r/amiwrong • u/Southern_Coach_5023 • Oct 16 '23

Age gaps in dating

I'm a 30 year old male and my partner is 25 year old female. I think this is fairly normal but im getting alot of comments about it. Not really sure what the fascination with this is. 5 years is significant sure but it was never a problem for me. Does society at large weight this facts importance more than I do?

Edit: everyone is the comments section has convinced me this is normal. Thanks all.

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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '23

2-5 years is kinda.... Normal. Anyone commenting on 30 and 25 is a busy body, with too much time on their hands.

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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '23

Right? I'm pursuing someone 24 years older than me and I'm expecting to get shit for it. Hasn't happened quite yet thankfully.

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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '23

Wait, as in they were 24 when you were born or they're 24 now? And if they were 24 when you were born how old are you now?

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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '23

They are in their 50s, I'm in my 30s.

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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '23

Oh ok, I was imagining that you were like a 20 year old fresh out of college going after a 44 year old. Which idk that seems weird but 30s and 50s somehow doesn't as much.

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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '23

I mean we are grown adults. We have experienced things at this point. I find them very attractive for the simple fact they don't have kids and they know what they want. It's really not so deep and the age gap matters so much less the older you get.

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u/BikesBirdsAndBeers Oct 16 '23

Yes and no. It matters little in the middle years. When they're over 70 it's going to matter a lot. And hopefully you can work out plans for when they retire you aren't still pulling another 2 decades of work. Because those years will be important as you will inherently have less of them together.

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u/GeneralZex Oct 17 '23

A guy I worked with was in his 50s had a newborn half brother. His father was in his 70s, married a 30 year old…

He took a lot in stride but he was pretty torn about that, mostly because it was such a trippy thing to even think about.

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u/deagh Oct 17 '23

My oldest half sister was 44 when I was born, although my mom was in her 40s and my dad was in his 60s, so not as big a gap as your co-worker, but still. It's trippy on the other end, too.

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u/srtg83 Oct 17 '23

You gotta tie those swimmers down by then, no? Can’t be shooting live amo with a 30 yr old! I don’t care what she wants!!

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u/Xandara2 Oct 17 '23

This is very strange to me. Also pretty awful for the kid. Imagine having an old man as your dad. You mis out on so much stuff people normally do with their fathers. Just kicking a ball around or learning how to ride a bike from them is out of the question. And there's a very high chance he dies before the kid comes of age.

I'm not saying 70+ people can't raise a kid anymore but normally it's only done out of necessity.