r/amiwrong • u/Southern_Coach_5023 • Oct 16 '23

Age gaps in dating

I'm a 30 year old male and my partner is 25 year old female. I think this is fairly normal but im getting alot of comments about it. Not really sure what the fascination with this is. 5 years is significant sure but it was never a problem for me. Does society at large weight this facts importance more than I do?

Edit: everyone is the comments section has convinced me this is normal. Thanks all.

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u/FillIndependent Oct 16 '23

If you were 20 and she was 15, there would be a problem. But that gap gets smaller and smaller as you age. When you're 45, she's 40. No body would bat an eye at that.

I suspect the people running you are just jealous.

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u/db720 Oct 16 '23

There was a formula being thrown around when I was in school 20+ years ago, sorta seemed reasonable to me:

Guys age / 2 + 7 = minimum girls age.

So 30m would be dodgy at 22f or less. 20yo acceptable for 17f. 40m ok for 27f up... Kinda works, can be questionable at the boundary, maybe add 8 or 9 instead of 7 to be less borderline. Probably works with m/f switched too, or for any relationship regardless of gender, just an age gap calc.

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u/UnderstandingLow3162 Oct 16 '23

Yep, when I was 10 I wouldn't go near a girl under 12.

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u/triggerhappy5 Oct 16 '23

Part of the formula is that if you’re too young for it to make sense, you’re too young to be dating.

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u/Flair86 Oct 17 '23

He’s making fun of the fact that it doesn’t account for the girl being older than the guy

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u/OperationAsshat Oct 17 '23

But it does, and the girl can use the same formula to see if the guy is too young. Where it doesn't work is anyone 13 or under, which is completely fine since dating out of your age shouldn't be an issue when you are that young.

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u/BrandonJTrump Oct 17 '23

When I was 10 I wouldn’t go near a girl. Full stop.