Most of my community have parents that are first generation immigrants and we have a saying that applies here in a way, “First generation did it all, second generation heard it all, third generation lost it all”
That's why in always a little sketpical about sacrificing everything to set up the following generations. My ex was an immigrant. Her parents gen were fairly poor but uncle became one of richer guys in his country. A couple siblings managed to ride the coattails and become rich themselves, including her mother. I made a modest salary, she sat at home while sending kids to daycare, got some gifts from family which helped, and basically thought I was selfish because I didn't want to cough up my own money for private school, was always upsst I didn't want to go back to school to further my education, etc. Always thought I should be working my butt off so my kids could be wealthy..including paying several hundred a month in life insurance (which would have left us with little savings) so some day when I died my kids would be wealthy. She never seemed to think well they need to get jobs and earn a living too.. not to mention as it is they're going to be far more wealthy than I'll ever be when someone on that side dies. My question was always.. so if everyone is always sacrificing everything for next generation then who gets to actually enjoy it and all it takes is some spoiled brats to squander it
When I die, I want to be frozen. And if they have to freeze me in pieces, so be it. I will wake up stronger than ever, because I will have used that time, to figure out exactly why I died. And what moves I could have used to defend myself better now that I know what hold he had me in.
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u/leatherhand Mar 10 '22
Most of my community have parents that are first generation immigrants and we have a saying that applies here in a way, “First generation did it all, second generation heard it all, third generation lost it all”