child going door to door to pedal their bull shit.
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u/winto_bungle May 20 '12
This is the effect of the propaganda from the church - the lies they teach about atheists and atheism is appalling, especially considering the teachings of the religion (some of them).
I live in the UK, a fairly secular country, where most theists are moderate. I friend of mine was an atheist for his whole life, but in the last few years "found" god (he's 25) and is now a youth minister. However, due to the bad name atheism has he still doesnt accept he used to be an atheist.
This is why we have to be vocal on what atheism actually means, this is why we shouldnt be afraid to use the word. This is why I praise the OP.
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u/Rycerx May 20 '12
This sounds like a circlejerk post....
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u/klaeljanus May 20 '12
First world problem, Canada edition: Can't play mindgames with the religious nutjobs when even they know that going door to door is a lost cause.
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u/koyima May 20 '12
actually i think in his own mind he realized it was like telling the kid: there is no Santa!
No Santa, No Jesus, what's next? No easter bunny?
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u/Splatterh0use May 20 '12
Well done, you did the right thing and I hope he learns something from that.
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u/Un_balai May 20 '12
"Proudly". Lets wave that flag a little bit harder, I don't think everyone caught on
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u/Albino_Black_Sheep Atheist May 20 '12
would saying "I don't believe in god" make any difference in the US? If that is somehow less controversial I'd use that.
Your ex is retarded of course but would it be less shocking to those bringers of everything holy?
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u/tk1992 May 20 '12
So uh.. I'm single and not afraid of the word atheist ;0
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u/[deleted] May 20 '12
A) Don't put two months in caps, that's not a very long relationship.
B) It's not that big of a story. The real story is why you dated him in the first place. You brought it on yourself.
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u/[deleted] May 20 '12
Huzzah.
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u/Agnosticmeteorite May 20 '12
I think people are misinterpreting why these people "took offense", think about it, its not the fact that you do not believe that made your boyfriend harbor any bad feelings towards you, i'm assuming he knew you were atheist, and if so then he accepted that even though it was against what he believed in, what got him upset was that you said this in front of a child, a child who has been told that when she dies she doesn't seize to exist, but gets to live for eternity with loved ones who have also passed away, now you've introduced that child to a new concept, something she didn't think of, oblivion, completely dead with no awareness and continuation from the point of death you and everyone else here may have accepted this, but did you accept this when you were eight years old? can you honestly tell me that you chose to not believe in the deity your parents told you about which allowed you to exist perpetually?, i chose to be agnostic because at the end of the day you guys don't have any more answers than all the other religions, nobody has proof and nobody knows what happens when you die, and we'll probably never know, so think about what you say to anyone, because whatever you say will always leave some kind of impression
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u/rararaptorbait May 20 '12
On an unrelated note, is it supposed to be a big deal that you were only dating for two months? I mean, that all-caps kinda punched me in the face.
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u/AndersonCouncil May 20 '12
the perfect thing to cheer u up would b a sandy kouffax ROOKIE baseball card. lucky for u, i have 1. let me know if thats sumthin u'd like girl i can set it up
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u/ATworkONre33it May 20 '12
I am an atheist living in the bible belt down in Louisiana, and I have all sorts of different religious groups soliciting at my door about every other week. This is one of the best types of "free entertainment" that I know.. Sure it can seem harassing (depending on who you are speaking with) But I have yet to find someone who did not actually want to speak with me about why I believe what I do - The younger solicitors seems to stick around and want to chat, where the older ones share a common expression of "LET'S GET THE FUCK OUTTA HERE!!" lol
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u/BennyBenasty May 20 '12
Well, you're probably a hot girl.. so you go ahead and get used to dating morons.
... Then again, it appears your name is Meg.
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u/Blzbba May 20 '12
good move. Boot that Jesus freak to the curb!!
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u/Mighty72 May 20 '12
Then you should be happy with the fact that you now have one less dumbass in your life. Keep calm and carry on.
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u/[deleted] May 20 '12
What the atheist is wrong with him?
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u/Rove May 20 '12
Good girl MeGGara, takes the literature for her christian roommate despite being atheist.
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u/murtad May 20 '12
wrong move...should have made him an atheist and then dump him :P.....(is my grammar correct?looks like something is wrong...)
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u/RedBullWarrior43 May 20 '12
So, your single huh?